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Related: About this forumReddit Users Attempt to Shame Sikh Woman -- Get Righteously Schooled
This article has nothing to do directly with the LGBT community but I wanted to share it as an amazing example of how one person responded with grace and graciousness after being unfairly maligned for her appearance.
All too often we suffer from such unfair and ugly treatment. It's so easy to respond with equal ugliness... too easy.
http://jezebel.com/5946643/reddit-users-attempt-to-shame-sikh-woman-get-righteously-schooled
Here's a snippet:
A Reddit user going by the handle "european_douchebag" posted a surreptitious photo of a Sikh woman with the caption "i'm not sure what to conclude from this." The user's apparent confusion stems from the fact that the womanbound by her religion not to cut her hair or alter her bodyhas an abundance of dark, untrimmed facial hair. The mind of european_douchebag was SO INCREDIBLY BLOWN by the fact that women have hair on their bodiesand, yes, facesand that some women are bold, self-assured, and pious enough not to cave to western beauty standards (and gender expectations), there was nothing for him to do but post her photo online and wait for the abuse to flood in.
But then something totally lovely and unexpected happened. The woman in the photo responded:Hey, guys. This is Balpreet Kaur, the girl from the picture. I actually didn't know about this until one of my friends told on facebook. If the OP wanted a picture, they could have just asked and I could have smiled However, I'm not embarrased or even humiliated by the attention [negative and positve] that this picture is getting because, it's who I am. Yes, I'm a baptized Sikh woman with facial hair. Yes, I realize that my gender is often confused and I look different than most women. However, baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body - it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being [which is genderless, actually] and, must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will. Just as a child doesn't reject the gift of his/her parents, Sikhs do not reject the body that has been given to us. By crying 'mine, mine' and changing this body-tool, we are essentially living in ego and creating a seperateness between ourselves and the divinity within us. By transcending societal views of beauty, I believe that I can focus more on my actions.
When I grow up, I want to be as wise, gracious, and confident as this young lady. Universe, give me patience against those who hate me for simply existing.
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Reddit Users Attempt to Shame Sikh Woman -- Get Righteously Schooled (Original Post)
HillWilliam
May 2013
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Baitball Blogger
(46,737 posts)1. Graciousness is a lost art.
A Little Weird
(1,754 posts)2. Nice to see that he apologized
That is a rare occurrence on the internet. Good story.
eomer
(3,845 posts)3. Her comment might offend as well.
She seems to be saying that anyone who shaves is...
... crying 'mine, mine' and changing this body-tool, ... essentially living in ego and creating a seperateness between ourselves and the divinity within us.
Gracious would have been to explain that it is *her way* of "honoring the divine will" but that others may choose different ways, may choose to instead honor their natural bodies (no divinity involved), or may not see any issue of honoring anything in the choices of how to wear their facial hair and other personal grooming.
Or is she allowed to say those fairly sharp things about others because she says it out of religion?