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retrowire

(10,345 posts) Wed Oct 12, 2016, 06:24 PM Oct 2016

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So my Brother in Law just passed away in a car accident

I'm driving out to see my sister's family right now. This man helped us with so much. He was my man of honor at my wedding.

I'm crushed and destroyed by the text message from my teenage nephew that simply reads, "I think my dad just passed"

I lost my own father suddenly to a heart attack when I was 17 and I know my nephew's sense of shock right now. You literally don't know what to think of the world when your first parent passes.

I'm still in shock myself.

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So my Brother in Law just passed away in a car accident (Original Post) retrowire Oct 2016 OP

I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family. In_The_Wind Oct 2016 #1

My deepest condolences, my dear retrowire...... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2016 #2

your post made me cry retrowire Oct 2016 #3

... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2016 #4

Oh no. I'm so sorry, retrowire. femmocrat Oct 2016 #5

There are no words that can console you or diminish your grief. Fla Dem Oct 2016 #6

Oh dear.. annabanana Oct 2016 #7

My condolences on your family's loss. MicaelS Oct 2016 #8

So sorry UTUSN Oct 2016 #9

Oh, that is heartbreaking! AwakeAtLast Oct 2016 #10

I am so sorry my friend. irisblue Oct 2016 #11

damn, sorry for your loss hibbing Oct 2016 #12

My deepest condolences. susanna Oct 2016 #13

Oh retrowire, I am so sorry. I can understand the shock. When this kind of thing happens it's just Upthevibe Oct 2016 #14

Oh I'm so sorry TuxedoKat Oct 2016 #15

Very sorry. Initech Oct 2016 #16

There are no words DFW Oct 2016 #17

Condolences benld74 Oct 2016 #18

Sorry for your loss Stuart G Oct 2016 #19

So very sorry. displacedtexan Oct 2016 #20

In_The_Wind

(72,300 posts)

1. I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 06:26 PM

Oct 2016

May he rest in peace.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,712 posts)

2. My deepest condolences, my dear retrowire......

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 06:28 PM

Oct 2016

When death is unexpected, there is no time to get ready, to say goodbye, to have one last conversation, one last hug.........

It is shocking and horrifying.

Please take care of yourself......

Safe passage to your brother in law...

retrowire

(10,345 posts)

3. your post made me cry

Reply to CaliforniaPeggy (Reply #2)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 06:40 PM

Oct 2016

My last conversation with him was in his antique store.

I was admiring a pipe organ he purchased at an auction.

He showed off this antique electronic baseball game that he knew I liked.

He wanted me to see if I could repair an antique jukebox for him because he knew I was good at that kind of thing.

He gave me antique electronics he found all the time because he knew I loved that stuff.

He loved me as a brother in law could.

I'm so so so grateful for everything he's given me in my life.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,712 posts)

4. ...

Reply to retrowire (Reply #3)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 07:13 PM

Oct 2016

femmocrat

(28,394 posts)

5. Oh no. I'm so sorry, retrowire.

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 07:25 PM

Oct 2016

Such a devastating loss for you and your family. Wishing you strength in the coming days.

Fla Dem

(23,753 posts)

6. There are no words that can console you or diminish your grief.

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 07:26 PM

Oct 2016

But know there will be many here that are sadden for you and your family over this sudden and tragic loss of a loved one. I hope you find peace in the days ahead.

annabanana

(52,791 posts)

7. Oh dear..

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 07:44 PM

Oct 2016

There will be many looking to lean on your shoulder. When YOU need to unload and want some support.. come here. WE will always be awake.

It may not sink in for quite awhile

also:
our bereavement forum
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234

MicaelS

(8,747 posts)

8. My condolences on your family's loss.

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 07:52 PM

Oct 2016

Especially for your nephew.

UTUSN

(70,743 posts)

9. So sorry

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 08:24 PM

Oct 2016

AwakeAtLast

(14,134 posts)

10. Oh, that is heartbreaking!

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 11:00 PM

Oct 2016

Condolences to you and your family!

irisblue

(33,032 posts)

11. I am so sorry my friend.

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 11:27 PM

Oct 2016

hibbing

(10,109 posts)

12. damn, sorry for your loss

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Wed Oct 12, 2016, 11:36 PM

Oct 2016

My brother in law is more of a brother to me than an in law. Hang in there.

Peace

susanna

(5,231 posts)

13. My deepest condolences.

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Thu Oct 13, 2016, 02:02 AM

Oct 2016

What a terrible shock. I'm so very sorry.

Upthevibe

(8,072 posts)

14. Oh retrowire, I am so sorry. I can understand the shock. When this kind of thing happens it's just

Reply to susanna (Reply #13)

Thu Oct 13, 2016, 02:06 AM

Oct 2016

unbelievable. DU thoughts are with you and your sister's family.

TuxedoKat

(3,818 posts)

15. Oh I'm so sorry

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Thu Oct 13, 2016, 09:41 AM

Oct 2016

for the loss of your beloved brother-in-law. He sounds like he was a great guy.

Initech

(100,104 posts)

16. Very sorry.

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Oct 14, 2016, 12:17 AM

Oct 2016

I know the feeling very well - a good friend of mine died very suddenly last year of a massive heart attack and it just doesn't get any easier.

DFW

(54,437 posts)

17. There are no words

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Oct 14, 2016, 08:31 AM

Oct 2016

This is the worst--no time to prepare, no chance to take leave, just sudden shock and no idea how to deal with it.

I wish you the best of luck in dealing with something there is no way to deal with.

benld74

(9,910 posts)

18. Condolences

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Oct 14, 2016, 10:26 AM

Oct 2016

Please extend your knowledge of your past loss to your nephew.

Stuart G

(38,448 posts)

19. Sorry for your loss

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Oct 14, 2016, 01:29 PM

Oct 2016

displacedtexan

(15,696 posts)

20. So very sorry.

Reply to retrowire (Original post)

Fri Oct 14, 2016, 01:46 PM

Oct 2016

I know what you mean about losing a parent. In my experience, it took a full decade...not to get over it...but for it to be OK to carry it with me. You never get over it.

Again, so sorry to hear your sad news. I'll be thinking about you today, as I'm sure everyone else here will.

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