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xchrom

(108,903 posts)
Sat Mar 24, 2012, 09:34 AM Mar 2012

Bryan Fautley of Queen’s University volleyball comes out, returns to team

http://outsports.com/jocktalkblog/2012/03/23/bryan-fautley-of-queens-university-volleyball-comes-out-returns-to-team/

From Queen’s University in Kingston, Ontario comes a fantastic story about a gay athlete and his redeemed college volleyball team. Bryan Fautley had quit the team in 2010 because he was closeted and could not handle the casual homophobia on his team. When the coach found out the reason for his resignation, she changed the culture of the team and eventually was able to welcome him back. From the Queen’s Journal:

“I still remember team huddles where [players] would say ‘Let’s beat these faggots up’ or ‘We can beat these guys because they’re a bunch of faggots,’” Fautley said. “It’s hard to get amped up for a game when, right before you walk on the court, you hear something like that.”

Fautley was close to a breaking point after a 12-day winter tour through Europe, where he ate, slept, trained and travelled with the team. Before the trip, he was distant from his teammates — now he resented them.

“When someone says a homophobic slur and you’re in the closet, you have no grounds to say anything, so you take it,” he said. “Not only do you take it, but you remember it in your head, and it compounds.'



If anyone tells you that casual homophobia doesn’t have an impact on gay athletes, they should read this article. And if the occasional homophobic slur would drive an athlete to leave a team, imagine the impact of having a coach continually call you a sinner and say you should face discrimination!
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Bryan Fautley of Queen’s University volleyball comes out, returns to team (Original Post) xchrom Mar 2012 OP
I thought you HAD to be gay to play volleyball. Ian David Mar 2012 #1
Ohh not touching this one... Fearless Mar 2012 #3
Oh my. racaulk Mar 2012 #5
And to think some people don't like me because I'm a hard ass & take a zero tolerance policy William769 Mar 2012 #2
It's also pretty bad in online gaming. Ian David Mar 2012 #4

racaulk

(11,550 posts)
5. Oh my.
Sat Mar 24, 2012, 12:17 PM
Mar 2012

That has the be one of the most homoerotic scenes in one of the most homoerotic films of all time.

William769

(55,148 posts)
2. And to think some people don't like me because I'm a hard ass & take a zero tolerance policy
Sat Mar 24, 2012, 09:47 AM
Mar 2012

when it comes to bullshit against the LGBT community.

Guess what? I'm still a hard ass & will put these assholes in their place.

Ian David

(69,059 posts)
4. It's also pretty bad in online gaming.
Sat Mar 24, 2012, 11:48 AM
Mar 2012

When someone says, "That's so gay," I usually respond back with, "You should know. You're an expert on gay."

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