just search harry enfield kevin in youtube. The ones with his mate Perry are good too.

a family dysfunction that's being ignored.

I grew up with an incredibly authoritarian father with an explosive personality. He wanted to me follow his orders (not suggestions, not instructions, not lessons) without question even when they were ill-conceived. His mantra was "I may not always be right but I'm never wrong." Although young and not finished growing up, I instinctively knew not to trust his judgment on many things and inevitably I found myself challenging him, more and more in frustration and anger. I tried to articulate rational arguments against his orders and usually failed.

My father then got it in his head that my challenging him was a mental disorder, oppositional defiance disorder". In other words, I was pathologically inclined to argue arbitrarily against authority without thinking and that wasn't a good thing. He went as far as saying I needed "severe mental therapy". As he was a doctor with connections, I cringed in fear that meant electroshock therapy, commitment into an institution, and a regime of psychotropic medications, destroying my mind and personality, rendering me helpless permanently.

Fortunately, nothing happened beyond the rhetoric. I did seek psychological assistance and unburdened myself to a therapist for a few years and gained the tools to deal with my father.

The Point: We had a toxic, dysfunctional family and my father was looking for a label to put on me to blame the trouble on.