I don't have any idea how to handle it either.

Did you have any idea of his drug use history?

I hope someone will come along with some good ideas on how to proceed.

Good luck.

Cocaine possession--two counts in the past, are on his record. He's obviously got a problem and fell off of the wagon. I can understand and even forgive that. But him knocking the hell out of me? No. AND, the worst of it, telling me he's coming back with a gun and killing me and my family, oh HELL NO. He's got to go. Obviously, he's violent when he's partaking. And I'm not about to start babysitting someone to keep them off of drugs.

is your arrangement more of a rent agreement or an employment situation? it might matter if you have to evict him or if you can just get an order of protection (or similar) and then they either escort him to retrieve his property or may have some other options.

of course if he is poor, (and/or non white) and caught with cocaine he may be gone for a long while

He's a black male, in his 50's. And we are in a different state than the one he lives in. As I said, we are here visiting my daughter, from another state. He has two felony convictions on his record, for cocaine possession, and I'm not about to bail him out, or help him in any way. I am now officially terrified of him.

I met him a couple of years ago, when he came by my home to ask for work, ie., yard work, etc. I gave him some work and paid him for it. He did a great job, and I found out he was living in a piece of crap little airstream with no running water, stove, air conditioning, etc., so I offered him a place to live on my property. He doesn't pay any rent, just makes himself useful mowing the lawn, or doing odd jobs here and there. He gets social security. Everything is in my name and I pay all the bills for his house and for mine.

daughter might want to get an order of protection as well.

Of course, he'll probably still be getting social security while he's in jail. So that will mount up. He might be able to buy a bus ticket back on his own. That is, if he doesn't go down for a few years on the possession charge. This is his third offense, but I think he had less than 4 grams, which in this state, counts only as a Class Six felony and isn't subject to the repeat offender laws that would triple his time. I think the penalty is eighteen months to four years here.

...about how to manage this there?

While you are visiting your daughter, and because it's where this happened, you could get a restraining order easily, I would wager, and some supervision if he comes around.

But if you find out that he has been released, you might want to also get someone to watch your property at home in case he heads back there while you are still away

I don't think a restraining order really does much good. I hate guns, but I might have to get one. If he comes on my property, I have no compunctions about putting a bullet or two in him. This is really scary, to think that he can get a gun and come back to kill us.

My daughter lives with a couple of really big guys, and really protective pit bulls. She has a small child, though, and is expecting another baby soon, so she doesn't want a gun in her house, and I don't blame her.

It's just someone who has messed up their life, and is bringing that misery on others. It's a sad state of affairs. We really need to end the war on pot and start using some of the taxes that are levied on it, to pay for treatment for people who are hooked on other drugs. Society would be much the better for it. I don't think anyone chooses to be hooked on drugs, but they get caught up.

Because I have a case number from the police department, if you are. Not that I'd publish it here, but I'd give it to you in a pm. Plus, I have no reason to lie. And I am very upset about this. I have lost a friend.

Tell him you've paid the first month's rent, taken out an order of protection etc etc.

Don't let him back on the property whatever you do.

Add anything else and re-post.

Seriously. Her situation is far beyond internet squabbles.

Thank you.