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Hi, DU.
My twin sister was admitted into a hospice in La Mesa yesterday. She is dying of bone cancer and she doesn't have much time left. I am going to try to get to CA next week but about passed out when I saw hotel prices for places around there. Over $200/night for a Motel 6??? Jeeze. Am wondering if anyone has any ideas for alternate housing? I will probably try to see if an Air B&B is any cheaper so suggestions for those would also be welcome.
I guess while I'm at it, we also need to rent a car. Any suggestions on what might be cheaper options besides the usual suspects?
I knew Cali was expensive, but every time I've been in the past decade it's been to visit with her in/on the Baja. I most definitely am suffering from sticker shock!
Thanks for any ideas!
UPDATE: I cannot believe I'm typing this, but my sister just died. Thank you all for caring.
Easterncedar
(2,298 posts)Some oncology programs offer places for family to stay.
Im sorry for you and your sister. Hugs.
babylonsister
(171,066 posts)will call this hospice tomorrow and ask. Thanks for that!
MOMFUDSKI
(5,546 posts)stay in her house?
babylonsister
(171,066 posts)Rosarito, MX. Way too far and crossing that border is a bear without a resident pass.
Phoenix61
(17,006 posts)Its nice to have the full kitchen and on-site washer/dryer access.
babylonsister
(171,066 posts)sheshe2
(83,785 posts)They can help that is what they are there for. They are not there solely for the patient, they are there for the family.
They were good and so helpful when I needed them while taking care of mom. I had been called to Federal jury duty, that is 18 months service, when it was just 2 of us doing home care for mom. It was solved immediately.
Bsis, so sorry to hear about your sis.
Love and hugs to you and yours.
Peace to you and yours.
babylonsister
(171,066 posts)social worker, her husband had been taking care of her until it got to be too much.
And thanks, she. We all have our crosses to bear, this is a big one.
sheshe2
(83,785 posts)At least they do in MA. I had no clue until my sister told me.
babylonsister
(171,066 posts)She no longer texts or talks on phone, so don't know yet what's going on.
sheshe2
(83,785 posts)blm
(113,063 posts)of patients at affordable rates.
Holding you in my heart, babysis. 💗
babylonsister
(171,066 posts)And thanks, my friend.
wryter2000
(46,051 posts)The medical center where I worked built a new hospital a few years ago. All the rooms are private, and all have a bed/couch for someone to stay with the patient. I don't know how many hospitals do that, but it's worth asking.
And calling the hospice or the social worker is a good idea. They may have other ideas for you. Wishing you strength at this difficult time and a peaceful passing for your sister.
BTW, DU has a bereavement group you can check out for support.
babylonsister
(171,066 posts)but I have my bf coming with me for support,to drive and because he offered. Plus, her hubby, son, daughter, might want to stay with her. Yes, I'll be calling hospice.
And thank you!
wryter2000
(46,051 posts)I hope everything will work out as good for you and her as it can.
quaint
(2,564 posts)LoisB
(7,206 posts)hospice care, hopefully that person has suggestions. May she cross peacefully. Hugs to you and your family.