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DebJ

(7,699 posts)
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 08:16 PM Feb 2014

Someone in pain is much in need of prayers and good vibes.

A good-hearted young woman (35 years old) I know just lost her Mom a few hours ago.
In the past 15 months, this poor child has lost: a best friend to brain cancer; then her father a few months
later to early-onset Alzheimers (in his 50s); then a good friend in a car accident; then she had
a miscarriage; then her grandmother died; the next day she had to have her St. Bernard of
12 years put down, and now, just a few weeks later, her mother has died.

Over all this time, she was having an off-again on-again serious relationship with my son,
who has bipolar. He was always the one breaking up with her; he broke up with her for
good on Christmas Day, of all times. She, too, is in need of mental health help, but hasn't been able to get
insurance after she lost it last year, so she has been without counselling and without meds
through much of this. She was always very good to my son, beyond all reason; but trying to maintain
a relationship with two people who aren't stable is very painful....and so is the alternative loneliness.
My son just had his worst year ever with severe mania and severe depression. But she is like a daughter
to me, although we live states apart.

This just breaks my heart. She is the type of person who is always helping others, even to her own
detriment.........now she has financial troubles, too, because of all the help she gave to others. (I've
been trying to help her stop that, but she's in soooo deep now.)

Anyway, any good vibes or prayers for this child who has suffered so much with so much good heart.
The world needs more people like her.

Thanks.

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Someone in pain is much in need of prayers and good vibes. (Original Post) DebJ Feb 2014 OP
Good grief. narnian60 Feb 2014 #1
Sending warm, healing vibes to her. intheflow Feb 2014 #2
Prayers for your friend at this saddest of times. WinkyDink Feb 2014 #3
prayers and healing vibes for your young friend. may she find all the help she needs to get through niyad Feb 2014 #4
Thank you for your kindness in telling her story. BrotherIvan Feb 2014 #5
she has mine, poor angel. tell her someonevin alaska is thinking of her roguevalley Feb 2014 #6
Thank you everyone. She so much needs some help. DebJ Feb 2014 #7
here is hoping for some smooth waters for a while rurallib Feb 2014 #8
Oh boy. GoCubsGo Feb 2014 #9
blessings to her LiberalEsto Feb 2014 #10
I am glad you came here to tell us. Some vibes for her and you: freshwest Feb 2014 #11
No one should have to face that much life at once. rug Feb 2014 #12
+ a lot nomorenomore08 Feb 2014 #19
Bless her heart. texanwitch Feb 2014 #13
Good vibes being sent. greatlaurel Feb 2014 #14
Thank you for reminding me that so many people need our prayers - hedgehog Feb 2014 #15
Jeez… MrMickeysMom Feb 2014 #16
i really hope there is someone she can talk to and lean on orleans Feb 2014 #17
I'm sending vibes...and maybe this would help marzipanni Feb 2014 #18

narnian60

(3,510 posts)
1. Good grief.
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 08:24 PM
Feb 2014

Makes me rethink my own problems which don't seem like much compared to this young
woman's. Positive vibes AND a prayer for her.

intheflow

(28,481 posts)
2. Sending warm, healing vibes to her.
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 08:36 PM
Feb 2014

I had a year like that one year, loss after loss after loss. No one deserves that kind of pain. Blessings on you for asking for prayers for her.

niyad

(113,458 posts)
4. prayers and healing vibes for your young friend. may she find all the help she needs to get through
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 08:51 PM
Feb 2014

this. (since friday was the beginning of a new year in lunar astrology, I will pray that this new year is a damned sight better than the last for her--and for all of us)

BrotherIvan

(9,126 posts)
5. Thank you for your kindness in telling her story.
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 08:54 PM
Feb 2014

I will keep her in my thoughts. She is lucky to have someone like you thinking of her and supporting her.

GoCubsGo

(32,086 posts)
9. Oh boy.
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 09:52 PM
Feb 2014

Sending good vibes. I hope they help. My own life is a big pile of suckage, but hers is way worse. Wish I could do more to help her than "send good vibes"...

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
11. I am glad you came here to tell us. Some vibes for her and you:
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 10:31 PM
Feb 2014


Just wish I could do more than these virtual wishes of love.

greatlaurel

(2,004 posts)
14. Good vibes being sent.
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:16 PM
Feb 2014

That poor woman has been through too much. Please let her know she has someone in Ohio wishing her well, too. Each and every person is so special and important in their own way, wish we had better support for people in their time of need. Good luck and best wishes to you all.

hedgehog

(36,286 posts)
15. Thank you for reminding me that so many people need our prayers -
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:17 PM
Feb 2014

sometimes I get stuck in my own troubles. Prayers for your friend!

MrMickeysMom

(20,453 posts)
16. Jeez…
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:19 PM
Feb 2014

That's enough to break anyone's spirit.

STRENGTH… COURAGE… Most of all… LOVE and healing energy. She will pull through.

orleans

(34,061 posts)
17. i really hope there is someone she can talk to and lean on
Sun Feb 2, 2014, 11:21 PM
Feb 2014

you know, someone who is there for her and able to help her cope

these stressors are tremendous.

sending both her and you much love. asking the universe to please help her.

marzipanni

(6,011 posts)
18. I'm sending vibes...and maybe this would help
Mon Feb 3, 2014, 03:46 AM
Feb 2014

Look up hospice-grief counseling in the area where she lives. Grief counseling is often available at no charge, through hospices and other agencies.

http://www.google.com/#q=+grief+counseling+no+charge

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