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hamsterjill

(15,222 posts)
Mon Apr 21, 2014, 01:31 PM Apr 2014

Going to be saying goodbye to my daughter's 20 year old kitty this afternoon.

We're going to be saying goodbye later today to my daughter's 20 year old cat, Isis. My daughter is 30, so this kitty has been with her for 2/3rds of her life. The kitty was obviously raised at my house, too, before my daughter grew up, finished college, moved out and married.

God, I don't know what hurts more. Knowing that Isis will not be with us any longer, or watching my daughter's pain over the loss. But it's time.

Isis has had kidney issues for many years amazingly handled by an AMAZING cat specialist. For her to have lived to be 20 is phenomenal. About three weeks ago, she went into full renal failure, and was given only days to live. My son-in-law was on his two week National Guard stint, and it was important to my daughter that he get back to be able see Isis before she passed. This must have been important to Isis, too, because she stayed long enough to see him again.

She's been seen by a vet every day during this ordeal, so that we had an expert opinion as to whether she was in pain, etc. She had to have sub q fluids, and we opted to have those administered at the vet's office, which allowed for the evaulation of her on a daily basis, too. On the weekends when the clinic was closed, one of the vet tech's came to the house. Everyone has been so very kind to us!!! We wanted to make sure we weren't being cruel to her in letting her stay. Her appetite has been good and her activity level has been pretty good for a 20 year old.

My son-in-law returned over the weekend. Yesterday, Isis started going downhill, and it's clear that it's time for us to say goodbye.

It's just really a very sad day. Our entire family loves our furrbabies and they are each and every one of them a part of our family.

There will be many waiting for Isis at the Rainbow Bridge today. She will be young and free and whole again.

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Going to be saying goodbye to my daughter's 20 year old kitty this afternoon. (Original Post) hamsterjill Apr 2014 OP
Mercy shenmue Apr 2014 #1
Very sorry. Have been through it. Sounds like your buddy and family Hoyt Apr 2014 #2
We've gone through this a few times too ginnyinWI Apr 2014 #3
Absolutely. hamsterjill Apr 2014 #4
Gentle crossing to dear Isis, Granny M Apr 2014 #5
It's never easy. Mz Pip Apr 2014 #6
I am so sorry to hear this. Curmudgeoness Apr 2014 #7
Very sorry to hear you are going through this. It seems unbearable. Judi Lynn Apr 2014 #8
Safe passage, Isis eridani Apr 2014 #9
I'm so very sorry... Phentex Apr 2014 #10
I am so sorry for your loss... virgdem Apr 2014 #11
Thank you to ALL for the kind words. hamsterjill Apr 2014 #12
Thank you for your follow-up. It's good she was with her closest loved ones, and not suffering. n/t Judi Lynn Apr 2014 #15
Stop making me cry and bringing back memories Auntie Bush Apr 2014 #13
It hurts. It really hurts. No easy way forward. Stinky The Clown Apr 2014 #14
I'm so sorry for your loss TorchTheWitch Apr 2014 #16
 

Hoyt

(54,770 posts)
2. Very sorry. Have been through it. Sounds like your buddy and family
Mon Apr 21, 2014, 01:50 PM
Apr 2014

had a wonderful 20 years together. Take care.

ginnyinWI

(17,276 posts)
3. We've gone through this a few times too
Mon Apr 21, 2014, 04:16 PM
Apr 2014

My eldest got a kitten when she was a two-year-old and grew up with her. Didn't get a real sibling until she was five, so she and Kitty were best buddies. Kitty lived to 17, and my daughter was 19 at the time. Later, when she was living on her own she got another cat who lived to be 19 and then she had to say goodbye to another long-time friend.

My younger daughter grew up with our black cat, Tim from the time he was born,when she was almost 9 years old. 18 years later she had to say goodbye during a visit home at Thanksgiving several years ago. Kidney failure was claiming him and she knew it was the last goodbye.

The ones they grow up with are the hardest to part with. But there are many other cats awaiting adoption into good homes. There is nothing like a kitty.

hamsterjill

(15,222 posts)
4. Absolutely.
Mon Apr 21, 2014, 04:54 PM
Apr 2014

The time element is wonderful, but it makes the parting harder I believe.

As to the adoption, Mom (i.e., "me&quot is in rescue. As soon as daughter and son-in-law are ready (and each person's time table for that is different), another will leave a shelter and go to a great home.

Mz Pip

(27,451 posts)
6. It's never easy.
Mon Apr 21, 2014, 06:35 PM
Apr 2014

My thoughts are with you. We do the best we can, but eventually time just runs out. Isis had a wonderful long life with you and your family; I'm sure she appreciated it.

Curmudgeoness

(18,219 posts)
7. I am so sorry to hear this.
Mon Apr 21, 2014, 07:55 PM
Apr 2014

You did well to have a 20 year old kitty, and their lives are never long enough. I am sure that the vet told you that renal failure is not a painful way to go. I lost a cat to renal failure, but she never was in pain, just weakened and weakened. I was told that the toxins kept her in a rather intoxicated state instead of pain. That was reassuring to me.

Judi Lynn

(160,554 posts)
8. Very sorry to hear you are going through this. It seems unbearable.
Mon Apr 21, 2014, 10:40 PM
Apr 2014

Hard to believe such a small being could claim so much of one's heart, but it certainly can, and will.

Best hopes go to you all, and your dearest tiny friend.

Phentex

(16,334 posts)
10. I'm so very sorry...
Tue Apr 22, 2014, 07:48 AM
Apr 2014

it's never easy. And that's a LONG time to be in your daughter's life! Hugs to all!

virgdem

(2,126 posts)
11. I am so sorry for your loss...
Tue Apr 22, 2014, 11:38 AM
Apr 2014

I know what you are going through. I lost my Sammy in 2012 and she was 20 at the time. We had kidney issues from the time she was 15, but we administered sub q to her for almost 6 years. Until she was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor in her abdomen three weeks before she died, she was in relatively good health. It's so hard to lose them when they have been with you for so long. May you have peace in the coming days.

RIP Isis

hamsterjill

(15,222 posts)
12. Thank you to ALL for the kind words.
Tue Apr 22, 2014, 12:36 PM
Apr 2014

It was a very gentle passing yesterday, with Isis in my daughter's arms and my daughter whispering a lullaby to her as she left us.

Isis had what I hope was a wonderful life. She is already missed greatly, and she will ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS be loved and remembered.

Judi Lynn

(160,554 posts)
15. Thank you for your follow-up. It's good she was with her closest loved ones, and not suffering. n/t
Wed Apr 23, 2014, 03:15 AM
Apr 2014

Auntie Bush

(17,528 posts)
13. Stop making me cry and bringing back memories
Tue Apr 22, 2014, 05:27 PM
Apr 2014

of our 17 year old doggie. Maybe they will see each other at Rainbow Ridge.

RIP Isis. Blessings to all who loved her. I can just imagine the tears flowing as you wrote this.

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