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dapper

(758 posts)
Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:07 PM Feb 2014

Confused Ex-Girlfriend unhappy with Conservative Husband, Contacts me!

I was contacted recently by an ex-girlfriend of mine. I was kind of shocked, things were great when we dated but when I broke up with her, things got bad fast.

Somewhat shocked that she contacted me, I felt intrigued. A Quick look at her profile showed that she was religious and conservative. I can admit I may have leaned right and was brought up in a religious household but now I lean left and am atheist. So what's up? Suddenly, she has recalled the past and she has never been happier with anyone other than me! dang, just what I wanted to hear but it has been 20 years since we last saw each other. She is married and so am I! but I wanted to listen to what she had to say.

Apparently her Fox News watching husband, who she divorced several years ago due to his drug and alcohol are again having problems. He works side jobs but they got evicted from their apartment due to him not paying the rent for several months. They moved to a new place two months ago and he is already hasn't paid the rent. He doesn't pay any bills, so I inquire just what does he do with his money? It is unknown. So I suggest that the drug or alcohol issue has probably returned, "no" she said, she would know. But she tells me she has had it with him and she is basically reliving her past.

It turns out, she is conservative as well, she believes we should all say the pledge "under god" and if we or the President doesn't believe in the constitution, we should go to Canada, she has hairy Bear arms... I just found it too funny. So I explained I was now atheist and explained that I thought it was funny how people get all caught up in talking points. So suddenly she changed her stance and was not really that religious and was in the other room while her husband, who can't seem to pay the rent, was watching Fox news, lol!

Later in one of our messages, she admits that she's not racist but doesn't think blacks and whites should mix??? I think it's funny when people say "I'm not racist but..." and then put their foot in their mouth. So I explained I did not share that feeling and of course, when I did, she changed her tune as well.

I think she's been brain washed by the Conservative view, should I start bringing up liberal causes? Let her know how happy I am that "Stephanie and Linda" were able to tie the knot? That my friend who works for the Catholic University can finally get birth control coverage for the issue they have been having? That Cherrios really is a cool cereal?

Dapper

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Confused Ex-Girlfriend unhappy with Conservative Husband, Contacts me! (Original Post) dapper Feb 2014 OP
If you feel you aren't getting your fair share of abuse pscot Feb 2014 #1
What does your wife think? Ptah Feb 2014 #2
^^THIS^^n/t irisblue Feb 2014 #6
She rolled her eyes dapper Feb 2014 #7
I'm not about to re-live it. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #9
How would your wife react if she knew the truth? Ptah Feb 2014 #11
I think this might be a good example of why one should screen calls using an answering machine... n/ PoliticAverse Feb 2014 #3
run. . .. .. . . . n/t annabanana Feb 2014 #4
Don't walk away. RUN! trof Feb 2014 #5
Wait wait... Don't misunderstand! dapper Feb 2014 #8
if by funny you mean sad Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #10
Screen all her future calls Sanity Claws Feb 2014 #12
This is like the begining of one of those scary movies where... Walk away Feb 2014 #13
You nailed it. n/t pengillian101 Feb 2014 #14
!!! Kali Feb 2014 #15
Beautiful! pacalo Feb 2014 #16
lol! HappyMe Feb 2014 #19
Oh my... I remember this from the news. Xyzse Feb 2014 #20
I have to ask... pacalo Feb 2014 #17
I assumed he meant this... Iggo Feb 2014 #30
Something here is not right. Why is she living with a husband she divorced? n/t seaglass Feb 2014 #18
It happens when people don't have enough money to move out from each other. Xyzse Feb 2014 #21
Yikes, what a nightmare. Can't imagine a relationship that is so bad that you divorce and then seaglass Feb 2014 #22
When people don't have much freedoms in regards to choice(options), Xyzse Feb 2014 #23
Yeah there is still something wrong with the story, one sentence says she is married seaglass Feb 2014 #24
Oh, I kinda just took it as a short cut. Xyzse Feb 2014 #26
A coworker had to live with her ex for YEARS MissB Feb 2014 #27
Anytime someone starts a sentence with "I'm not <fill in the blank> but......" LynneSin Feb 2014 #25
I'm not a stunningly sexy man with ... dawg Feb 2014 #28
So you ARE a man with haunting hazel eyes, million dollars in the bank account LynneSin Feb 2014 #33
"What we had will always be special to me. Good luck. Don't contact me again." Iggo Feb 2014 #29
My wife and I are very happy PumpkinAle Feb 2014 #31
Even better! Iggo Feb 2014 #32

pscot

(21,024 posts)
1. If you feel you aren't getting your fair share of abuse
Thu Feb 6, 2014, 08:13 PM
Feb 2014

in your current relationship, go for it. She sounds like just what you need.

dapper

(758 posts)
7. She rolled her eyes
Thu Feb 6, 2014, 09:26 PM
Feb 2014

She rolled her eyes.
I have to admit, I left out "ex" and "girl" and described the political aspects as from a "Friend", lol.

The ex's life has always been a soap opera. I'm not about to re-live it.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
9. I'm not about to re-live it.
Thu Feb 6, 2014, 09:39 PM
Feb 2014

sounds like you already are and have definitely already lied to your wife by omission of pertinent facts.

dapper

(758 posts)
8. Wait wait... Don't misunderstand!
Thu Feb 6, 2014, 09:32 PM
Feb 2014

I have no interest in her. Her life was always a soap opera.

running away! it was just too funny of a story not to tell someone!

Walk away

(9,494 posts)
13. This is like the begining of one of those scary movies where...
Thu Feb 6, 2014, 10:44 PM
Feb 2014

Last edited Fri Feb 7, 2014, 11:06 AM - Edit history (1)

some guy who should know better, starts with a little lie about chatting with a crazy woman and then things escalate. Before he knows it she has traveled half way across the country wearing a diaper so she won't have to make pit stops and shows up in his bedroom closet with a chain saw and a dozen rolls of duct tape.

It's been done to death!

Xyzse

(8,217 posts)
21. It happens when people don't have enough money to move out from each other.
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 10:59 AM
Feb 2014

They still divorce, just live at the same place.

Don't ask me, but such train wreck relationships happen.
I had a friend who lived in with her boyfriend, where they merged their finances and got a shared bank account.

Hearing her horror stories, is one of the huge reasons that if I ever get myself hitched, there has to be separate banking, and if there has to be a shared one, it is just something we contribute to.

seaglass

(8,173 posts)
22. Yikes, what a nightmare. Can't imagine a relationship that is so bad that you divorce and then
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 11:21 AM
Feb 2014

still have to live with the person years later. I don't even know how that would work - you couldn't really have expectations of each other and how do you date and/or have intimate relationships. Yuck.

Xyzse

(8,217 posts)
23. When people don't have much freedoms in regards to choice(options),
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 11:24 AM
Feb 2014

They make do with what they have.
My friend was lucky that she was able to move back in with her mother after a while, saving up for a plane ticket.

seaglass

(8,173 posts)
24. Yeah there is still something wrong with the story, one sentence says she is married
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 11:30 AM
Feb 2014

and another says she is divorced so who knows - just thought it was a weird story.

Xyzse

(8,217 posts)
26. Oh, I kinda just took it as a short cut.
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 11:39 AM
Feb 2014

Rather than saying ex husband over and over. Since he was her ex, he can't really say her "ex" over and over.

Then again, I may be reading it incorrectly.

MissB

(15,810 posts)
27. A coworker had to live with her ex for YEARS
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 12:10 PM
Feb 2014

because they couldn't afford to sell their big home in a down market. Made it uncomfy as hell when one of them wanted to start dating.

LynneSin

(95,337 posts)
25. Anytime someone starts a sentence with "I'm not <fill in the blank> but......"
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 11:36 AM
Feb 2014

They are whatever it is that they used to fill in that blank.

And on an edit note:

I don't think you should bring up 'liberal causes'. Honestly I found trying to discuss these issues and convert people that way is nothing more than a major brain drain for all parties involved. Instead I think you should just show how happy you are, how you are enjoying life and overall positivity. When she realizes your outlook in life compared to hers she'll start asking the questions about your 'liberal causes' which in reality is just living life where you don't judge others or use people who aren't like you as the fault as to why your life is miserable. The rest will just fall into place.

dawg

(10,624 posts)
28. I'm not a stunningly sexy man with ...
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 12:35 PM
Feb 2014

haunting hazel eyes, a million dollars in the bank, and the sexual appetites and abilities of a twenty year-old. But I generally agree with what you just said.

LynneSin

(95,337 posts)
33. So you ARE a man with haunting hazel eyes, million dollars in the bank account
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 01:24 PM
Feb 2014

and blah blah blah

Just saying.

PumpkinAle

(1,210 posts)
31. My wife and I are very happy
Fri Feb 7, 2014, 01:17 PM
Feb 2014

liberal thinking people and thank you for your call - sorry things aren't working out for you, but hopefully the future will be better. Good bye and good luck.

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