iverglas
seabeyond
laconicsax
Neoma

Her and I strongly disagree on one issue that falls under the umbrella of feminism but I have no doubts that like you she's fair, welcomes diversity, and as a co-host would put the interests of this group first.

Now we have five. A list of 8 or so would be a good number to vote on.

~kick

if there is more than enough, i am so happy to step away.

though i imagine it will all be easy enough without issues or time

you would be great.

what do you say?

i edited cause i heard from bunny and maybe next time, for her.....

Things came up last week in the real world, all of them not good, amd culminating in the death of my partner's mother yesterday (Sunday). Not that the other drek is done with yet, that was just the one thing that one can do without having happen anytime ever, let alone in the midst of all the rest.

Still interested in co-hosting, should be back on track in a week or so.

You'll be a great co-host. Thanks for your interest.

You'll make a great co-host, btw

any woman who is fair, confident in her feminist views. I prefer a real female supporter who does not buy in to the "what about the menzz" meme that is prevalent even in a so-called feminist enviornment. This place needs to be safe where any woman can feel free to discuss anything feminist.

I forgot to congradulate you redqueen.

thank you!

I've just received my first alert and would like to make the next decision based on a consensus of co-hosts of the Feminists forum.

If you've been nominated and would like to serve, please reply here, and we'll see what kind of response we get and go from there.

Thanks!

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i dont think anyone really cares who you put in, and it is only for three months. so, i think who you have is fine. the only thing is i would like to know if crispy or bunny would like to host.

I didn't understand the stuff I read from a few people claiming they were uncomfortable posting in this group, but think it'd be great if any of them agreed to be a co-host, because that'd sure help assuage any feelings of discomfort imo...

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but sometimes I go a few days without time to check in here. Is that a problem?

But I agree with seabeyond - I think anyone you choose will be fine.

on edit: ~lol - see, I haven't been around much & I see you've resolved it.

theirs if they dont get back

But I guess I already said that.

participates in this group has my vote!

You all ROCK!

it isnt going to be any work at all.

how about it? i would love to see you in there.

as some of you Women are!

I sometimes get goosebumps reading ya'lls posts!

I cannot compare. I really enjoy being a part, although small in this group and reading what you all have to say. I am good with that.

but i disagree. you kick ass, with such style and grace.

Sea... seriously. Thank you though!

but so far I'm not sure how many are interested in serving.

iverglas
laconicsax
seabeyond
Neoma
Bunny
Crispy Q

the first four want to.

so I'd like to get a solid 'yes I will serve' before I start adding names.

give them a day, then you can do your thing.

sound good?

i dont do well piddlin once we start something. can you tell?

I'm tickled pink to be on the nomination list. Though, what does it all entail? I've never done it before.

if the alert is about a thread that does not meet the statement of purpose of the forum.

There is no ironclad commandment that we absolutely have to lock threads that don't exactly meet the SOP to the letter, so we can let things slide so long as it isn't disruptive, it's good-natured, and isn't distracting from the purpose of the group.

And of course you'd need to be a regular participant to serve, but that's obvious.

It's DU, non-fiction books, tea and going to the gym.

The first two are handy, and the last two keeps me awake.

lac already confirmed by being in this thread and not opposing. you have FOUR.

but I really would like to give everyone a chance to confirm their willingness to serve. I did look around for the confirmations you mentioned before but I couldn't find them. If you can give me a link or point me in the right direction that'd be great, I must somehow be missing them.

I will go ahead and add Neoma as co-host, there's really no need to wait on that.

did in this thread or another. will find it.

what I'll do is keep adding hosts until we're fairly sure that this is the case. So I'm advocating however many co-hosts we need to reach that point. Sound ok?

I've added you, Neoma, and Crispy already.

Oh and re: laconicsax, I am not seeing what you're seeing in that post.

you got me.

In the interest of transparency, I feel that I should point out that I'm a "he" and not a "she."

I don't mind if anyone wants to keep calling me "she," but it's only fair to let the truth be known.

Thanks for the confirmation, I must be blind but I really couldn't find your earlier statement

that is so cute. isnt it.

I don't know what seybeyond was talking about.

so is it really lying.

i wanted redqueen to get her done,

i have never seen it, or really know who it is.

really, lol. ah ha

btw... this afternnoon after doing this post i asked hubby.

not even a second, he said, yes. lol

i swear. i thought you were a man way back when. then here, i thought you were a woman. no, you are friggin one of those, lol . ah ha. and who says we arent open, a man in the feminist forum. i LOVE it.

oh, the reason everyone is fuckin with me. lately, i am having this happen WAY too much, gender confusion and no one is putting gender on profile. that is a hoot

No malice intended.

Or did I just get unselected?

I wanted to raise another question about the group here.

My preference would be that anyone who chooses to post here not have any other member of the group on "ignore".

I'm not interested in engaging in discussions where somebody in the discussion has chosen not to listen to what any other participant has to say.

Any other feelings?


Edit - I see I did get unselected. Huh.

I just wanted anyone who was nominated to confirm that they were still interested. That one alert on the post about the jury decision was the only one so far, but that did motivate me to try to rustle up some co-hosts pdq.

I actually got kind of tired of typing that I was willing to serve, as I recall, after all the times I had. (Twice above in this thread alone!)


I didn't want to start a whole nother thread about the "ignore" issue, but I would quite like to know what others think.

personally, i dont care. but, i am ok with the rule. whatever others feel, is fine with me.

IMHO having group members on ignore says less about my ability to co-host than having members who are ignoring me. If members are ignoring me they have no confidence in my ability to host in a fair manner.

Of course there's no easy way to figure that out. It seems that the only metric we have is the total of starred members who are ignoring us.

I'm not in contention any way because I wouldn't add to the diversity goal.

Here's what I said, again:

My preference would be that anyone who chooses to post here not have any other member of the group on "ignore".

Now, I can't think of any way of enforcing such a rule anyway. I would just think of it as a principle that people of integrity would adhere to. It just strikes me as bizarrely rude to come on like a member of a group and be ignoring any other member. And I could see it possibly happening, which is why I mentioned it.

I didn't say anything about any co-host, or intend to say anything about co-hosting, or have a thought about co-hosts or co-hosting in my mind.

I just wanted to raise this separate issue and not make a big brouhaha of it by starting a thread about it ...

i really have nothing to do with it. and no, i dont take responsibility because they choose to be offended by a post or just dont like me or are too sensitive or whatever their reason may be. because, again, i have absolutely no power in that.

now, someone wants to ignore me, i dont have a problem at all. i respect their right and choice. i dont have hard feelings. i dont care. i wouldnt hold it against them. that is in my control. that i will accept responsibility for.

This is a "group", of the "protected" variety.

I think members of the group, and the discussions in the group, should be protected from DUers who have chosen to put members of the group on ignore.

Personally, I don't want to participate in any conversation where any participant has chosen to disregard what any other participant has to say!

One person ignoring me, personality conflict.

Multiple people, it's probably something I do that alienates people and I for one would disqualify myself if I knew that was the case. I can't see being an effective host when a number of members have already voted me off the island, so to speak. This is JMHO.

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honestly and fairly, though maybe bluntly. that turns people off. and i am ok with it. i dont want people to have to struggle with what i am "trying" to say. i respect the reader enough to think they are mature enough to handle a different opinion, respectfully. i wont make anyone less, for those that cant handle it. i have my principle and i hold it dear. i dont hold grudges. i listen to others. i try really really hard to be fair. i try to be reasoned and reasonable. but i challenge a lie always. i back the underdog always. i am not afraid to put myself out there for name calling or even abuse because i feel too strongly things have to be said out loud for us to have healing. and with healing, resolutions.

yes, it turns people off.

but i can look myself in the mirror.

i dont think, if non biased, you look at my posts, you will see mean spirited.

i cant do any better than that.

For the record, I don't have anyone at DU on ignore, and have no intention of doing so....

Why should a co-host step down because of the behaviour of someone else, which is something they can't control? If there's some personal crap going on and DUer A puts Duer B on ignore, and DUer B just happens to be a host of a group DUer A posts in, then DUer A can suck it up for all I care, because it's got nothing to do with me and I don't see why the hosting of any group should be affected by someone who could be the most sensitive poppet in the world and have an ignore list as long as a roll of toilet paper. I'm a host both in a group and two forums, and I've got two DUers ignoring me, and I don't know or care who they are, and have no idea if they post in any group or forum I'm a host of...

As to the technicalities of what happens if a host needs to communicate with someone who's got them on ignore, that's not an issue in groups with several co-hosts, and definitely not a problem in the forums. If the person who's ignoring a host is causing problems in the group, they'll be aware of it because of the responses of others in the group, probably long before a host gets involved. Plus, even if someone makes some big announcement that they've got someone else on ignore, only the admin and the person saying it know if it's true or not. So, when it comes to hosts or members who might have someone on ignore or have someone claiming they're ignoring someone else, let's just not be bothered about it, as it has no effect at all on how a group is run or the experience anyone else has in that group...

Back to the subject of this thread, I noticed the other day that iverglas was the only nominee who'd accepted hosting who's been left off as a host. I hope it's rectified sooner rather than later...

were too high-pitched to be heard, seems to have been the case.

I fly by night ...

But there I am now!

I guess the only way one could guess that someone here has one on ignore is if one spoke directly to them seeking a response and none was given ... I have never had anyone on ignore either, and I still don't like the idea of participating in a conversation where anyone has any other participant on ignore ... in a protected group sharing common interests and values, it just doesn't strike me as evidence of goodwill, but like most other things, it isn't likely to be an issue.

Very few people seem to use ignore now that it's an inflexible option. One person having me on ignore is a personality conflict. If five or ten people in a group this size have me on ignore that suggests the problem is me.

There is no practical way to find out who has someone on ignore, so it's moot.

fail that test, but I also guess it depends on how one defines "members" ...

to fill the role, lol

I currently have 17 ignoring me, 18 blocking PMs.

I'll leave it for the group to decide if I should step down over it.

they are jumped all over and put on ignore cause they are harping. i imagine about anyone who is vocal has someone ignoring them. that may take us back to ..... no host or cohost

Or else somebody misread the memo:

I'm 16 & 19. A tie on the total, though!

Did 19 people actually think I wanted to send them PMs??

Used to be you could tell whether somebody was ignoring you by clicking to send them a PM.

If they had you on ignore, you would get a message saying the member did not wish to receive mail. (Very tactful; it really meant they did not wish to receive mail from you.)

I've been testing it out and wondering whether that's still the same. Any idea?