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bif

(22,733 posts)
Mon Apr 24, 2023, 10:03 AM Apr 2023

A challenging event over the weekend...

Celebrated Greek Easter a week late at my B-I-L's house. Big family gathering. It was okay for a couple hours, but we ended up staying over 6 hours. I was one of the only adults not drinking. I like to joke that my wife isn't happy unless we're the last ones to leave. The last two hours were almost intolerable. The adults were pretty well behaved, but the younger ones were on a mission to get hammered. Thank god that's over!

I've been clean for around 4 1/2 years. I rarely think about drinking. But once in a while, I have a tough time hanging out with drinkers. But I made it through this event okay.

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bif

(22,733 posts)
3. Ha! Good one!
Mon Apr 24, 2023, 11:17 AM
Apr 2023

She's been like this for the 40 years we've been married! I even said on our way over there, "If we're not the last ones to leave, I won't mind." (Crickets chirping). Oh well, I got through it.

Rhiannon12866

(205,766 posts)
5. Are there any other non drinkers that you can hang out with?
Wed Apr 26, 2023, 02:21 AM
Apr 2023

Pre-pandemic I'd go to yearly reunions with the girls I grew up with from summer camp. Four of them are close friends who know I don't drink, they know my story and are considerate, they'll ask me if I mind if they have a glass of wine with dinner, which I don't. And one friend rarely drinks, either, so I usually hang out with her. But on one of our more recent gatherings there were a couple of girls who came together and brought wine with them which they had to have at every meal. They even asked my non-drinking friend if she had a corkscrew. The smell made me nauseous since the worst of the two sat right across from me so I finally just went for a walk. And I'll have 14 years sober next week, so I've tried to learn to make plans for these occasions.

bif

(22,733 posts)
6. That's who I ended up spending the most time with
Wed Apr 26, 2023, 10:52 AM
Apr 2023

My sister-in-law and my wife's cousin. Neither one really drinks.

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