every little thing.

If you are the kind that flips out over every little thing then it will not work with that person.
They have that before and they don't like it.

on edit: some people Live to Create Drama where none exists. They like to gossip and stir the pot. They need not apply.

It's about me, isn't it. Seriously, I wish you'd just send me a pm or something if you have a problem with something I'm doing. *and now I'm posting to facebook about how passive aggressive you are being by starting this thread.

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^ That.

I don't think of dramafree as necessarily being without baggage, most of us have some. But anything involving addictions, police, exes who are still actively stalking you and thus will become a part of my life, facebook accounts which function as gossip HQ's, would be a drama red flag for me.

Okay. I just thought that maybe what some people call "drama" is just stuff that happens they don't want to deal with.

The drama often is fighting, breaking up, getting back together with great sex, fighting, breaking up again, etc. There are so many emotions involved all the time that you think you have a great love; so much more exciting than a normal relationship. I've been there with a guy with BPD. It gets old very fast and it's about the drama and their self esteem, not love.

I have a best friend going thru this right now; big drama every two weeks. Big fight - one leaves for a few days and then they are in love again for about 2 weeks till the next drama. They have been together 20 yrs, but you would think they just met the way one or the other is always crying about their relationship.

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so I wouldn't know.

To me "no drama" sounded like code for "I don't want to talk about or deal with issues." or something like that.

Most of the people whose profiles say that have other red flags for me that would preclude my even contacting them.

Everyone needs a little comfy boring in their lives.

Classic abandonment/need issues. And they can never own up to their own evil while screaming that everyone is shitting on them.

no plays

Perhaps I am overanalyzing.

Baby mama drama.

Or whatever term applies to your situation. My last significant relationship came with a great deal of baby mama drama (actually ex wife). I now know what the red flags are and will NOT be going through that again.

That being said - putting a disclaimer out there probably means that person has either been on the giving or receiving end of said drama.

or meta.

I hate it.

I am a gay man, gay men come with a certain amount of drama built in. Then there is this whole segment of the gay population who when posting on OkCupid, or Grindr, or whatever... "No drama".

Well guess what boys, life has drama built in everyday. I also feel it is some kind of self-deprication/or internal homophobia and yes even us gays have that.

I call bullshit on the "No Drama" in this quite dramatic post.