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nolabear

(41,991 posts)
Mon Oct 6, 2014, 09:51 PM Oct 2014

A really fine lady passed today. My last great aunt.

"Auntie" is what we called her, but in Mississippi it's pronounced "Aintie." She was 97, and until sometime in the last year she lived independently, a widow for many years.

She didn't do great things, but she was the most even tempered, welcoming, easygoing woman I've ever known. She was very smart, a voracious reader. When I was a little kid and lived in what wasn't the easiest or most bedrock household, her house was one I loved to visit. They had a nice little house, and a fine little dog, and things just seemed secure.

My grandmother, who did a good bit of our raising, was one of a bunch of kids, and now all of them are gone. They were characters, the lot of them, ranging from preachers to rounders, with quiet, stable Auntie in the middle.

May she cross easy. I doubt she knew how much she was loved.

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Jenoch

(7,720 posts)
1. Your aunt sounds like a fine lady.
Mon Oct 6, 2014, 10:37 PM
Oct 2014

I wish I had the opportunity to get to know my great aunts. I probably had at least ten of them, but they lived either hundreds or thousands of miles away from where I grew up. Heck, I had a grandmother who I really never knew too well (geography and other reasons).

nolabear

(41,991 posts)
4. My grandparents (paternal) were really my extended family.
Mon Oct 6, 2014, 11:20 PM
Oct 2014

Frankly, my mother's parents were all kinds of mean crazy. We dealt with them as long as she was alive but when she died we all stopped associating with them. He was an only, and most "family" were these great aunts and uncles. They were decent, Mississippi cotton mill folks who left the mills and developed various careers. There were the bar owners (mine and another sister's), the preachers (two of the brothers) and a couple of businessmen, inc. the husband of Auntie. He repaired TVs and actually made a decent living at it.

I know I'm rambling. I'm reminiscing. Thanks for listening.

 

Jenoch

(7,720 posts)
7. I find it ineresting to learn the family stories of fellow DUers.
Tue Oct 7, 2014, 12:45 AM
Oct 2014

My paternal grandmother had five sisters.  The last to die was my grandmother's youngest sister. She died in 2002 at age 94. She was born under the Tsar (as was my grandmother, she emigrated in the early 20s) lived through the Russian Revolution, WWII, and 80+ years under the Soviets. I have no idea how she survived so long. Soviet soldiers (Russians) executed her husband in their front yard just after WWII. My dad's 9 year old cousin and his 7 year old sister dug the grave in their backyard. My aunt died in the same house, she was a widow the rest of her life. 

My dad saw the grave when he visited the old country in the early 90s, just after the break up of the USSR. 

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,693 posts)
2. I am sorry for your loss, my dear nolabear...
Mon Oct 6, 2014, 10:45 PM
Oct 2014

But I'm betting she did know...

It's a good thing you had that refuge when you were growing up.

Safe passage to her...Hugs for you...

nolabear

(41,991 posts)
5. Thanks, Peg. I don't know if it was a refuge but it did give me an idea what "normal" was.
Mon Oct 6, 2014, 11:23 PM
Oct 2014

I sound like I'm engaged in a pity party; I'm not. But the lack of drama was nice.

nolabear

(41,991 posts)
10. Oh, there was no need to edit! I really do appreciate it.
Tue Oct 7, 2014, 10:41 AM
Oct 2014

I'm never offended by a sincere wish for comfort or a blessing. I've never understood why anyone would be. It's your language, and you were very sweet to offer it. No worries at all.

nolabear

(41,991 posts)
11. It's interesting. She was the epitome of just an average, very good person.
Tue Oct 7, 2014, 10:44 AM
Oct 2014

To me that makes her a bit of an icon, a symbol of the beauty of the human being. She didn't climb any mountains, she didn't change the world in a big way, but her constancy and gentleness was deeply reassuring. It's something to aspire to, and everything else is lagniappe.

DFW

(54,436 posts)
13. I know exactly where you're coming from. Light a candle for one who can no longer light her own
Tue Oct 7, 2014, 12:23 PM
Oct 2014

And cherish the memories.

TuxedoKat

(3,818 posts)
14. What a lovely person
Tue Oct 7, 2014, 01:01 PM
Oct 2014

Thanks for sharing your story about her. She sounds like a great aunt of mine who passed a few years ago too. (((HUGS))) and sorry for your loss.

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