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cbayer

(146,218 posts)
Sun Jan 19, 2014, 12:59 PM Jan 2014

Allah vs atheism: ‘Leaving Islam was the hardest thing I’ve done’

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/allah-vs-atheism-leaving-islam-was-the-hardest-thing-ive-done-9069598.html


A growing number of Muslims are speaking out about losing their faith, but it can mean being shunned by their families, or even threatened with death. Sarah Morrison meets the atheists

SARAH MORRISON Sunday 19 January 2014

Amal Farah, a 32-year-old banking executive, is laughing about a contestant singing off-key in the last series of The X Factor. For a woman who was not allowed to listen to music when she was growing up, this is a delight. After years of turmoil, she is in control of her own life.

On the face of it, she is a product of modern Britain. Born in Somalia to Muslim parents, she grew up in Yemen and came to the UK in her late teens. After questioning her faith, she became an atheist and married a Jewish lawyer. But this has come at a cost. When she turned her back on her religion, she was disowned by her family and received death threats. She has not seen her mother or her siblings for eight years. None of them have met her husband or daughter.

“It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done – telling my observant family that I was having doubts. My mum was shocked; she began to cry. It was very painful for her. When she realised I actually meant it, she cut communication with me,” said Ms Farah. “She was suspicious of me being in contact with my brothers and sisters. She didn’t want me to poison their heads in any way. I felt like a leper and I lived in fear. As long as they knew where I was, I wasn’t safe.”

This is the first time Ms Farah has spoken publicly about her experience of leaving her faith, after realising that she did not want to keep a low profile for ever. She is an extreme case – her mother, now back in Somalia, has become increasingly radical in her religious views. But Ms Farah is not alone in wanting to speak out.

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Allah vs atheism: ‘Leaving Islam was the hardest thing I’ve done’ (Original Post) cbayer Jan 2014 OP
So how do we tolerate beliefs but not actions in this case? trotsky Jan 2014 #1
Of course it's ok...we have to be tolerant skepticscott Jan 2014 #2
You'll notice I got no response. trotsky Jan 2014 #9
Seems to skepticscott Jan 2014 #10
That's because you're on ignore. rug Jan 2014 #11
At least she has the support of a substantial segment of the society she lives in Fumesucker Jan 2014 #3
While the UK is not without problems due to religious tensions, she sure is cbayer Jan 2014 #4
It wasn't Somalia I was thinking of so much Fumesucker Jan 2014 #5
Ah, yes. Within her current community. cbayer Jan 2014 #8
It must be very hard on her that her family has abandoned her. hrmjustin Jan 2014 #6
We have had some first hand experience with this. cbayer Jan 2014 #7

trotsky

(49,533 posts)
1. So how do we tolerate beliefs but not actions in this case?
Sun Jan 19, 2014, 01:01 PM
Jan 2014

Is it OK if her family hates her because she left her religion, they just can't shun her? How would you stop that?

 

skepticscott

(13,029 posts)
2. Of course it's ok...we have to be tolerant
Sun Jan 19, 2014, 01:15 PM
Jan 2014

of her family's hate and the way they are treating her, because their "deep and abiding faith" tells them they must. If we don't respect or "tolerate" their beliefs and feelings, we're just intolerant bigots. Or so goes the story around some dinner tables.

trotsky

(49,533 posts)
9. You'll notice I got no response.
Mon Jan 20, 2014, 06:06 PM
Jan 2014

Because all some people want to do is attack, divide, and silence other points of view, apparently.

 

skepticscott

(13,029 posts)
10. Seems to
Mon Jan 20, 2014, 06:37 PM
Jan 2014

run in the family. Which is a shame. It'd be nice if the actions matched the preaching.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
11. That's because you're on ignore.
Mon Jan 20, 2014, 11:32 PM
Jan 2014

Because all some people want to do is attack, divide, and silence other points of view, apparently. Oh, and use personal attacks to snipe at people who have them on ignore, knowing there will be no rebuttal.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
4. While the UK is not without problems due to religious tensions, she sure is
Sun Jan 19, 2014, 01:17 PM
Jan 2014

better off there than Somalia.

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
7. We have had some first hand experience with this.
Sun Jan 19, 2014, 01:36 PM
Jan 2014

Our daughter married a Pakistani Muslim. At first, I didn't really understand what he was going to have to face from his family, but it was very difficult and very intense. He has not proclaimed himself an atheist, and I don't think he is one, but he has many things he must keep secret from his family.

In the days of Facebook, this can be very, very difficult.

At any rate, with everyone giving a little, things are working out ok. Nobody has taken such a rigid stand and everyone has compromised a bit.

I'm sorry that she does not have the same thing, but maybe over time….

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