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mopinko

(70,127 posts)
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:04 PM Oct 2013

what to do when you fb friend a childhood friend and

it turns out they are a wingnut.
i think after a few days of me on her feed she will at least figure it out. hope i can manage not to get into to many ugly arguments on her feed. i hate when i get sucked into that stuff.
should i just defriend her and put her out of her misery? (or is it my misery?)

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what to do when you fb friend a childhood friend and (Original Post) mopinko Oct 2013 OP
If she's bothering you, then defriend her. kentauros Oct 2013 #1
Defriend them. Hong Kong Cavalier Oct 2013 #2
oh, i already dropped the relatives mopinko Oct 2013 #4
You can hide her posts without unfriending. Wait Wut Oct 2013 #3
yeah mopinko Oct 2013 #5
If possible, continue to post your point of view and don't get sucked into her stuff. Arugula Latte Oct 2013 #6
I hide almost all of the posts on my newsfeed hamsterjill Oct 2013 #7
I tend to ignore high school classmate wingnuts' ugly and stupid fb posts, elleng Oct 2013 #8
I think the best solution is to drop Facebook entirely. Jenoch Oct 2013 #9
meh mopinko Oct 2013 #10
That's happened to me davidpdx Oct 2013 #11
Tough call. Baitball Blogger Oct 2013 #12
that sounds about right mopinko Oct 2013 #13
Facebook is not DU. legcramp Oct 2013 #14
Just block them azurnoir Oct 2013 #15
that's happened to me with my oldest friend, I leave his posts up for all to see. mulsh Oct 2013 #16
I had one college friend I de-friended over gay rights. IdaBriggs Oct 2013 #17
yeah, if it get to that level, good bye mopinko Oct 2013 #18
You could hide her posts from your news feed and frogmarch Oct 2013 #19
That's how I do it, too. GoCubsGo Oct 2013 #20
Unfollow (as opposed to unfriending) OmahaBlueDog Oct 2013 #21

kentauros

(29,414 posts)
1. If she's bothering you, then defriend her.
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:09 PM
Oct 2013

Maybe post a little bit on her page before you do so, just so she knows it's her and not you.

This is why I don't use my real name on FB. I don't want them finding me!

Hong Kong Cavalier

(4,573 posts)
2. Defriend them.
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:12 PM
Oct 2013

Especially after they rant in ALL CAPS at their sister because she "liked" a page that promoted same-sex couples and adoption of children.

After I thrashed him good, his wife came on and said "I can't believe the HATE that Hong Kong Cavalier spewed forth!"
She, of course, totally ignored that her husband said in one sentence...again, in ALL CAPS (she said he didn't know the Caps Lock was on) that they have gay friends and don't hesitate to tell them they're evil and wrong and will burn in hell and are perverts and don't deserve marriage equality. (I would imagine they don't really have any gay friends anymore)

So I dropped them. Even dumped a few blood relatives, too, for similar comments.

This was my best friend in Jr. High and High School, too. But he went full-on wingnut and I don't have to see that kind of idiotic bigotry on my page.

mopinko

(70,127 posts)
4. oh, i already dropped the relatives
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:17 PM
Oct 2013

yeah, john kerry got shot 3 times and never bled was pretty much the last thing i heard my big sister say.

Wait Wut

(8,492 posts)
3. You can hide her posts without unfriending.
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:15 PM
Oct 2013

I've done it to a few people. I like them enough to keep them as friends, I just don't need to hear their factless whining.

mopinko

(70,127 posts)
5. yeah
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:19 PM
Oct 2013

she is a childhood friend that i have had a bit of contact with in the last few years. she just started facebooking, which seems like a real wild card.
i am thinking i will see what kind of interaction goes on with some other, mutual friends.

 

Arugula Latte

(50,566 posts)
6. If possible, continue to post your point of view and don't get sucked into her stuff.
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:40 PM
Oct 2013

It's good for people in the Fox News bubble to realize that people they know and like don't buy that propaganda and that there is a whole different viewpoint out there.

hamsterjill

(15,222 posts)
7. I hide almost all of the posts on my newsfeed
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:51 PM
Oct 2013

I choose to go to my "friends" pages and catch up. Or...sometimes I choose not to even look.

I've had one childhood acquaintance unfriend me over our differences in political opinion. I thought that was stupid and childish on his part. Then I realized that I'd lived 40 years without him in my life, so I doubt I'll miss him from this point forward.

elleng

(130,974 posts)
8. I tend to ignore high school classmate wingnuts' ugly and stupid fb posts,
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 12:53 PM
Oct 2013

and when I saw one of the classmates at reunion last year, I totally ignored her foolishness and embraced her. (She had organized the reunion, and was surely due 'thanks' for that!)

davidpdx

(22,000 posts)
11. That's happened to me
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 04:23 PM
Oct 2013

Actually he was a gunhumper. After a couple of rounds I said f-it and unfriended him.

mopinko

(70,127 posts)
13. that sounds about right
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 06:11 PM
Oct 2013

i made a comment that got a couple likes, so maybe she has friends on both sides.
hard core catholic, tho.
i recovered.

 

legcramp

(288 posts)
14. Facebook is not DU.
Tue Oct 22, 2013, 11:22 PM
Oct 2013

You really don't need to keep up your DU cred there. Ignore the crap you don't like and try to be a bit civilized.

It won't kill ya, and maybe you can just catch up on old times.

I wonder how some people get through the day with all the trivial little outrages.

mulsh

(2,959 posts)
16. that's happened to me with my oldest friend, I leave his posts up for all to see.
Wed Oct 23, 2013, 09:31 AM
Oct 2013

the majority of my fb friends are people we both grew up with. I've found that his insane teabagger posts have been very enlightening to many of our friends. The more people spew more people have bad reactions. It works with teabaggers like my friend but it also works with "dirt worshiping tree huggers"* like myself. Among my friends the teabaggers are definitely a scary minority.


* that's my description of my political believes in my fb profile.

 

IdaBriggs

(10,559 posts)
17. I had one college friend I de-friended over gay rights.
Wed Oct 23, 2013, 11:06 AM
Oct 2013

She is a Chik-fil-A supporter, which was bad, but when I found out her husband was involved with conversion therapy (!) we were done.

Another old college friend "de-friended" me before I could "de-friend" him over Trayvon Martin when he decided I was a racist. (He believes Trayvon deserved it / was a criminal, etc. and things got ugly from there.) He is also a raving Libertarian, and later I got to smack him down on another friend's thread - "now that you have been proven to be spreading misinformation, I'm sure you will go fix that, right? (crickets)" and I must say I took a near unholy glee with it.

I'm bad-ass. Don't piss me off.

mopinko

(70,127 posts)
18. yeah, if it get to that level, good bye
Wed Oct 23, 2013, 11:37 AM
Oct 2013

imma hang the best i can and see if i can hook up with some other hometown peeps. and see which hometown peeps i DON'T want to hook up with.

frogmarch

(12,154 posts)
19. You could hide her posts from your news feed and
Wed Oct 23, 2013, 11:44 AM
Oct 2013

visit her wall whenever you want to, on your own. You could comment and/or Like the posts of hers that interest you and scroll by the rest.

That's what I do.

GoCubsGo

(32,086 posts)
20. That's how I do it, too.
Wed Oct 23, 2013, 12:58 PM
Oct 2013

The only wingnut among my "friends" is my idiot brother. I have others on the FB version of "ignore" for other reasons, such as incessant sharing of idiotic or otherwise inane shit that I don't care about.

OmahaBlueDog

(10,000 posts)
21. Unfollow (as opposed to unfriending)
Wed Oct 23, 2013, 11:11 PM
Oct 2013

Roll over your friends name (don't click)

Roll over where it says "friends"

You should get a popup menu

Uncheck "Show in News Feed"

Now you can still look in on them from time to time without hearing their rants.

I have many wingnut friends and relatives.

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