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Miles Archer

(18,837 posts)
Wed Oct 4, 2017, 10:11 AM Oct 2017

"We have no money"

For those of you who have been following the saga of my girlfriend's deadbeat son, there are a few updates.

1). We had to go to municipal court yesterday. Sat there for an hour. This is in regards to our calling the police a month ago over an altercation between my girlfriend's son and his girlfriend. He apparently took some money off of the debit card (they have a joint account). They had both been drinking heavily. She was screaming "I want my money I want my money I want my money" at the top of her lungs, with "fuck you's" flying back and forth. We called the cops, she went to jail. The reason my girlfriend had to go to court is that they were going to have a trial. The officer came out and said "do you want a jury trial or a bench trial" and she turned around and looked at my girlfriend like "HELP ME!" So my girlfriend said she didn't want to press charges, and the two of them slithered off to their car, and we left in ours. I sat on a hard plastic chair for an hour and my ass and back were both killing me. My girlfriend pulled a muscle in her back earlier in the day. She wasn't feeling much better.

2). The agreement that we had was that they would pay $100 per week plus half of the electric bill. They have doubled our bill, so this is completely fair. I had to call the electric company for an extension. Bill has to be paid Friday by 5 PM or the power goes off. He told my girlfriend this morning that they have no money, and he "might" be getting paid Saturday. IF the power goes off, there is an $80 reconnect fee if they turn it on before 4 PM and a $140 fee if they turn it on after that. I told my girlfriend if it comes to that they will pay the $80. As of Sunday they will owe us another $100, plus the $140 for electric, plus $80 if I don't find a paying client by Friday to cover their half until they pay us back...$340.

3). My girlfriend has already told them that they need to be out of here by the end of this month. His response is "I know." When he says "I know," it means "Fuck you, I already heard that, and I don't want to hear it again."

4). My girlfriend told me this morning that she yelled at him over all of this. I told her "I told them when we let them come here that I cannot support them." I have also gotten her to the point where she has agreed to an eviction. If his ass is sitting on the sofa when we get up on November 1st, we are going back to magistrate's court and filing the paperwork. Period.

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Miles Archer

(18,837 posts)
2. Yeah, but i'm holding the rage in, and it's not a good thing to do
Wed Oct 4, 2017, 10:26 AM
Oct 2017

It's my girlfriend's house, her son, I can't do anything until she signs off on it, and I am not financially able to pick up and leave.

At least she got herself to the point where she's fed up. If the power goes off on Friday night, I don't think she'll feel like enabling him after that.

panader0

(25,816 posts)
3. A friend of mine went through something like this recently.
Wed Oct 4, 2017, 10:42 AM
Oct 2017

He made a verbal agreement with his nephew to rent his house. My friend moved
to Phoenix, and the nephew missed payments repeatedly. He told his nephew
that he needed to sell the house to help pay for the new house in Phoenix.
The kid wouldn't leave and stopped answering the phone. My friend eventually
had to call the cops and get him evicted. An ugly scene all around.

Miles Archer

(18,837 posts)
5. Web Designer in a small, cheap town. Self employed.
Wed Oct 4, 2017, 10:57 AM
Oct 2017

We have been doing OK.

We end up not OK when her son doubles our electric bill, tells us "OK" when we remind him of the due date, and tells us 22 days before we have to pay it "I have no money." You just don't flip clients that fast in this town. I did it once...went in, and the next day went back for a check. It's usually a few conversations, either online, on the phone, or in person, and then they become a client.

AJT

(5,240 posts)
6. I spent 35 years in IT.......it was a nice living but I did not enjoy it at all.
Wed Oct 4, 2017, 11:03 AM
Oct 2017

I hope your home life gets easier.

Miles Archer

(18,837 posts)
7. Thank you
Wed Oct 4, 2017, 11:09 AM
Oct 2017

My background is also in IT, back to the 90s. I was primarily a Project Manager and worked for companies like Cisco. Hated the environment. Was part of the 8500+ layoffs in June 2001. Started my own business the day I walked out the door.

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