It's sounds awful. But FWIW, I have a good feeling about the Spring and Summer for you.

Normally, people wait until summer to really, really hate North Carolina. That's the only time I really, really hated Georgia.

I am pretty sure summers here won't faze me at all.

No, all of a sudden I have responsibilities that I feel are way over my head and I just feel all at sea. Plus the town is pretty crappy.

I don't know your back-story, but I know what it is like to be in a new place with a new job.

Hang in there!

Not only do I feel completely over my head but one project is at least badly designed and I have to fix it somehow.

North Carolina is a state, not a town.

















Keeding.... just keeding....

Good luck and hang in there.

Yes well I certainly hope the rest of the state isn't as bad as this town. I was shocked for one thing at how expensive all the thing I usually buy at the grocery store are. Even though there are several grocery stores and a WalMArt here. Not much else though. Plus it is just sort of a nasty town. There are no good neighborhoods, just some nice houses surrounded by a lot of bad areas. My rent is way more than I paid in Texas and no competition in utilities so the municipal utility can jack up the rates all it wants. Several people have warned me about this. But I'd rather live in town than in the country, as bad as it it. I am and always will be a suburban/urban kind of person. Living in the sticks is going to bore me to tears I think.

Keep your ears to the ground about a more suitable place that could be right up the road from you.

That's a very diverse state you're in. And with many cool spots.

Try a road trip or two when you get some spare time.

Again, good luck.

I used to live in Chapel Hill. I know some people loved it, but I hated it. But I am not a southerner and never felt at home there.

A much smaller town than I have ever lived in before. I made a terrible decision in coming here. I took a considerable pay cut but the job had more potential for advancement (and was an advancement over what I did before) BUT it turns out I do not really want to be a supervisor, nor do I think I have the ability to do so. So I am about to fail spectacularly, be worse off financially and lose the most important relationship of my life because my boyfriend still lives in Texas. So my life pretty much sucks right now.

through the town on a coastal-driving trip, and I decided that it most certainly wasn't going to be "home".

I do feel for you.

If you do make it through the probationary period, see if you can hang in there for a year. Sounds like forever, I know, but good for your resume.

And - why does this ruin your relationship? I know your bf is in Texas, but can't he hang in there for you while you figure this out?

I am just having a hard time adjusting. The job is really outside my comfort zone and I am very lonely.

But don't defeat yourself. You might be better at your job than you think. It does take time to get used to any new job. But if you are miserable and going to lose the love of your life, it isn't worth it. There are more jobs in the world that you will like than there are men that you are likely to meet whom you would want to spend your life with.

Only about 40 miles. And there is plenty there, if I need a bookstore or Trader Joe's or whatever.

There is actually a very good Japanese restaurant here and a cool coffee shop. So maybe all is not completely lost.

and take some trips to Virginia Beach.

Give yourself time to adjust.

And be kind to yourself; it might be much nicer later in spring and summer. Tell yourself this will be a period of evaluation about your career, your goals, etc. Treat this as a way to figure out what you really want, and if you can see it as an adventure, maybe that will make the time go faster, or the experience less overwhelming.

I've known many that were great employees, but lousy supervisors. Almost everyone sucks when they first try to be a supervisor. Supervising employees is really all about applied psychology. You first have to realize that you're never going to make all your employees perform at the same level of production so it's not a worthwhile effort to pursue. Next you have to realize that the more you try to control your employees, the less control you'll have over them. You know you're really getting good at it once you figure out that employees will screw themselves over far more than you ever could as their boss. The job never gets easy, but it does get easier. You just have to stick with it and figure out how not to let things get to you.