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kimmylavin

(2,284 posts)
Wed Apr 15, 2015, 10:20 PM Apr 2015

Need help with neighbors...

Or maybe I just need to vent, because I'm not sure there is anything we CAN do.
But this has me so stressed, it might help to just write it down.

We have lived in our house in the country for almost 10 years now.
We bought a house on 1/2 acre, and then were able to purchase the parcel of land next to our house, so we have about an acre now.

Our neighbor on one side lives about 100 yards up a hill on our west side, and he's never really there - weekend house, at best.
Our other neighbors live about 100 yards up a hill on our east side.
So we live in a nice little hollow that has always suited us.

We have always gotten along with our neighbors on the east side, and tried to be "neighborly."
They're a big family - mom, dad, 5 kids & 2 grandparents who live nearby.
We let them use our trash can if they've had a big week, we go get their dogs or horses if they get out, we've gotten together for coffees, dinners and Christmases - that kind of thing.

But now...

Well, it seems that grandpa has gotten himself in financial trouble, and he can no longer afford their house.
So our neighbors agreed to take them in.

Here's where the geography is important.
We own all of the land up to their property, and most of what they own on this side is a big hill - except for one tiny little triangle at the bottom of the hill.
It is also important to note that they own at least 2.5 acres on the other side of the hill - their "horse property."

They have decided to house grandma and grandpa in a trailer on that little triangle.

There was no heads-up about this plan.
(Not legally necessary, of course, but after 10 years as friendly neighbors, that would have been nice.)
When they got around to mentioning it (i.e., they started loading grandpa's stuff onto the land), they told us that we should feel free to come to them if we have any concerns.

So we did.
Because we have LOTS of concerns.

Grandma is a fairly nice lady, but Grandpa is just vile.
He is racist, sexist, homophobic, and just plain mean.
He used to beat his wife, while acting as a preacher every Sunday.
He leads the kids in shooting at animals every time he is over, cheering if it takes them more than one shot.
The only person my dog has never let touch him is Grandpa.
In short, I hate the man.

And now he will be living (bitter over his situation), not 20 feet from our house, and 10 from my office (I am lucky enough to work from home).
He will have his guns, in a thin little trailer.
I have an African-American woman who works for me, and a Mexican woman who works for me - the possibility of peanut-gallery commentary from this man is about 100%.

When we expressed our concerns, we were re-assured that this would only be temporary, but they will try to make other arrangements.
(See, Grandpa doesn't want to live on the horse property, because he his too proud to live "on horse shit.&quot

And then two days later, Grandpa was grading the land on the triangle.
No call, no nothing.
(Again, not legally necessary, but kind of dickish.)

I texted the neighbors to ask about it, but they said they were out of town, and had meant to talk to us before they left.

I came out of the house yesterday to find a 10-foot trench dug in the triangle.
When I again texted about this, I was told that the grandparents living there was going to be temporary, but that they were putting in an RV hookup for when their families visit.
Their families visit ALL THE TIME.

I asked for a copy of the survey they must have had done before digging a 10-foot wide, 10-foot deep hole in the ground, and they said they hadn't had a new one done.
And I asked again why they were doing this on the one tiny piece of their property that is right on top of us, instead of anywhere else on their 2.5 acres; no answer.

So I guess I just want to know if we have ANY recourse here.
Is it legal to dig giant holes at the edge of your property without being sure of the property lines?
Is it legal to dig giant holes in your property without some sort of permit?
Is it legal to house people in an RV on your property?
Is it legal to put in an RV hookup?

We live in Los Angeles county, about an hour north of the city.

My husband works in LA, and I go down once or twice a week.
(We work on a live TV show, and the stress and hours are insane.)
This has been our haven together since we were married, and the last two weeks have been pretty awful.

And yes, I realize this has the stink of "first world problems," but there's a reason we moved out here, a reason we decided to take on the commute and the expense.
It's beautiful, and quiet, and relaxing.
And we had planned to grow old here.

Thanks for listening, at least.
It was nice to get my thoughts straight on this.

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Need help with neighbors... (Original Post) kimmylavin Apr 2015 OP
The answers to permitted property use questions depends on your local zoning ordinances... PoliticAverse Apr 2015 #1
Thank you, PA... kimmylavin Apr 2015 #2
I can't answer specifics for LA County...but I can answer most of those questions. Chan790 Apr 2015 #3
Thank you so much, Chan! kimmylavin Apr 2015 #5
In most places there are minimum setbacks from adjoining property for almost all these activities. yellowcanine Apr 2015 #21
Get on the phone to the county codes dept. Lars39 Apr 2015 #4
Oh my goodness! kimmylavin Apr 2015 #6
Hope your situation is easily and quickly settled. Lars39 Apr 2015 #7
Very rarely is there a problem that can't be solved..... A HERETIC I AM Apr 2015 #8
Very funny... kimmylavin Apr 2015 #11
See if you can buy the "triangle"... PassingFair Apr 2015 #9
We offered. kimmylavin Apr 2015 #12
20 feet from your house and 10 feet from your office? panader0 Apr 2015 #10
Trying to find that out. kimmylavin Apr 2015 #13
all of this sounds like it requires some permits or other magical thyme Apr 2015 #14
My dear kimmylavin... CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2015 #15
Wow! What a horrible situation and terrible neighbors. hippywife Apr 2015 #16
A 10' ditch sure makes it sound like they might avebury Apr 2015 #17
I would move away from the crowded area seveneyes Apr 2015 #18
Building codes are your friends. I am sure you roody Apr 2015 #19
You're getting some good advice here. lovemydog Apr 2015 #20
Poor thing Corgigal Apr 2015 #22
why in the hell did they place him near you? Liberal_in_LA Apr 2015 #23

kimmylavin

(2,284 posts)
2. Thank you, PA...
Wed Apr 15, 2015, 10:55 PM
Apr 2015

Those links have sent me off on some very interesting, possibly helpful, paths.
I appreciate your taking the time to get them for me.

 

Chan790

(20,176 posts)
3. I can't answer specifics for LA County...but I can answer most of those questions.
Wed Apr 15, 2015, 10:59 PM
Apr 2015
Preface every answer with "In most places..."

Is it legal to dig giant holes at the edge of your property without being sure of the property lines?

Yes, but it's not a good idea to dig that close to the property line without surveying first. Digging on your own property, okay if you follow regulations...more on that later. Dig even 1" over the property line and you're asking for a lawsuit.

Is it legal to dig giant holes in your property without some sort of permit?

No. That would be a regulated activity. I had a meeting about this earlier, discussing a man here in CT that went out in the middle of the night and dug himself a sewage pond on his property for his pig farm without a permit we refused to issue. The pond was to be lined in concrete and used to store pig feces. Needless to say, we're making him fill in the hole and forbidding him to construct a sewage pond on his property as P&Z ordinances here forbid them.

Is it legal to house people in an RV on your property?

Depends on the size of the RV. Here if it's longer than 27' or has a electric, sewage or gas hookup, it's considered a permanent structure and requires a C of O that we will not issue. (Strangely, we also have a "no micro houses" ordinance. The 400sqft home of my dreams...not legal. )

Is it legal to put in an RV hookup? No, not without a permit. In fact, most places that kind of digging is illegal if you have not called the local utilities for come out and mark existing gas lines, electrical lines, water lines, etc.

kimmylavin

(2,284 posts)
5. Thank you so much, Chan!
Wed Apr 15, 2015, 11:02 PM
Apr 2015

These are really helpful answers!

And how odd about the micro-houses - I love those, too!

yellowcanine

(35,701 posts)
21. In most places there are minimum setbacks from adjoining property for almost all these activities.
Fri Apr 17, 2015, 02:08 PM
Apr 2015

Also setbacks for sewage systems as well as permits needed. Digging usually requires a grading permit unless it is agricultural - which this clearly isn't.

Almost positive that some ordinances have been violated here. Call code enforcement on them and they will likely issue a cease work order until it can all be sorted out.

Lars39

(26,115 posts)
4. Get on the phone to the county codes dept.
Wed Apr 15, 2015, 11:01 PM
Apr 2015

Foundations and sewage and electricity usually mean permits are needed, especially close to property lines.
People do the stupidest things sometimes. My parents called the health dept over a neighbor's trailer that had the sewage pipe emptying into the creek next door.

kimmylavin

(2,284 posts)
6. Oh my goodness!
Wed Apr 15, 2015, 11:03 PM
Apr 2015

How gross!

And thank you so much, Lars!

Got some numbers from the links above, and will be spending tomorrow on the phone.

A HERETIC I AM

(24,376 posts)
8. Very rarely is there a problem that can't be solved.....
Wed Apr 15, 2015, 11:49 PM
Apr 2015

by the discreet and proper placement of an appropriate amount of high explosives.




J/K.....

Seems you have gotten some good answers.


Santa Clarita?

Agua Dulce?

Acton?

Leona Valley?

Palmdale?

I ask cause you said; "We live in Los Angeles county, about an hour north of the city."

I lived in Palmdale in the early '00's.

Lots of pretty countryside up the 14 corridor.

kimmylavin

(2,284 posts)
11. Very funny...
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 02:13 PM
Apr 2015

We've thought about speakers and floodlights.

The Lakes, actually.
Lake Hughes.

And yes, it's beautiful up here - even after all the fires...

PassingFair

(22,434 posts)
9. See if you can buy the "triangle"...
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 08:13 AM
Apr 2015

If scary Grandpa needs money, maybe he can buy a condo and get outta your line of vision.

kimmylavin

(2,284 posts)
12. We offered.
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 02:14 PM
Apr 2015

And we offered to help do any work clearing land on the horse property.
That was during the conversation they then ignored.

But scary grandpa wants a house!
Not some apartment.

Beggars can apparently be choosers.

panader0

(25,816 posts)
10. 20 feet from your house and 10 feet from your office?
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 09:06 AM
Apr 2015

I lived on 15 acres and structures have to be at least 30 feet from the property line, so 60 feet would be the closest that structures could built (30 +30). For me, that's still too close. The septic, or is it a sewer line, would be a legal issue. My land is zoned RU4, with only one residence allowed per 4 acres. What is your zoning?

kimmylavin

(2,284 posts)
13. Trying to find that out.
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 02:18 PM
Apr 2015

Been on the phone with some very nice people with many different departments of the DPW.

My husband is out measuring, so we can have exact numbers.

Thank you for pointing me in that direction - I'm learning a lot about property rights.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
14. all of this sounds like it requires some permits or other
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 04:07 PM
Apr 2015

I would be checking out zoning, ordinances, building codes, etc. Depending on the size of your town, it could merit a simple visit to a code officer.

You can't even put a fence in without checking property lines and the local ordinances. Some towns you can put fences in right on the line. Others require a set back of some number of feet.

Whatever it is they're doing that requires a 10' ditch (sounds like a basement to me) probably requires a permit. An RV hookup will require a permit. What are they doing about septic? They can't just dump pee and poop into your hollow.

They clearly are taking major advantage of you. Time to look into the local laws, determine what "i"s they haven't dotted and "t"s they haven't crossed. And get a cease and desist.

And don't bother catching their loose dogs or horses any more. Or catch the dogs and take them to a shelter, and call animal control to pick up any loose horses.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,694 posts)
15. My dear kimmylavin...
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 04:57 PM
Apr 2015

You've got a lot of good, practical advice here, and I can't add anything, except GOOD LUCK! I think you've got the law on your side and all it'll take is some time and effort on your part.

Your neighbors are way off base. They're about to find out just how far off base they are, too.

Too bad.

hippywife

(22,767 posts)
16. Wow! What a horrible situation and terrible neighbors.
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 06:11 PM
Apr 2015

Glad you were able to get some direction from folks here. I've no doubt this will get worked out for you. But in the process, I would be very, very watchful of vile, hateful grandpa with his firearms. If he's in dire straits already, no telling what he'll take it in his head to do when his plans are thwarted, as it looks like they will be.

Stay safe.

avebury

(10,952 posts)
17. A 10' ditch sure makes it sound like they might
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 07:04 PM
Apr 2015

put a permanent structure on that spot. It also seems like they are trying to avoid having a serious conversation with you about their intentions.

Beyond dealing with all the research issues relating to permits, zoning, and so on you might want to consider what proactive measures that you could try. I like the idea of a motion activated major bright security light (that way they cannot complain about you leaving a bright light on all the time). If you are comfortable that you know where the property line is you might want to consider putting in the tallest fence possible between you and crazy Grand Pa. Most importantly, you might want to have some security cameras installed covering the area between your house and crazy Grand Pa (video evidence can be your friend). Document document document everything (video, pictures, audio, written notes, info gained from your County and so on.

I would be really really concerned about the gun issue if he is that crazy. I would add the local Sheriff/Police on speed dial. Any time that he does anything that creates legitimate concern for your safety, call the cops. If he does it enough time you might be able to build a case for a Victim's Protective Order and that might take care of the proximity issue.

 

seveneyes

(4,631 posts)
18. I would move away from the crowded area
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 07:47 PM
Apr 2015

Maybe EBF Kentucky and get a few dozen acres to keep a buffer zone.

Working remotely makes it easy in these times.

lovemydog

(11,833 posts)
20. You're getting some good advice here.
Thu Apr 16, 2015, 10:31 PM
Apr 2015

I wish you both well.

If at all possible try to keep communication lines open with your neighbors (not the scary grandpa but the others who were your friends).

I know it may be beyond the point of no return, since they haven't returned your text. But I wonder if it might be possible to invite them over for dinner or drinks or something. To give them a sense that you're all still human beings, which is always the best basis for working things out to everyone's best interests.

The reason I say this is because I've seen situations where both sides start going the legal route and it can escalate quickly, causing strain, financial hardship and hurt feelings for all.

It's great getting all the information you can. Knowledge is power.

Don't forsake the human element of friendliness and contact, unless as a last resort.

Corgigal

(9,291 posts)
22. Poor thing
Fri Apr 17, 2015, 09:59 PM
Apr 2015

These never end well, no matter what you do. Get a real estate attorney, tie them up and put your home for sale. If they are doing, what others on this forum think they are, your house value will tube. Not to mention, no one will want that house to nutty grandpa being that close.

I've heard too many neighbors problems in my life, if you can move, then that is what you should do. Less stress all around.

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