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1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts) Wed Dec 23, 2015, 12:24 PM Dec 2015

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* Posted to the caring African-American Group *

As some know, over the Thanksgiving Holiday, my 91 year old mother was admitted into the hospital with congestive heart failure.

I have spent to past month in Cleveland, OH, by her bed side. She has, since, been transferred to a skilled care facility. While she survived the immediate crisis, her health is failing, and my sister and I will be making the Hospice decision shortly.

I have made the decision to travel back to Tucson to spend Christmas with my daughter and my wife; but, suspect I will be making a return trip to Cleveland in a matter of days (weeks).

This morning, I received word that a co-worker, and family friend's mother-in-law, has been given less than a day to live ... so, during this holiday season, and, really, in everyone's daily to day life, I implore you to keep things in perspective ... this primary season ... politics, in general ... and most of the things we concern ourselves with, pale in comparison to telling those you love, that you love them.

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*** Posted to the caring African-American Group *** (Original Post) 1StrongBlackMan Dec 2015 OP

Peace be with you my friend. lovemydog Dec 2015 #1

I'm sorry it's hard 1sbm JackInGreen Dec 2015 #2

Wise words. brer cat Dec 2015 #3

You and your family will be in my prayers Gothmog Dec 2015 #4

Sending warm thoughts and encouragement. n/t snpsmom Dec 2015 #5

Yeah, no kidding. It is so easy for us to lose perspective. randys1 Dec 2015 #6

best wishes to you and your family.... mike_c Dec 2015 #7

My best to you and your family, safe travels George II Dec 2015 #8

great post mgmaggiemg Dec 2015 #9

Love and light my friend. redwitch Dec 2015 #10

. AtheistCrusader Dec 2015 #11

Sorry to hear this. Enjoy the time with you family and then jwirr Dec 2015 #12

Sending healing wishes and thoughts to you 1SBM geardaddy Dec 2015 #13

I am sorry. murielm99 Dec 2015 #14

I'm sorry - I didn't realize this was going on JustAnotherGen Dec 2015 #15

Sorry to hear about all of your troubles. blackspade Dec 2015 #16

in the end, there is only the love in your life and in your heart that matters. I am roguevalley Dec 2015 #17

Good God, truer words have never, EVER been said on this web site Number23 Dec 2015 #18

((hugs)) to you and your family. xo Starry Messenger Dec 2015 #19

Wishing all of you peace and love. wildeyed Dec 2015 #20

1SBM, I wish there was a word stronger than empathy Kind of Blue Dec 2015 #21

"Tell those you love that you love them" Especially our Moms. leftofcool Dec 2015 #22

lovemydog

(11,833 posts)

1. Peace be with you my friend.

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 12:34 PM

Dec 2015

This is so true. We must keep things in perspective. We all have friends and loved ones in need. Tell those you love, that you love them. So true. I love you and all my friends here.

JackInGreen

(2,975 posts)

2. I'm sorry it's hard 1sbm

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 12:38 PM

Dec 2015

Youve wise words, good advice, I hope it gets easier if it can't get better.

brer cat

(24,578 posts)

3. Wise words.

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 12:42 PM

Dec 2015

I will be keeping you in my thoughts, 1SBM. It is not an easy time.

Gothmog

(145,344 posts)

4. You and your family will be in my prayers

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 12:44 PM

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snpsmom

(682 posts)

5. Sending warm thoughts and encouragement. n/t

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 12:51 PM

Dec 2015

randys1

(16,286 posts)

6. Yeah, no kidding. It is so easy for us to lose perspective.

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 01:00 PM

Dec 2015

May ALL of us have a KICK ASS, MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

P.S. tell your mom you are someone who has made a difference...because you have, in my life and many others.

mike_c

(36,281 posts)

7. best wishes to you and your family....

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 01:34 PM

Dec 2015

I'm traveling after christmas to check on my mother too. She's a bit younger than your mother and still in reasonable, if somewhat precarious health. Safe travels, and peace.

George II

(67,782 posts)

8. My best to you and your family, safe travels

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 01:49 PM

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mgmaggiemg

(869 posts)

9. great post

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 02:01 PM

Dec 2015

I may the universe grant you inner peace and invisible hands and kindness of strangers reach out to help you through this challenging time; thank-you for helping us to "keep it all in perspective" Cheers, Maggie

redwitch

(14,944 posts)

10. Love and light my friend.

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 02:12 PM

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AtheistCrusader

(33,982 posts)

11. .

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 02:16 PM

Dec 2015

Bad timing, but there's never a good time, really. I'm glad you were able to spend time with her.

jwirr

(39,215 posts)

12. Sorry to hear this. Enjoy the time with you family and then

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 02:28 PM

Dec 2015

go back refreshed with their love to spend the rest of your mother's time with her.

Good advice for all. Thank you.

geardaddy

(24,931 posts)

13. Sending healing wishes and thoughts to you 1SBM

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 03:00 PM

Dec 2015

murielm99

(30,745 posts)

14. I am sorry.

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 03:20 PM

Dec 2015

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

JustAnotherGen

(31,828 posts)

15. I'm sorry - I didn't realize this was going on

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 03:26 PM

Dec 2015

Safe travels and best of the Universe to your mom.

blackspade

(10,056 posts)

16. Sorry to hear about all of your troubles.

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 03:30 PM

Dec 2015

I know that anything I can say sounds like a platitude, but I hope that the new year is a better one.
Take care of your mom and peace to you and the rest of your family.

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)

17. in the end, there is only the love in your life and in your heart that matters. I am

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 05:21 PM

Dec 2015

so very sorry about this for you and your family. She sounds like a wonderful woman. Please go with my best wishes for you and your family. Hugs and everything good, 1StrongBlackMan.

Number23

(24,544 posts)

18. Good God, truer words have never, EVER been said on this web site

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 06:05 PM

Dec 2015

I implore you to keep things in perspective ... this primary season ... politics, in general ... and most of the things we concern ourselves with, pale in comparison to telling those you love, that you love them.

Your family is so lucky to have you.

Happy Holidays, 1SBM.

Starry Messenger

(32,342 posts)

19. ((hugs)) to you and your family. xo

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 06:12 PM

Dec 2015

wildeyed

(11,243 posts)

20. Wishing all of you peace and love.

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 07:00 PM

Dec 2015

So sorry that you and yours are going through such a difficult time, particularly during the holiday season.

Kind of Blue

(8,709 posts)

21. 1SBM, I wish there was a word stronger than empathy

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 07:54 PM

Dec 2015

because I couldn't be more right there with you and your sentiments.

Thanks for the reminder not only to feel gratitude, that also brings perspective, and to spread it.

Sending my good wishes, comfort for your Mom, and the best outcome for your family during this season and beyond. Amen.

leftofcool

(19,460 posts)

22. "Tell those you love that you love them" Especially our Moms.

Reply to 1StrongBlackMan (Original post)

Wed Dec 23, 2015, 09:00 PM

Dec 2015

Peace and comfort to your family this Christmas,

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