a problem with these two. The pet thing is stupid. You own your own condo if you sell the Realtor will tell you to fix any damage prior to showing the place. I can see no pets allowed in common areas but your own abode is owned by you not those two old biddies. You need to start networking there and finding out how others feel.

How many condos are there? I find it hard to believe they are all following the rules? I think there are more pet owners than non-pet owners in the U.S. It's a multi-billion dollar industry here.

That letter your wife wrote, she needs to circulate it to the whole HOA.

spoke with another lawyer.

You'd spoken with one? Are you getting good advice?

we can discuss privately, what issues were addressed, and how, by the first lawyer.

Remember there is strength in numbers.

I do hope you are successful in changing what sounds like randomly enforced rules.

And certainly it is correct that any damage to the unit itself is the condo owner's problem, not the association's.

Restricting use of the common areas by pets would be appropriate, but not restricting the pets themselves.
Restricting noise from pets, yes, but not restricting pets themselves.

Develop a group, so the 'President and Secretary' know they can't kick everyone around.

for every meeting.

they bank on folks not attending meetings

Try for a face to face meeting with the individual who sent you the letter.

I agree with the DUers who have suggested a meeting of like minds.