but I sometimes have thoughts similar to yours.

they should have called and sent a card

disgusting

i'd be ticked, too.

Even if no injury, an accident like that can upset people.

Should they have called you? Yeah, sure. But it might be the wrong time to make a case of it.

Why they now choose not to say "thank you" is beyond me.

I don't know if it's a generational thing--they are 29 and 26--or whether they think it's not necessary
to thank family or what.

I don't get it. I really don't.

It is annoying.

Glad your nephew's wife is ok.

I started getting the boys to write notes when they were very little. First, I did it for them. Then I got them to draw a picture or scrawl a letter. I even ordered the kind where you fill in the blanks. Then I got them to write their own and they did this all the way through graduation. At that point they felt like it was a chore. Now that they are in college, they somewhat reluctantly agreed to send their grandmother a text message. She was thrilled but I still found it kinda sad that they had no interest in writing an actual note.

I rarely get a thank you from anyone. And it's not that I expect one but it's nice to know IF the person actually got what I sent them. I think it's just gone out of style.

shitty manners.

Don't make a federal case out of it, but do let them know that you weren't raised in a barn and when they act like boors, and don't even ACKNOWLEDGE the transmittal of that large an amount of cash without having to be prodded like a farm animal, it reflects on your family reputation!

Also, let 'em know that if they don't work on the whole "politeness" thing, they can go to some other well when they're thirsty!

We're all hard-wired in my family to Please and Thank You, and if anyone forgets, a half dozen people will bellow "What do you SAY????"

There's no getting away without including the niceties in our household!

there was a dirty look shot at you that instantly made you feel like you kicked a puppy.

Ok, the money after the accident is one thing, totally understood.

But money and gifts, all it takes is a phone call. A text. An email.... don't even need a stamp.

Keep sending the cards, it's very sweet. But if they ask where the checks and gifts are, speak your mind, kindly and gently.

Maybe they won't even ask. That would be interesting.

Or you could do the 'made a donation in your name' thing to a charitable organization that really needs, wants and appreciates your money and gifts and, let them know.

Since when was something rating a thanks problematic?

There are a lot of long-time acceptable ways to reply to "thank you" which essentially are saying that no thanks is necessary, like
- "Think nothing of it."
- "De nada."
- "It was nothing."
- "Don't mention it."

No idea why - it feels (as far as me saying it, not hearing it) like I am being pompous. So I prefer a nod, a smile, no problem - something like that.

I don't mind hearing it - I just weird saying it

And I think that saying thank you is actually coming back in style.

It is rude not to say "thank you".

On a lesser note, it is also NOT going out of style to use "an" before a word that begins with a vowel, something that I find ever increasingly happening with texting, etc.

It is "AN" apple; not "A" apple. Ugh!!!!!

My grandparents taught me to say thank you and my mom did too (except she never said it herself, just made sure I thanked her all the time for being born, having food, etc)

I am 40 something and enjoy sending out thank you's. But I also send our rent check in a card with a quick note to our landlord, when I switched dentists because of insurance I sent them a thank you card... I may have sent a thank you for a nice thank you card I received.

My biggest pet peeve is people who only thank "up" not "down" - you know only thank people in they believe to be in positions above them - bosses, managers, etc but never what they perceive to be beneath them - children, cashiers, wait staff, etc.

I think that is worse than not thanking at all - if you don't thank anyone at least you are an equal opportunity jerk

Now that they are young adults,they usually say thank you. I think they do it rather than get called out by their mother for no doing it!

It's the little things in life.