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it turns out they are a wingnut.
i think after a few days of me on her feed she will at least figure it out. hope i can manage not to get into to many ugly arguments on her feed. i hate when i get sucked into that stuff.
should i just defriend her and put her out of her misery? (or is it my misery?)
kentauros
(29,414 posts)Maybe post a little bit on her page before you do so, just so she knows it's her and not you.
This is why I don't use my real name on FB. I don't want them finding me!
Hong Kong Cavalier
(4,573 posts)Especially after they rant in ALL CAPS at their sister because she "liked" a page that promoted same-sex couples and adoption of children.
After I thrashed him good, his wife came on and said "I can't believe the HATE that Hong Kong Cavalier spewed forth!"
She, of course, totally ignored that her husband said in one sentence...again, in ALL CAPS (she said he didn't know the Caps Lock was on) that they have gay friends and don't hesitate to tell them they're evil and wrong and will burn in hell and are perverts and don't deserve marriage equality. (I would imagine they don't really have any gay friends anymore)
So I dropped them. Even dumped a few blood relatives, too, for similar comments.
This was my best friend in Jr. High and High School, too. But he went full-on wingnut and I don't have to see that kind of idiotic bigotry on my page.
mopinko
(70,127 posts)yeah, john kerry got shot 3 times and never bled was pretty much the last thing i heard my big sister say.
Wait Wut
(8,492 posts)I've done it to a few people. I like them enough to keep them as friends, I just don't need to hear their factless whining.
she is a childhood friend that i have had a bit of contact with in the last few years. she just started facebooking, which seems like a real wild card.
i am thinking i will see what kind of interaction goes on with some other, mutual friends.
Arugula Latte
(50,566 posts)It's good for people in the Fox News bubble to realize that people they know and like don't buy that propaganda and that there is a whole different viewpoint out there.
hamsterjill
(15,222 posts)I choose to go to my "friends" pages and catch up. Or...sometimes I choose not to even look.
I've had one childhood acquaintance unfriend me over our differences in political opinion. I thought that was stupid and childish on his part. Then I realized that I'd lived 40 years without him in my life, so I doubt I'll miss him from this point forward.
elleng
(130,974 posts)and when I saw one of the classmates at reunion last year, I totally ignored her foolishness and embraced her. (She had organized the reunion, and was surely due 'thanks' for that!)
Jenoch
(7,720 posts)i'm hooked.
i'm also expected to keep up the farm page, so they neighbors stay informed.
davidpdx
(22,000 posts)Actually he was a gunhumper. After a couple of rounds I said f-it and unfriended him.
Baitball Blogger
(46,736 posts)I say keep her on until she begins directing things to you, personally.
mopinko
(70,127 posts)i made a comment that got a couple likes, so maybe she has friends on both sides.
hard core catholic, tho.
i recovered.
legcramp
(288 posts)You really don't need to keep up your DU cred there. Ignore the crap you don't like and try to be a bit civilized.
It won't kill ya, and maybe you can just catch up on old times.
I wonder how some people get through the day with all the trivial little outrages.
azurnoir
(45,850 posts)it's invisible like DU ignore
mulsh
(2,959 posts)the majority of my fb friends are people we both grew up with. I've found that his insane teabagger posts have been very enlightening to many of our friends. The more people spew more people have bad reactions. It works with teabaggers like my friend but it also works with "dirt worshiping tree huggers"* like myself. Among my friends the teabaggers are definitely a scary minority.
* that's my description of my political believes in my fb profile.
IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)She is a Chik-fil-A supporter, which was bad, but when I found out her husband was involved with conversion therapy (!) we were done.
Another old college friend "de-friended" me before I could "de-friend" him over Trayvon Martin when he decided I was a racist. (He believes Trayvon deserved it / was a criminal, etc. and things got ugly from there.) He is also a raving Libertarian, and later I got to smack him down on another friend's thread - "now that you have been proven to be spreading misinformation, I'm sure you will go fix that, right? (crickets)" and I must say I took a near unholy glee with it.
I'm bad-ass. Don't piss me off.
mopinko
(70,127 posts)imma hang the best i can and see if i can hook up with some other hometown peeps. and see which hometown peeps i DON'T want to hook up with.
frogmarch
(12,154 posts)visit her wall whenever you want to, on your own. You could comment and/or Like the posts of hers that interest you and scroll by the rest.
That's what I do.
GoCubsGo
(32,086 posts)The only wingnut among my "friends" is my idiot brother. I have others on the FB version of "ignore" for other reasons, such as incessant sharing of idiotic or otherwise inane shit that I don't care about.
OmahaBlueDog
(10,000 posts)Roll over your friends name (don't click)
Roll over where it says "friends"
You should get a popup menu
Uncheck "Show in News Feed"
Now you can still look in on them from time to time without hearing their rants.
I have many wingnut friends and relatives.