I actually expected more replies. I often wonder what drives people nuts. Guess others don't.
Oh well

...moaning, ranting, complaining, grousing up a storm !

You cracked me up! Thanks for that

Someone who won't go, even when you're 3inches off their back bumper.









J/k tailgaters suck.

Imagine being on an open two-lane, no-passing road with a 30mph speed limit, and the car in front is going at an inconsistent speed between 20mph and 15mph. Then, when that car is approaching a short green/long red traffic light, it suddenly speeds up and races through the intersection as the light is turning red.

Oh, you mean the OTHER kind of tailgaters.

Yep.

They don't have the skills to realize that they're just really not that smart.


*Dunning and Kruger proposed that, for a given skill, incompetent people will
fail to recognize their own lack of skill;
fail to recognize genuine skill in others;
fail to recognize the extremity of their inadequacy;

It's a sad fact. Although, some are just plain evil

Grow up already.

Or bad drivers. Too many times I've almost been killed, either on a bike or in a car.

Any adults that giggle at human anatomy. I hope I don't anyway.

Drunk drivers are top for me. Was hit walking across the street by a drunk driver. No excuse for getting behind the wheel when drunk. None.

It's depressing, really.

+100, and regardless of new research, I won't get into a car with an intoxicated driver, period. Had that go bad once, never again. No excuse for that.

Oh! I take the other two back. My pet peeve is the people who stop and wait for a bicyclist, holding up traffic in the idiotic notion they're being nice, while meanwhile the cyclist won't move because they can't for some reason (traffic, can't tell if a driver is paying attention, etc.).

So they basically cede their right of way, confuse the heck out of everyone, piss off the cyclist who's now had the flow of traffic interupted and is pressured to cross at unsafe times, and then, without fail, if the cyclist chooses safety, they speed off in a huff, pissed that other people didn't appreciate their idiocy.

I see that happen now and then. It amazes me how so few of the drivers doing that don't get how dangerous that is.

Home to the nicest bunch of complete ***hole terrible drivers there ever was

I have heard Portland has the nicest bunch of people around. Didn't know about the drivers though

When they're not busy doing 50 in the fast lane of a two lane highway man, does 26 get backed up these days.

People in the fast lane going slower than those in the right.

I was with a friend on a snowy night and she was driving in the left hand lane. Someone was riding her, in the snowy/icy/dark night. I am a terrible passenger so I was doing my best to stfu. Then she said "why doesn't he go around? " in a fairly aggravated tone. Now, he sure shouldn't have been tailgating but she wouldn't move. I had to tell her she's the one that should move.

Sigh

Drivers who stop at a red light, decide that's a great time to start texting, then when they see with their peripheral vision that the light turned green, turn right without checking the crosswalk for pedestrians - who just got the walk signal.

he would bark while he farted but we loved him .

That's hilarious!

She farts, then barks at the farts.

I have scented candles.

NO FUCKING HEADLIGHTS ON.
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( regains control of self)

We've been having some historically thick fog this past week in the Central Valley.

Be safe out there

I counted one morning to see what color cars did not have lights on during the fog. 9 out of 10 were either white, grey, or silver Only 1 out of 10 was red -- a color that I could almost see coming at me through the fog.

What is it with people with white, grey and silver cars who think they are magically visible in thick grey fog?!?

Oh wait. I think I know. They have no imagination. So they can't imagine how they look to others. For sure the red cars are interested in being SEEN.

Now, get off my lawn!

Not only that, I am going to rake the leaves!

Well, if you figure out one that drives you nuttier than the rest, please come back and share!

The one that annoys me the most lately is "people that"... It should be "people who"!

Another one I hear often, especially on the local news: "The man, he..." or "The woman, she...". No need for the pronoun in that sentence.

Since I retired, a lot less bothers me than in the past.

"The woman that.." but I will certainly pay more attention going forward.

There are many incorrect variations of pronoun use. The one you named are great examples. I think you just gave me a new pet peeve.

I do have an excuse, I'm Australian.
One thing I do know, having perfect pitch (in music) does not correlate to grammar.

If you are not the parent or guardian of a child, if you are not the teacher of a child, if you are not paying someone for their writing or speaking, or if you don't have permission to edit their work, then as Ann Landers would say, MYOB.

If the grammar of someone's writing or speaking is so garbled that you have no idea what they are trying to say then the best thing to do is to politely ask them to clarify themselves, or to ignore them entirely once it's obvious they are a babbling idiot.

My other pet peeve is people who make assumptions.

I enjoy this writer's weekly column: http://triblive.com/aande/moreaande/7803909-74/forte-myself-college#axzz3SOwUUu3X
He just happened to talk about "that" and '"who" today, which made me more aware of it.

I shouldn't have taken it personally.

back.

If corporations are NOT people, why use the personal relative pronoun "who" for them, rather than the impersonal relative pronouns "that" or "which"?

Also, referring to a child as "it" is a bit bothersome to me.

Past history.

That was hilarious! Thank's for that. Who's is its' I wonder.

English teachers had a party and were blind folded playing Pin the Apostrophe on the Its.

when you encounter someone who has parked their cart on one side of the aisle, and they stand next to it so they're are completely blocking the entire aisle.

You wait a moment, but then you realize this is obviously a difficult decision for them, so you politely say "Excuse me", which catches them completely off guard. The shopper seems surprised that someone would like to pass through the aisle.

That happens so often! And sometimes they act like you should just wait for them to figure out what they want.

Good one!

drive one to racquetball. No awareness of their surroundings. Zilch.

in public. I'm not a kid person

At all? No kids anywhere?

That's hilarious. You must not be a happy person in good weather near a park.

Luckily I'm an introvert and reclusive.

I didn't mean to laugh at something that's a serious issue for you. I'm sorry.

I'm happy with my personality

I wish I were better in social situations. I either talk too much or not enough

To make things worse, he's an idiot who doesn't know how to do anything but considers himself an equal.

People who just won't ever stfu.

Down here, it is almost always retired folks with handicapped tags driving Caddies or vans. Many are snowbirds. Take up the 2 or 3 lanes starting from the left and drive side-by-side for miles at 55 with car after car whipping around them to the right.

Happens almost every day in the winter in Florida.

That would be very annoying!

Surprised they don't get pulled over

It's a common issue. Drives me crazy.

I'm not kidding. I hate it when people ask me to delineate my opinions.

Good to know.

It's to the point I become incensed even though it is done out of carelessness, though I've seen a few "spite" lane changes as I'm surrounded by stupid cracker redneck assholes who think they are all Dale Earnhart. Rich pricks in expensive cars are bad too. I've even at times re passed those that did it, and "demonstrated" proper lane changing. Surprisingly, many get the picture and I see them use them afterwords, having been reminded they actually exist apparently.

If I can block them without causing an accident. But someone uses a turn signal, they're in. One exception to that is the assholes who try to cut in right at the last second, having driven past a long line of people waiting like they're supposed to. For instance, at an exit to another highway. Those idiots cause so many problems. Blocking traffic in the thru lanes when people have to come to a sudden stop because some jerk didn't want to wait 3 minutes.

Yep, turn signal is way up there on my list too.

"If I can block them without causing an accident. But someone uses a turn signal, they're in"

I won't do anything unsafe either, and when someone does follow the rules and signals and tries to blend in, I'll go out of my way to let them in no matter how deleterious it may be to my pace.

I'd everyone did that, maybe everyone would use their turn signal.

but #1 is people who keep dogs chained up and totally ignore them.

Especially when it's absolutely freezing out. I don't understand "outside dogs." You have a pet, you keep them safe, warm, fed and loved.

actually, i have anger & obsessive issues around chained dogs and mistreated animals. i will never do anything violent but do make a point of finding out the names of the persons and beginning a network of complaints until it reaches the people. recently, a nonprofit organization was formed by a group of folks who go to the pet's home, talk to the owners and offer to build a shelter and a chain link metal fenced area for the dog - with donated materials & labor at no charge to the owner.

Man, I didn't realize I had so many until this post. But there's been only a few that don't bother me. I hate when people do that.

when they return from the store? Some of these guys I know don't have a car, but don't just dump it in someone else's lap. Push it back to the store or keep it and use on your next trip. Show a small amount of courtesy to others.

I hate it when people ahead of me abandon their cart ahead of me in the check out line when they get their food bagged. They walk off with the bags to their car just leaving the cart to block everyone behind them. It's hopelessly rude and ill-mannered in my opinion, as though they don't give a fuck about anyone.

People who talk on their cell phones while checking out at a store. So very rude.

It demeans the person who is the checker. They have a personality, a voice, a presence. By being on the cell phone, "the customer" is essentially saying: "You're no better than a keypad number at the ATM."

When I go through the checkout stand, I make a point to personalize my encounter. Instead of "have a good one," I'll say something more original. I'm nowhere as good as my spouse, who is a genius at this. He's always able to pick up on something a little more personal. His remarks are met with broad grins and big laughs.



Cher

My niece used to work at a coffee place. If someone was on their cell phone when it was their turn, she skipped them until they hung up.

My favorite is a place called Perry's in the west Loop in Chicago. Great little sandwich place. Always busy. If someone is using their phone in line; even texting, an alarm went off. REALLY LOUD with lights and everything. I mean loud enough you could hear it on the 15th floor, in the building across the street. It didn't stop until the person stopped. Want to see a bunch of pissed off people because someone is using their cell phone, go there

That mentions Perry's rule http://business.nbcnews.com/_news/2012/08/16/13316348-hang-up-and-eat-give-up-your-cell-phone-and-restaurant-discounts-your-meal

I would say probably 2 out of every 5 reviews warn you not to use your cell phone. Pretty awesome policy

If you're that important...more upscale restaurant.

Cleverness!



Cher

And you will be full when you leave there.

A couple of examples:

“It’s sad how quickly people can forget about you until they want something from you.”

No, it isn’t sad. It’s irritating and disgusting.

“It’s sad when world leaders engage in deception and trickery.”

No, it isn’t sad. It’s infuriating.

I agree with the examples. But, sometimes people are just sad. It's sad, I know.

Just kidding! Sorry, couldn't help myself

I agree with you but I have to admit, I sometimes do it myself. Not the examples you used but other ways that are probably just as bad. I will make sure I don't going forward.

Thanks!

oh oh oh and '...innocent victims...'... as if there are guilty victims?

Don't know why, but those phrases make me nuts. Which could explain a lot.

Similar to "forcible rape"

I wonder if there has ever been a "sensible shooting" headline with guilty victims.

"Another sensible shooting today in Texas. The guilty victims were the parents of the child shooter. The child had been repeatedly abused by by the guilty victims. "

Sorry, but for an old-timer like me it doesn't replace "don't mention it" or "it was my pleasure". To my ear, it seems like they're saying "I didn't really have to go out of my way".

There are a lot of pet peeves I have regarding simple courtesy. While I'm in the store, people walk right at me from in front, the side, or even the rear and force me to lunge out of the way as though I wasn't there. A lot of people today seem to be in a self-absorbed trance, which is especially bad if they happen to be speaking into a cell phone. In parking lots, if I have the misfortune to be walking across an empty parking space someone wants, I have to jump out of the way of cars that pull quickly into that space even if they see me crossing it for a fraction of a second. In the library the other day, a librarian overtook me from the rear and suddenly cut right across my path, forcing me to take a nasty fall in the library to avoid hitting her, which she barely acknowledged in her haste. While driving my car I constantly find people tailgating (I know I live in California where it's a way of life).

That's pretty horrendous. I agree that common courtesy, a sense of decorum, are sadly lacking. But I don't see it quite as much as you do. Though I see it enough.

I can't explain why. I wish I knew. Maybe we could fix it.

I admit to using "no problem. " but I certainly don't mean it like you said it sounds to you. For me, it seems less like I went out of my way than "you're welcome. " But, just like some other things pointed out here, I will pay closer attention to what I say.

Thank you

Probably true.

I just didn't think about how it may come off to others. That's on me, not you. You're right

I hate that. It's kind of like they've responded to your polite expression of gratitude with, "Meh, it doesn't mean anything." I realize that's not what's intended, but... yuk.

And another thing I've noticed lately: It used to be that retail people (sales clerks, waitpersons, etc.) would end a transaction with "Have a nice day." I never hear that any more; instead, it's "Have a great day," or "Have a wonderful day." Apparently "nice" was insufficient for the bosses of retail workers; it has to be a superlative day. So now it sounds more insincere than ever.

Oh, and all those people need to get off my lawn.

For people driviing, get off the damn phone and drive. For people at work, get off the damn phone and get to work.

More so, people in the company of others. I don't care if it's your family, a clerk at the grocery store, etc. If you are facing another person, they should have your attention. Not your phone

Cretins who get off an escalator and STOP. Where are the people behind them supposed to go?

Nitwits who charge into an elevator the moment the doors open, making sure that no one who wants to get OUT of the elevator can do so.

Nincompoops who are first in the elevator, punch ALL the buttons and stand there guarding the selector panel as a mama bear would her cubs. What in the blue hell is up with THAT bullshit.

I don't know what in the blue hell that's about. But I agree.

I love it when someone gets on an elevator and starts talking to everyone. Just the other day, I swear to god it was just the other day (what is that from? ) I was in an elevator at Northwestern and some man got on, asked everyone how they were, told everyone, "have a great day." I love that.

They always look surprised that someone would possibly be getting off. I dunno whats so hard about pausing for 2 seconds to let anyone off. It's crazy!!

I travel a lot. Be warned; my roller bag usually is in front of me on the escalator. If you're in front of me and stop, you'll be on your knees shortly.

re: the elevator charge- Some folks have had no social training at all. Dad never grabbed them by the hair when they tried to enter before allowing others to exit. That goes for any doorway; entering folks politely wait for those exiting.



The walking vegetables that need to hit all the buttons need to dropped off at daycare where they belong.

Excellent. Reminded me of a favorite line from the Mooninites on Aqua Teen Hunger Force: "Look, Err, talking farm animals!"

I love that. I'll be borrowing it. Thank you.



Cher

I swiped it from him.

Actually, if turning left especially, can be a deadly one. Being a biker, I know that most accidents happen with cars making a left hand turn.

"February 21, 2015, is today's date." NOT "February 21, 2015 is today's date."

But, I would rather over comma, than to comma incorrectly.

Good one!

Some writers use them sparingly. Is that a trend now?

I did know about using one after the year, although I did not know the term "appositive". Now I have to look that up! LOL

You could find a better example of an appositive, I think.



Cher

... when someone starts a sentence with the word "so".

So I don't even know why I don't like it.

It's not necessary.

I do that fairly often. I catch myself sometimes but not all the time. I hate it myself. Especially when I go back and read what I wrote.

"so" is a transitive word.



Cher

... when someone starts a speech with the word "so", or starts an answer with the word "so", then it doesn't seem like a transitive usage. Maybe introductory, as in "So, I'm about to say something I think is worth listening to, so listen up."

It doesn't bug me when it's used in a transition. It's easier on the ears than "therefore".

Sorry I didn't summarize that. My fault.

It is annoying. I find it annoying. When I do it while writing, I always edit it out.

I think one reason it's annoying is that it implies the listener is so involved in the speaker's train of thought that they are naturally going to understand what comes next. It's presumptuous--in the extreme.



Cher

and whistling......gawd I detest whistling

I will promise not to whistle and to wear shoes with quiet soles. Especially since I just learned that you will kick ass.

I might sing though.

Oh, yeah, I hate the clompers, too. I just want to say, "You interrupted the focus of an entire meeting just so you could walk down the corridor? STFU!"

I think they wear those loud shoes because they personally feel powerless. At least the shoes intrude when they personally can't. That, I surmise, is their reasoning, if one could call it that.

Whistling: don't even get me started. What kind of effing moron whistles? I want to say, "Did you just walk off the set of 'Andy Griffin'?"

I guess at this point I should say that I find audio interference so annoying that I wear headphones all the time. I won't go into a store without them. Sometimes I even wear them at home because I have one annoying cat who is constantly voicing her displeasure at the way I wait on her.




Cher

but often when I wake up I leave the plugs in for some time because silence is indeed golden

Mouth breathers can also irritate me if I notice it. Or foot tapping, desk tapping, etc.

I think basically noises...I'm super sensitive to noises.

Or somewhere you have to listen to the type of noise you mentioned? If so, that has to make it hard to concentrate.

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I would have to say, that is the most annoying, bungle of a word in the English language.

I didn't know there was anything wrong with "nevertheless." I looked it up and can't find why it is incorrect. Nevertheless, ( ) I am far from an expert.

Why is it incorrect?

really believed they needed to say "irregardless" they could probably use "nevertheless" instead, not that it's a crappy word. Sorry!

On reflection, you are probably seeing irregardless used in ways that neverthess can't fix. I was imagining: "Irregardless, the dishes still have to be washed."