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According to a new survey of married couples, more men than women are happy with their sex lives. Specifically, 80 percent of men reported being very happy or happy with their sex lives, as opposed to 61 percent of women. If that's the case, why are many women's magazines so busy telling ladies how to do sex better? When such a high percentage of men are pleased with the bedroom action, is it necessary to teach women how to fuck backwards and upside down between subway cars just to keep their man satisfied?
It goes hand in hand with the lie that women don't want sex often (or athletically) enough for most men. As sure as Trina brags in Frikitonia, "I'm a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets," many women believe that the ideal girlfriend or wife is always up for some xxx-rated between-the-sheets shenanigans. It's not surprising women accept this as gospel. Who hasn't heard the lie that men think about sex every seven seconds? Combine that persistent rumor with the constant confrontation from a multitude of media that aims to make ladies as insecure as possible, and it's not hard to see why men are viewed as sex machines from the fuck factory.
Fortunately for everyone, this isn't reality. In fact, in the same iVillage survey, thirty-nine percent of men report having sex out of obligation at least sometimes. Imagine that! And according to the Kinsey Institute, the men and sex thinking numbers are significantly less terrifying "54% of men think about sex everyday or several times a day, 43% a few times per month or a few times per week, and 4% less than once a month."
Interestingly, in one study, men's fantasies mentioned a partner's sexual desire and pleasure more frequently than did women's fantasies (Zurbriggen & Yost, 2004). For the amount of information that's out there telling women how to appeal to men's horizontal proclivities, it's fascinating that men might be more interested in their partner's desire and pleasure.
http://jezebel.com/5983572/men-are-not-constantly-thinking-about-humping-you?utm_source=deadspin.com&utm_medium=recirculation&utm_campaign=recirculation
For the record, the author of this piece does *not* speak for me...
rug
(82,333 posts)ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)I am at my school right now, and as I look around, I can tell they all want me. Sure, they play it off real cool, pretending to eat and study, but I know what they really want. Me!
OriginalGeek
(12,132 posts)so it must be true
ZombieHorde
(29,047 posts)Major Nikon
(36,827 posts)RedCloud
(9,230 posts)zanana1
(6,129 posts)Sex has not been the wonderful thing we were all waiting to experience.
Neoma
(10,039 posts)If I have enough daily contact with other human beings, it doesn't cross my mind.
trouble than it's worth, IMO.
Way overrated as a form of entertainment.
And messy as well.
HERVEPA
(6,107 posts)NewJeffCT
(56,829 posts)I used to think the other way, until I met the right woman, and wow, it was a huge difference.
Major Nikon
(36,827 posts)Just sayin'
liberaltrucker
(9,130 posts)A high class hooker once a month would've been MUCH cheaper.
NewJeffCT
(56,829 posts)I could have "dated" one of those young women from the agency that hooked up Eliot Spitzer a bunch of times.
Bucky
(54,068 posts)Ladies, your man isn't thinking about humping you all the time. He's thinking about humping your cousin part of the time instead. I've never acted on it, but by jinky I sure has had me a thought or three.
yellowcanine
(35,701 posts)Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)between subway cars just to keep their man satisfied? I can't be the only one who convulsed with laughter reading this line!
What's sad is that modern society has taken something that should be as easy and natural as breathing and turned it into a blood sport.
Bucky
(54,068 posts)It's got me intrigued. Also, is you cousin seeing anybody?
Sekhmets Daughter
(7,515 posts)edited to remove 'My cousin?' I found the answer.
datasuspect
(26,591 posts)JVS
(61,935 posts)For example there is no contradiction between being satisfied with one's sex life and frequent daydreaming of fantasies throughout the day. These are not mutually exclusive. just because someone thinks about humping people all day doesn't mean they're unhappy. It sure beats thinking of the Empire carpet jingle all day.
ashling
(25,771 posts)And 3 rooms for the price of one!
That's HOT!
yellowcanine
(35,701 posts)MicaelS
(8,747 posts)Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)She's an editor of a ritzy women's magazine. He's a grungy private plane pilot. He's telling her how silly her mag is, all the articles about how to get your man worked up....He says
You know how a woman gets a man excited? She shows up. That's it. We're guys, we're easy. Of course for that you can't charge seven bucks an issue, now can you?
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)or something incredible like that. Think about that, women, the next time you walk around your office. All those suits walking around, sitting in offices....apparently thinking about sex.