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Dragonbreathp9d

(2,542 posts)
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 03:56 PM Mar 2012

South By South West - the worst 2 weeks of my life

Last edited Tue Mar 20, 2012, 04:51 PM - Edit history (1)

This has been the most stressful 2 weeks of my life-70 hours of work the first week plus 80+ the second. Got evicted during first week because my roommate moved out unexpectedly 2 months ago and I couldnt keep up. Had to deal with thousands upon thousands of drunken people with practically no sleep and hardly any food. Lost some hearing because of proximity to very loud (albeit mostly good) music for 15 hours a day. Earplugs were nice but then I couldn't hear people's orders. Top it all off with being arrested after saying "hey how are y'all doing tonight" to some APD officers downtown when I got out of work trying to show some young vets back from Afghanistan a good time. I work downtown about 70 hours a week normally and ALWAYS ask how APD I doing because they have saved my ass numerous occasions and I legitimately CARE how they are doing. They said I "matched a description" of someone selling X. I am a tall white 20 something male with long hair in Austin during sxsw, yeah, I'm sure I fucking did. They asked if they could search me- I said not without my lawyer present. Said they'd pull up street footage- I said sure- with my lawyer present. Then they tried to play good cop bad cop- I said fine, with my lawyer present. Then they arrested me anyways, didn't tell me why (I later found out for public intoxication which is defined by being a danger to yourself or others- mind you I was still in work shirt and still had bar towel hanging as I had only been off for 2 hours) did not read me my rights, searched me- didn't find anything- searched me again and ! Look at that, found something, which is precisely why I wanted my lawyer present in the first place. They asked me if those were my pants I said I prefer not to answer that question (so obviously I was not intoxicated as I had my full legal wits about me). Spent the night in jail- which made me miss my opening shift getting me fired and I am now facing a felony charge. I had to spend most all of what I made last week paying my lawyer.
Now I have no permanent place to stay nor put all of my belongings and I don't know what the fuck to do. I'm pretty sure I'll beat the charge as I was far to legal about it all but what if I don't? I can't go to jail.
My whole life unraveled last week and I came to the realization just how little friends I actually have down here (and not just friendly acquaintances). I know everyone and yet no one.
I have pretty much snapped- I feel like I've lost all care and empathy. Someone bumped into me and I almost wanted to kill them. I've wanted to shout go fuck yourself to just about everyone I've seen after this craziness. I need a break. I need a walden pond. I'm literally freaking out and had to spend money I really don't have getting to a friends house last night because I really didn't trust myself to be alone. I haven't had a positive thought in over a week. I feel like these last 2 years working on 6th has aged me 15. I've lost all my dreams and aspirations and now just want to live in peace growing, hunting, and fishing for my own food far away from the filth that is humanity. I've lost all hope and drive for politics (Kucinich's loss was a death blow to me). The only thing left that I care about is my best friend, his wife, and their child- who live far away and will probably have to cancel their trip to see me because of court and my living situation.

I am truly at my wits end. I am not the same person I was two weeks ago.

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Kali

(55,020 posts)
1. jaysus!
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 05:30 PM
Mar 2012

that is a hell of a lot to deal with in a fucking year, much less a couple of weeks. I am a little nutty about this (sort of like a rabid ex-smoker or new vegan) but you have GOT to get some sleep. I mean real, restful sleep. There is a reason the torturers of the world use sleep-deprivation as a tactic to break people.

You can't function, much less make decisions or plans when your brain doesn't work. What a mess - BUT you have made it through so far. Keep that in mind. Find some place safe and get some rest - even if it in a sleeping bag out in a campground. Even a good solid night in a quiet hotel if you have the $ will help you feel mare able to deal with all of this.

I am really sorry. You have ears and virtual hugs around here, always. Keep us in the loop, huh?

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
2. OMG, I'm so sorry, that's so toxic. And I truly wish I could help. i know about being out of ...
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 06:25 PM
Mar 2012

Everything and no one to turn to.

All of this hit you like a tsunami, fast, mine have been the kind where I could see it all coming and at least had time to get out of the way of the full blast.

iIt's the condition when you're so far out of touch from all you counted on, I call, 'between the Earth and the Moon.'

Can you get in touch with any of those guys (APD) you knew in the past to help?

Dragonbreathp9d

(2,542 posts)
6. I ran into one of them
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 07:46 PM
Mar 2012

He said it was rediculous but since he wasn't on the scene there was nothing he could do

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
8. Okay, do you need a place to stay? Maybe some DUer there will see this.
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 09:51 PM
Mar 2012

Since you've been charged with a crime, I'm sure you can't just hop a ride out of town and start over somewhere else.

I hope the temperature is good tonight, if you are outside, I'd be in a world of hurt if I was outside tonight here.

Best wishes from another DK supporter. Let's try to do something with DU to help if that's permitted. I think Kali would know?

Kali

(55,020 posts)
11. I have no idea of logistics, but on DU2 any kind of fundraisers needed Admins sanction and required
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 10:23 PM
Mar 2012

posting a disclaimer (also think they were only allowed to post one time) from reading new policies it seems none of that is required any longer. However, I think if someone were to attempt an effort, checking in with them would be a good idea. If for no other reason than the inevitable alerts that things like that can generate.

another option if for people to PM offers of help directly.

freshwest

(53,661 posts)
13. I was thinking of more direct aid from a local DUer on the spot there? IDK.
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 10:54 PM
Mar 2012

Nolabear suggested going to a crisis hotline, or something like that. I know that funding for many of these have been cut by the repubs across the country. But I would hope Austin has something in place still. Or someone who is in Austin might help him; but he may be offline for the night, if he has no place to go. I know it's getting to be about 10 PM there.

Kali

(55,020 posts)
15. did one in the Texas group
Wed Mar 21, 2012, 12:04 AM
Mar 2012

and I think that is a good idea for GD too, but lets see what he says first. I sent a PM with a link to a local crisis center. I think he will be OK if he can get some rest and somebody local to talk to. Maybe there are some social services available but if Texas is anything like AZ (and I worry it might be even worse) there won't be much, nevermind the shitty economy.

RiffRandell

(5,909 posts)
4. I am so sorry.
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 06:39 PM
Mar 2012

I'm almost positive you will beat the charge too--but you need a good lawyer. Which costs money (believe me I know) but I don't know what to tell you, except right now everything seems hopeless, but it's not. I have been there...just last fall. How long do you have a place to stay? You were very smart (imo) of how you answered the cops. PM me if you need to--seriously.

siligut

(12,272 posts)
5. Do you have any recourse with the police?
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 06:39 PM
Mar 2012

Sounds like false arrest to me. Hang on, you have a lot going for you, this will pass.

nolabear

(41,991 posts)
7. If Austin has a crisis line, do consider calling it. They can help.
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 08:01 PM
Mar 2012

First, it's someone to tell all this to. Second, they may well have access to resources. Your situation is bad but not dire, but your frame of mind sounds nearer the breaking point than you should go through alone.

There are numerous options. Let someone help you see them.

deucemagnet

(4,549 posts)
9. Dude, I'm so sorry.
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 10:08 PM
Mar 2012

I've followed your posts in GD, and I know you've been having a hard time lately. Things were looking up with your new job, but it's always a struggle getting back on your feet, and you certainly didn't need this. I don't know how to help, but I can listen, so feel free to PM me if you wish.

cliffordu

(30,994 posts)
10. I lived in Austin for 10 years and walked down 6th street
Tue Mar 20, 2012, 10:14 PM
Mar 2012

at night exactly once.

I love Austin, but 6th avenue is everything that's wrong with party towns.

Ikonoklast

(23,973 posts)
16. Repeat after me, "NEVER TALK TO THE POLICE."
Wed Mar 21, 2012, 12:05 AM
Mar 2012

That means NEVER, EVER.

Don't try to be nice, don't make small talk, don't ask them how their day was going.

DO NOT TALK TO THE POLICE FOR ANY REASON.

EVER.

They do not have anyone's best interest at heart save their own. The see all 'civilians' as criminals until proven otherwise. They assume that you are up to no good. They see anyone save other cops as a potential threat.

Ilsa

(61,698 posts)
18. I posted a thread with a link about that
Wed Mar 21, 2012, 02:12 PM
Mar 2012

in the Civil Liberties forum. http://www.democraticunderground.com/116896

The one reply indicated that not talking just gets you arrested. I still think it's good advice though.

TexasTowelie

(112,443 posts)
17. The Salvation Army is at 501 East 8th Street.
Wed Mar 21, 2012, 12:30 AM
Mar 2012

There is an emergency dorm for men. I've heard that the place is rough and I advise being cautious, but they should at least be able to provide some help with referrals for other housing.

I don't live in Austin any longer so I can't provide much other assistance. Good luck and be safe.

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