It's a tough place to be, I know.

I know tomorrow I'll feel better and I should just use this as an opportunity, but right now I want to crawl under a rock.

I've been where you are now. I'am sure it will get better give yourself time. Good luck.

I'm trying to look on it as a wake-up call.

Get out and find something more suitable. It will drive you mad otherwise and make yourself sick.

Leaving by choice is always a better option but have something lined up first. Start looking now dont wait.

Good luck!

but sticking with an unfulfilling job is!! You can overcome a bad reference. Get out while it's still your choice.

for you.

I don't want to tell you how to live your life but, during these challenging times, please take care of yourself. Eat well, get enough sleep, exercise and curl up to your favorite snuggle bunny.

I went today for the first time since Saturday but gave up after 15 minutes. And I stress-eat.

Most companies have a policy of just verifying dates of employment nowadays. Too much potential for a lawsuit if they say more, so most won't say anything good or bad. Move on as soon as you can. People make mistakes. Life's too short to let a decision that didn't work out make you miserable one minute longer than necessary.

I've never been called for my employees who've moved on, so maybe they don't always call. Personal references are a different matter.

Although it's legally possible to give a bad reference (as long as you can back it up with an ironclad paperwork trail), alot of places won't take that chance. They'll just verify dates of employment, positions held, salary, etc. It seems like companies that are hiring know this, so they're finding other sources for background on applicants. This can include criminal history, social media, credit reports, and possibly other methods. If you complete and sign an application, you may be giving your consent to allow them to gather this data on you.

If you are really concerned about it, you could include your current employer's name, with a notation requesting that they not be contacted unless a job offer is forthcoming. They may or may not agree to it, but it's worth a shot.

As an aside, you should also clean up any social accounts like facebook, twitter, etc. that you may have. It's amazing the negative stuff people will put online - if I'm considering hiring you, and I see on your facebook that you are out getting wasted 3-4 nights a week, you are probably not going any further in the process. It may seem unfair, but that's how things are these days.

Good luck.

So I just keep it locked down so no one but my friends can see it. Or I hope so anyway.

I do some hiring, but I don't plan on Googling anyone or checking their Facebook. Ever. Unless my boss makes me. I think it's wrong and a violation of privacy.

Hang in there and try to give yourself grace.

I was in a state similar to yours when I changed jobs just a little over a year ago. Took me a while to adjust to my job.

What helped me immeasurably was being able to talk to trusted friends about things that were bugging me, and get their input.

I don't know what you do but if it involves doing new things alot I think you should work on a method.

Don't let them get you down, let this motivate you and plan your move out of there on your terms if that's what you want.

At this point, I'd just like to improve enough to avoid the "less than good" rating which triggers a performance improvement plan and other nonsense. I have a couple of months yet.

I feel like I need to at least get to a place where I can consider myself a modest success at this job, where I'd be moving on on my terms, not because I had no choice, and feel like I've accomplished something.

I'm not understanding why you believe you have to persist... until you are fired?

FWIW, I don't think they'll give you a bad reference - virtually every employer now simply confirms employment dates or they face a fat lawsuit anymore. If its because you think you need a "full year" on your resume, I'm not so sure you'll make it if you are this miserable. It will be far worse if you're fired.

Be upfront in interviews - that you moved to the area and made a mistake and now you want to move back...

I don't want to go back to what I did before. This was what I thought I wanted and I might have been okay at it, and I might still be, but for some personal adversity that has definitely affected my performance.

Your posts sound like you're miserable. I know you've said before you don't like the area at all which is why I thought that maybe moving BACK to somewhere you like where some friends are located might help.

Please take care of yourself. I hope you find a way out of this soon.

I really don't have any ties anywhere.

I broke up with someone months ago, though we are on speaking terms now.

Good luck.

http://www.jobhuntersbible.com/

read it and do what it says. It will help you.

Go into the boss' office and beat yourself up.

where did you move from and to, if I may ask?

.... most companies will not divulge ANY information regarding job performance per se. Most are allowed to answer these questions only:

1) dates employment began and ended
2) salary(sometimes)
3) eligible for rehire

Obviously if the "eligible for rehire" is no then that raises some questions. But only a rogue employee looking to lose his own job would offer an opinion on job performance, many companies have had their asses sued off over than one so most have a policy of not commenting.

Just a checklist whether something, like teamwork, was above or below average. No open-ended questions, though.