You Can Do It! Twenty six and a half years sober, and I loved the booze...too much. Best to you bif!

Does MIL know you are working on sobriety? Is she supportive? Can someone else bring her home?

And, what is in your glass, that's your business.


My first sober Holiday party, I was very suprised at how people moved & walked under the influence.

We got you brother

It helps me now and again to have someone who "gets it" to make a quick phone call to, and triage my level of "uncomfortable/resentful".

Can your wife and her mother go in one car, and you in another so you can cut out when YOU need to?

Your sobriety COMES FIRST.

It has to.

helpfully,
Bright

And my MIL doesn't drive any more, so we can't really take two cars. And they're her old friends, so she may want to stay later than I do. Just have to make it work.

than a perceived slight. She knows your struggle, she has to understand. This is a time you need to be 'selfish'.

Sorry, just saw your previous post. Good luck anyway. Every day's a new challenge.

Than in years past when you stay sober. Don't be afraid to use the forum here to get support live while you're there. I'm on the site most weekends from my phone. <or> as an up-post mentioned, take some sober friends' numbers w you.

If you're uncomfortable and need to leave. I'm guessing your friend knows you're in recovery, but another thing I've found helpful is to have a glass/cup in your hand - coffee, soda, whatever you drink - so those who don't know are unlikely to offer you anything. Good luck and remember to breathe...

Of course, we stayed later than I wanted and had to drive down unlight, 2-lane roads at night, which I hate. But I didn't drink at all. However, I must admit, I didn't have a great time. It really was a lot more fun back when I was drinking. But this is my new life, and I just have to make the best of it. Thanks for all your supportive words/comments.