Yes, I've dropped a long time acquaintance who I mistakenly thought was a friend.

The argument was over Trayvon, she called him "n" word and said he was probably being "mouthy". That is when I went ballistic and called her expletive deleted

Due to their increasing stubborn ignorance, and how bigoted they are becoming in their ignorance. The only way there is no big blow-ups is if I just bite my tongue and just bottle up all my anger. I can't stand it anymore.

They've also moved politically to the right. All that holds us is the common interests/hobbies that actually made us friends in the first place decades ago. Outside of that, they're tough to be around, especially if they're both around.

but some people just take that for weakness

She turned out to be a tea bagger. I tried to ignore it for a long while, but she kept hating on Obama, and I got tired of her. She was a birther and did not believe he was born in Hawaii.

among my ex friends, and avoided family members. It is a lost cause trying to explain obvious truth to a teabagger

Yes I dropped a lifelong friend when she abandoned her children for drugs.

either way you go.Drugs are evil . They can change a person almost over night.

I just do not have time for someone as high maintenance as her. Narcissistic,condescending and arrogant are things I can do without

I dropped a friend from elementary school as an adult because after 20 years I couldn't deal with his bullshitting anymore. He wasn't a malicious liar, more like Billy Liar...but it was unbearable. "

Hey Nick, we all went to the bar on Friday, you should have come, it was great."

"I couldn't, Chan. I was on a safari in Tanzania from Friday evening after-work to Sunday morning. I ended up going straight from the airport to 10am mass. I bagged me a lion so it's all good.

I got dropped because I was legally-indisposed (I got police-detained and held 24 hours for something where I was actually the victim but that's a different story) and missed his wedding; an act his bride ascribed to the fact that I don't like her. Actually, I am completely indifferent to her existence. She's a nice woman and I literally forced him to not break-up with her, he wanted to to break off their engagement because he's a workaholic and claimed she was taking away from his work-time. I just have nothing in common with this woman, we literally share no common interests at-all. She's like my exact opposite. He's happy, I'm okay with it. I was convinced that one day he was finally going to decide to finally have a life around age-50 and the next week we'd find him dead six-days on the office floor of a massive stress-induced heart-attack.

she will have a heart attack or a stroke. She seeks happiness everywhere but where it can be found.

that happiness comes from inside .You only push it away when you chase it.

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She had called me the day after Obama floundered in his debate to lord it over me, but I didn't take the bait. I've always been more liberal and openminded than her.

I dropped her because we were having a conversation that had included a discussion about one of my kids. I was mid-sentence saying something about my child when she hung up on me. It wasn't a dropped call. It was a hangup. I was offended.

She called and texted me a few weeks later. I told her via text that my MIL was staying with us and I couldn't discuss anything until after she left. She called the following day and left a message insisting on working something out. No apology.

During that break, a flood of memories of her judgmental shit washed over me, all of these occasions of her telling me what to do about family, etc. her insensitive remarks, etc. I realized that I have nothing left to talk to her about if my kids are off limits. Since then, it's been, "good riddance".

But at least I didn't have anything stolen from me.

revealed some peoples true nature, and I must say some of it shocked and surprised me!

Although it sounds like it's a good thing you've done, very positive for your life, it still can't feel good.

How did she steal a bottle of wine?

I bought it while At her house and when I went to get it, it was gone . She didn't seem to know how it suddenly disappeared. I didn't press it to hard, I just wanted OUT of there as quickly, and with as little drama as possible.

A Dr friend called her"eccentric" I think he really meant crazy but was to polite to say so.

a few.
and, as i learned to assert myself with bullies, they dropped me.
i can forgive but have learned in many hard ways to not forget. the story of the turtle & the scorpion comes to mind. most mean spirited persons are just that - mean spirited and i make a point of not making room for them in my life.

It is best to get them out of your life, because they never change.

He was the best man at my wedding, 30 years ago.

He has become loudly angry, belligerent, verbally abusive to me and a mutual friend.

I love the man more than any family I have, but the last time I saw him it became so contentious, I wanted to drag him into the street and kick the holy shit out of him.

Best I bow out and let him live his life.......

until I finally understood that I was a prop to her ego. Who needs that?

our discussion -

or, weather he wanted to continue the fucking lecture series........

There comes a time when you get tired of being treated like a door mat. Good riddance to bad rubbish is all I can say

I have other friends who actually like me LOL

People don't seem to understand that friends are not lifestyle accessories.

and those are the ones that really hurt!

It's happened to me on several occasions. And it was painful every time.

but I plan on hanging out here more , I have really missed this cool place

acute crisis, some mitigating circumstance, then you probably did the right thing in severing ties with her. If she's going through some kind of trauma and is open to talking about it, maybe you'll want to consider the relationship in its totality. I've had periods when I wasn't at my best (though I was never nasty to a friend) and I've found it's a rare friend who sees the good in someone through the bad times.

If she's as toxic as she sounds, then I'd steer clear of her and unleash myself from that bad vibe. I don't let negative people enter my space if I don't have to. Good luck, sweetie. Try not to worry about it too much. It will work out as it should.

I have known this woman for 35 years(at least) and stood by her, when nobody else would, through two surgery's, broken relationships and more .I am finished and it feels good!

he just kept crossing the line and after two years worth of repeated warnings about getting personal and insulting over political matters, i had to de-friend him....after i called him a infowarsteabagger tool and a facist....ask me if i feel bad about burning that bridge! i do feel bad because we had some life altering times together, but the attacks were just too much, and frankly i was sick of trying to be nice about it.....sometimes you just have tom cut them loose.

and those times are why I hung around for so long

from my ship in Vietnam. The rest of them had been in contact for awhile, and at first they welcomed me and we traded some reminiscences. Then the wingnuttiness started and soon that's all there was. Apparently this was their main topic before I or any newbie arrived and they resumed after taking the welcome-break. As we got into '04, the intensity of the attacks on FELLOW VET Kerry became intolerable. So I told them off and Deleted.

But this topic is broader than just politics. Everybody's got to reach a point in their life to be able to identify who HELPS and SUPPORTS in positivity and who drags you down and back and CUT the latter LOOSE. This is an act of positivity for all concerned, letting everybody involved continue their own journey.

....of how it denigrated over the past two years....I keep a wide circle of friends to keep me thinking outside the box, but as you said, there comes a time.....

You will go through several sets of friends during life, just the way it is....

I am beginning to understand why some people prefer the company of books and cats, and I have an abundance of both

on receiving end of a bully.

Like and respect yourself.

I cut ties with my siblings after being executor/trustee of our parent's estate/trust back in the 90s.

Never thought family could get that ugly.

The person had become abusive, manipulative, toxic, and was a champion of emotional blackmail. I drew clear boundaries with this person in an attempt to try to preserve some type of amicable relationship, and they violated those boundaries repeatedly.

I don't care if we've been "friends" since 1981; I do not need that shit in my life. Boundaries are established for a reason -- once it is clear that they won't even attempt to respect them, WHOOSH, EJECTION SEAT OUT OF MY LIFE.

Crappy treatment, condescending attitude, whiny manipulation, and on top of it, they turned into a bigoted conservative jerkoff sometime during Bush's second term. The fucker spouts Rush Limbaugh as if it were gospel.



(Sorry about your butterfly.)

patience is a virtue that seems to have become lost to politics and a trend in intolerance.