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Related: About this forum10 Things I wish the Atheists at DU knew about Theists at DU (at least this one)
1. We are firmly in favor of the separation of church and state. It is one of the basic protections for all of us.
2. We believe that it is acceptable to share beliefs and non-beiefs respectfully on DU and elsewhere.
3. Some of us find Satanic and flying spaghetti displays humorous.
4. A few of us were once agnostics or atheists and have since become theists.
5. There are far more progressive theists then you realize. Just as the extremely vocal atheist drowned out the ones who are live and let live, so too, are we drowned out by the screaming RWRNJs (right wing religious nut jobs).
6. This theist is not interested in proselytizing or being proselytized.
7. Theism is not is not a conservative phenomenon; there are politically liberal theists libertarian theists, and other theists who could not reasonable be described as liberal.
8. Theists are not universally homophobic, racists or generally hate filled humans.
9. There are good and bad theists just as there are good and bad atheists. This is the human condition. People have been killed in the name of god and in the name of a godless state. To argue that either as the basis of morality is disingenuous at best.
10. Most theists are not interested in denying free speech as it is a fundamental right and protection of all. That said it would be helpful to all if the discussions did not devolve into logical fallacies.
Taken all together I wish that atheists and theists at DU would stop seeing each other as enemies but rather, as people of differing opinions who happen to be fundamentally linked by other perhaps more important things.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)If you are only speaking for yourself, you should change the pronouns from "we" to "I."
Apart from that, I would ask only if you have any evidence that "atheists at DU" have stated anything resembling what you are trying to counter in 7, 8, 9, or 10, that would be neat if you could provide it. Otherwise those statements are just arguing against straw men.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)Response to TexasProgresive (Reply #4)
cleanhippie This message was self-deleted by its author.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Your post is directly addressing DU atheists.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)Or does this mean that I can post anything as a quote without explanation and not be thought to be in accord with the quote? If so, thank you for the freedom to be as obnoxious as I wish without repercussions.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)I don't think that is a fair assumption to make at all. Nor is it fair to compare your post (which *specifically* called out "atheists on DU" with the one from mr blur (which made reference to no one at DU).
But if you got angry with mr blur's post, and you think this is the "Christian" way to react (get revenge and make up straw man arguments to mischaracterize the positions of others) then so be it. I'll leave you alone.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)roguevalley
(40,656 posts)presentations something that is decried with every other group but theists get it hard. Thank you for the list. I agree tremendously.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Multiple atheists have now spoken on this thread to object to its massive misrepresentations.
Do you think they're all lying?
mr blur
(7,753 posts)But of course one already knows that, doesn't one?
Disingenuous or dim, which is it?
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)Comment on whether you agreed or disagreed. So as they say, "When you assume you make an ass out of you and me." But without comment what is one to think. My guess is the best thing to do is trash the thread-my bad.
rug
(82,333 posts)Bookmarked.
MFM008
(19,814 posts)A general pronouncement . Nothing to get hostile about. I feel the same way as that statement so now there's a we.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Par for the course. No substance, just snark and personal attacks.
Par for the course. No substance, just snark and personal attacks.
You don't even realize you're doing what you accuse someone else of doing.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Nothing hostile or combative about you is there CH?
rug
(82,333 posts)Since he routinely, when convenient, uses the first person plural, presumably to invoke some invisible forces to add weight to whatever he posts, it's good to have a reminder.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)Duh.
Look closely, you'll see quotation marks.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)when speaking for a large group? Seems like they did?
Fortinbras Armstrong
(4,473 posts)I was saying that such atheists as Stalin and Hoxha used force to try to convert their people to atheism, and several DU atheists disputed this. See http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1218&pid=74023 and succeeding posts.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Fortinbras Armstrong
(4,473 posts)I proved, through actual citations from a thread in the Religion forum, but Trotsky won't look at it, for fear of being proven wrong.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)cbayer
(146,218 posts)I share your wish that people would see more of the things they have in common and less of the differences. Religion can be good. Religion can be bad. Religion isn't going anywhere.
It's imperative to see the good and the good people within religion and build bridges.
Do you have any ideas about things that could be done to accomplish that here?
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)It is evolving, and shrinking at the same time, collectively. The 'nones' category is getting larger, and the remainder theists are increasingly identifying as less religious, more spiritual.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)I appreciate you sharing your feelings on the matter, but what prompted it? Has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what you posted?
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Not really the same thing as what you posted.
And you didn't answer my question: Has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what you posted?
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)It's a simple question. Has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what you posted?
Mr. Blur's post is irrelevant to the question, and it does not in any way, imply anything contrary to what you claim DU Atheists do not know.
Has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what you posted?
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Make up a bunch of outlandish shit, claim DU atheists said it or believe it, and ask why we all can't get along.
Already got the cbayer Stamp of Approval though, so it's all good.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)It's reasonable to think that if there were statements or claims to support his assertions that DU atheists DON'T know the things he wished they did, he would be able to say so.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Seems like this was just an opportunity to bash DU atheists.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)I did not charge any particular DU atheist with anything. I just said what I wish DU atheist would know about theist on DU. Maybe my wish is true, maybe all the atheists at DU already know all 10 things. That would be great.
Perhaps one or the other of us fit this from Hamlet, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks" Could be both, could be neither.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)By "wishing DU atheists would know this" directly implies that DU atheists DON'T know it. I would strongly disagree with that assertion, which is why I asked, "Has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what you posted?"
So for the 3rd or 4th time, I'll ask again.
Has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what you posted?
If not, why did you feel the need to wish they did know that?
Methinks you wear Hamlet too well.
Leontius
(2,270 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)mr blur
(7,753 posts)You are mistaken in your interpretation of the Queen's line. That is not what "protest" originally meant.
And by the way, I am quite capable of saying what I mean - your (deliberate?) misinterpretation of a post I made is your fault, not mine.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)I'm sure there have a few over the years that may have expressed some of these sentiments, but not enough to warrant "wisjing DU atheists knew these things".
Texas' unwillingness to say if he has even seen these things posted before is pretty telling, IMO.
rug
(82,333 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Or is this going to turn into another personal attack by you?
rug
(82,333 posts)Ignoring your own personal attack by suggesting "another" personal attack, your question is far from clear.
It seems to me the quibble you're having is your inference that the poster is stating these are the views on all atheists, including those on DU. That is not the case.
The real issue is whether those positions represent the positions of a significant portion of self-proclaimed atheist, on DU and elsewhere.
That's what my question is attempting to clarify. You suggest it's insignificant. It's not.
Bluenorthwest
(45,319 posts)and laws show us entire nations establishing religiously inspired laws to imprison, whip and even execute gay people. The Catholic Church officially teaches that gay people are inherently disordered and leaders in that church frequently describe us in demonic and Satanic terms. I don't think the numbers are really on your side. American clergy trash talks gay people daily. Daily.
So what do you base this 'most' claim upon? Faith?
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)and myself in particular. I am no fool to not know that there are homophobic theist everywhere. I reject the generalization that all theists are homophobic since I know several myself included who are not.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)confined to mostly Western nations, as currently defined geopolitically, I would say most theists and atheists are NOT homophobic. Many of the religious organizations within these countries that many of these people belong to are still homophobic, however.
rug
(82,333 posts)Do you also believe, outside "the West", they are mostly misogynist?
Do you believe there any other undesirable beliefs, traits or attributes that most outside "the West" have?
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)There are many countries around the world that restrict women's rights, GLBT rights, even making being gay a capital offense. Are these not homophobic in some way? Sexism is also rampant in many parts of the world, including two of the largest countries, India and China, one largely religious, the other largely not. Misogyny is so bad in China that there's a gender imbalance caused by a combination of misogyny and the one child policy.
In addition, I would say there are many beliefs that are endemic outside "the West" that are undesirable, apostasy being a punishable offense, as is blasphemy, along with other limitations on freedom of religion, press, and speech. I could go on.
rug
(82,333 posts)Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)Of the two.
Tbis is the big reason why I oppose cultural relativism, in many cases, most related to civil and human rights, some cultures are better than others.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)*claims* to be an atheist.
And the jury appropriately hid it.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)And thanks to the jury for hiding it.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)with open hostility to atheists in the process. so... um.
Edit: And that poster has been banned (appropriately) from A&A
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Is this the way you make your points now? Damn, I must've really pissed you off. Happy New year!
Hug your bike and your Glock and treat your hamster as well, if not better, than your fellow humans.
I'm sorry you don't share my thoughts about individual rights on marriage. But this atheist believes we should, if we so desire, be free to marry whomever or whatever we like, as long as nobody gets hurt. Maybe you think marriage should only be between humans. I'm sure you are not alone. But we can disagree without you twisting my words to feed the homophobic slurs from the usual suspects. The fact that I think it is OK to marry pets, or objects, or even oneself, does not make me a homophobe. The homophobe is the one who objects to any marriage that is not between a man and woman. Looks like you have extended that to mean any marriage not between humans. Does that make you phobic toward everything non human? Or do you also object to those who marry themselves? Autophobic?
However, I am not offended by your attacks. They only serve to exemplify what the OP is all about.
And the adults in the room understand exactly what is happening.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)You are repeating the 'slippery slope' argument offered by the right wing as an excuse to keep marriage arbitrarily pegged as between heterosexuals only.
You know what you sound like, when you butt into a conversation about same sex marriage with nonsense about marrying things that cannot legally consent to marriage (A legal contract)?
You sound like Rick Santorum.
You sound like this asshole:
- Daniel Heimbach, senior professor of Christian ethics at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary.
You sound like David Barton
"Discussing the Defense of Marriage Act, Barton warned that marriage equality proponents may try to evangelize their belief that marriage shouldnt be between a man and a woman since thats unfair for two men who want to be together, or two women, or a horse and a dog, or whatever it is."
http://www.rightwingwatch.org/content/david-barton-likens-same-sex-marriage-horse-dog-marriage
Here's an in-depth Salon article on the right wing shit you are spouting.
http://www.salon.com/2013/03/10/same_sex_marriage_theyll_just_never_get_it/
And the 'adults in the room' comprise juries, just like the ones that hid your posts on these issues. Which many of us can link you to, in case your memory has become foggy.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Barton and Santorum make their homophobic statements from a position of intolerance. I come from the diametrically opposite position of complete tolerance. You are obviously somewhere in the middle.
I have absolutely no issue with folk marrying their pets or themselves, if they so wish. Marriage is about love and companionship, and is a very personal thing. Neither you, nor the government, nor the church, nor Barton or Santorum have any right to tell anyone who they can marry. So get over it.
You managed to get a 4-3 hide by trying to distort my words. Bully for you. Feel free to alert again. You are obviously on a mission to discredit me, but you are only marginalizing yourself.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)And no, I didn't distort it. You keep not addressing the 'consent' aspect of a legal contract, when you talk about marrying bicycles. You're just handing people like Santorum their 'fear', and being insulting and ridiculous in the process.
And I'm far from the only poster pointing it out.
Keep doubling down on your 'marry a fish' bullshit. Go right ahead.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)who despised atheists, posted ridiculous bullshit about them, but were finally booted when they let their homophobia slip.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I know Mark Charles was banned for being over the top and he returns all the time.
I wonder if the two you are posting about come back often.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)burning in hell, although perhaps not for eternity. As an atheist I have trouble actually being offended by that, since "hell" is just an amusingly stupid idea, but for people who believe that nonsense it is certainly a form of bigotry.
Lordquinton
(7,886 posts)While I don't believe in the concept of hell, and agree with you how silly it is that god banished the one creature he loved the most to never feel his presence again (except when wagering about mortal souls) I am incredibly offended that people live their lives believing that it is real, and some people, including their own children(!) is truly offensive.
It is a belief that kills. Many teens take their own lives from being bullied by their parents, their clergy, their "friends" and it should be a big shame on the christian community as a whole, but all we get when brought up is the stolen from MRA "Not all religions" horsecrap that just further enables the bad ones to actually kill people.
In fact just this week religion took the life of a young trans girl, Leelah Alcorn, she stepped in front of a diesel truck on the highway, her mom claimed it was an accident while on a morning walk, and still misgendered her, and used her wrong name.
No, it's not offensive, it's much more than that.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)It is way past offensive.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)practiced in the art of self-delusion.
I found the 'accident' and the 'my son' posts. Holy shit, self-delusion overdrive.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)First, if you are speaking about DU, no, most of us realize that most theists here are progressive, although if they believe in, for example Mormon or Roman Catholic Christianity, where they actually stand on issues like LGBTQ rights and reproductive health care rights is never clear. How do you categorize somebody who claims to both support LGBTQ rights and believe that "those people" are going to burn in hell? I think they are still homophobic bigots.
Secondly if you are referring to the population of the United States, "believers" are one of the most rightwing demographic categories in the country. So I know what the numbers are, as per Pew and Gallup, and if you have some different numbers cough them up, otherwise there are pretty much just as many progressive theists as I think there are.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)I get the idea that you think progressive theists on DU are rather simple minded at best or lying about how their faith leads them to make correct thought and action, including Dr. King.
44. Self delusion derived from an emotional need to believe in his religion.
There is no "moral arc of the universe", and I doubt Dr. King thought there really was either. It is a great phrase but if one thinks about it for a moment, it is astoundingly obvious that the universe has no morality or purpose and that we are just a flicker of light, a moment of time, and of no consequence. The only moral arc for us is the one we make for ourselves, and I think King, by his deeds, was well aware of that, and was more than willing to use the rhetoric of belief to build that arc.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1218172135
So what is it, am I stupid or lying? Inquiring minds want to know. I promise I won't alert and ask no one else to alert because I truly want to know what you really think about those of us who believe in God. Just let it out, Warren.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)engaged in self-delusion over belief and used the rhetoric of belief to further his progressive agenda. Using rhetorical hyperbole isn't really lying.
How you got from an OP on why smart people believe to "you are either lying or stupid" is an exercise in monumental strawman construction. It is also a case in point of the standard huffery of religious privilege on display daily here on DU.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)So thank you for answering the question, Dr. King was a lying hack.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Unless your claim is that the rhetoric of belief cannot be progressive. Is that your claim?
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)and did not believe in God or was a bamboozler who used others faith in God to further his agenda or he was just an ignorant fool among other ignorant fools. In your wisdom, Warren, show me another way of looking at this.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)deliberately used the rhetoric of belief to advance civil rights. Your choices are bullshit.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)of belief is abusing belief?
That seems like a very silly claim, but you are welcome to it.
Ink Man
(171 posts)John 15:18
If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)The gymnastics you are performing to avoid this question is entertaining, but pointless.
If you're trying to make a larger point, you're failing miserably.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)If not, then you can answer your own question to Warren with either of your answers.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)And you are hrmjustin.
And this whole subthread is ridiculous.
It seems somebody posted an op to get into a fight, not to actually discuss what he wrote.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)It is possible for Warrens analysis to be spot-on, without relying upon King either being stupid, or a liar.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)I don't see how to separate his analysis as you put it and what he posted about "smart" believers. He obviously thinks that smart believers are lying to themselves, others or something else- what?
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)And yes I think that "smart believers" are frequently self deluded about their beliefs. I'm not sure "self deluded" is exactly the same as "lying to your self" but if you get off on that assumption fine.
Now what? The pillory?
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)And in terms of stupid, the question "stupid or lying, which is it?" is in fact stupid.
Fortinbras Armstrong
(4,473 posts)I am quite clear in my stands. I will say that I have not posted them in the Religion group, because I have found the Religion group to be generally nasty.
But here are my stands: I support gay rights. I posted on attending the marriage of a gay couple who are friends of my wife and me in http://www.democraticunderground.com/12215347 I have been asked by my gay younger brother to be his best man when he gets married, and I have every intention of doing so.
I had a vasectomy, about which I wrote in http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1221&pid=3607
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)But if your belief includes a belief in hell and if your belief includes a belief that gay sex is a sin that is worthy of condemnation to hell where does that fit in with your alleged lack of bigotry?
DeadLetterOffice
(1,352 posts)niyad
(113,336 posts)a good many theists out in the world, busily trying to cram their beliefs into every segment of our society. they HATE the separation of church and state.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)Response to TexasProgresive (Original post)
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TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)I doubt any will except as above the odd troll or 2.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)You accuse DU atheists of not knowing these things you wished they knew, yet cannot or will not give even a single example of anyone not knowing these things.
Either you've made terribly ignorant assumptions about DU atheists or are fabricating issues where there are none, which is dishonest.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)You obviously hit a nerve.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Texas cannot or will not respond to queries about where he gets these ideas that DU atheists don't know these things.
How about you, justin, has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what he posted? who, where?
pinto
(106,886 posts)Racism, sexism, homophobia, or other expressions of bigotry exist in most any identifiable "group". Politicians, religions, educators, health care professionals, academics, the media, your own town or local neighborhood - all have their share of bigots.
Many of them - rightly - get the larger share of exposure in the public sphere. Yet they often aren't representative of the larger group. The perception, though, hangs out there without any follow up. Media generally highlights the bad stuff that happens. That's news - it's often been their bread and butter. And then they move on.
The focus on those segments need not be the end of the story, though.
It can lead to addressing the issue. Not only from without but from within. Broad brushing a group for the actions of a few, or even a sizable portion of a group, essentially cuts off others in the group from support for change. And, in my view, they need allies and a larger voice if any change for the good is to occur.
That includes support for us all to take some responsibility for change. Both from within and without any group. We shouldn't walk away from the latest report of another example of bigotry with a shrug or an assumption that it is and will always be this way.
(on follow up) I'm obviously discounting some extreme social outliers - i.e. the KKK, neo-Nazis and that ilk.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Not once in this thread have you answered this question. You HAVE deflected at every turn, any attempt to get an answer, which speaks volumes about the honesty and value of your post.
I'll ask again...
Has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what you posted?
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)He accusses DU atheists of not knowing these things and wished they did. Where the hell did he get that idea? He won't say, can you?
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)I never accused any DUer of not knowing those things. I wished that they know them. Perhaps my wish was already fulfilled. I don't know you seem to have all the answers- except for what Warren would answer.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)and you object, you will be OK if the atheist responds with "If the shoe fits, wear it."?
Take a step back, TexasProgresive, and look at what you're doing. If you really want to improve relations in this group, there is an opportunity here to apologize and retract this post accusing DU atheists of holding positions that they do not.
Will you rise to the occasion or continue attacking?
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)It seems you have way too much invested in getting me to retract. Sorry. Not. Going. To. Happen..
jeff47
(26,549 posts)And you've steadfastly refused to provide it. Kinda odd. After all, since all atheists on DU do not understand these 10 things, I'd expect there'd be at least one example you could provide that is actually on DU. Yet you haven't managed to provide one.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)You present straw man positions that even you admit no one has taken, and rather than just retract them, take the position of 'well, if it bothers you then it must be true.' Again I ask, if an atheist posts something that bothers you, would you be ok with that response?
So it really strikes me as odd, then, that you claim to want "atheists and theists at DU (to) stop seeing each other as enemies" while engaging in this deliberately aggressive and accusatory behavior based on completely false claims.
Your actions do not appear to match your words.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)those you accuse of being stupid or lying? What. The. Fuck.
You post "10 Things I wish the Atheists at DU knew about Theists at DU" which directly implies that DU atheists DON'T know these things. Where did you get that idea from? Has any atheist on DU made statements or claim contrary to what you posted?
The only one lacking answers here is you. And your refusal to answer speaks volumes about your intentions for posting this OP.
pinto
(106,886 posts)So, my post speaks from my POV. I think we all are apt to benignly accept some generic assumptions without looking beyond them. Or thinking twice. And, as an aside, I think the media plays a role in it. They often frame an issue in either/or terms, sans nuance or further discussion. We, the public, may play into that. I think we need to do better.
Yeah, nice sentiments. I tend to hold on to them, for what it's worth.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)Lovely bit of hypocrisy there.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)From your response, I am assuming that it came across as a "you are completely mistaken about who we are (I am) and I'm going to set you straight".
I read it differently and as more of a "This is who we are (I am)".
There is a lot of well deserved hostility towards the religious right and religious extremism expressed on this site. Unfortunately, at times there is no distinction made between different religious groups and liberal/progressive religious people on this site get swept up in the fury.
From what I know of this member, he is responding to that. To me, he is trying to say, we (religious people) are more like you than different than you. Please don't lump us in with the religious right.
So, so you think it is possible that he is being misunderstood to some extent?
trotsky
(49,533 posts)THEN HE SHOULD FUCKING RESPOND TO THAT.
And not launch this ridiculous post full of straw men that even you fucking praised.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)No, I think he posted a list of 10 insults. But apparently I'm utterly incapable of understanding nuance since I'm an atheist on DU.
Then perhaps he should not have written a list of ways atheists have failed him.
If that's a problem, doing the exact same thing to atheists is not a solution.
I think he, and you, failed to consider what this looks like from someone outside your beliefs. And failed to consider what each of these are actually saying about the people you are targeting.
1) You are an idiot.
2) We're demanding respect while insulting you.
3) We understand humor, despite your stupid idea that we can't.
4) Some of us grew up, unlike you.
5) You can't count.
6) I'm going to spout off about my beliefs while claiming I'm not spouting off about my beliefs.
7) You have never even heard of history, much less have any knowledge about it.
8) You don't understand that different members of groups have different beliefs.
9) Not only #8, but I'm going to link you to Stalin while demanding you not link me to other theists.
10) You should speak only about topics I wish to discuss.
See, the OP says we atheists understand ZERO of the items on his list. Thus despite the positive phrasing of those 10, the direct implication is extremely negative.
Like any minority group, if you actually wish to "not make enemies" of atheists, stop lecturing and start listening. This OP is entirely lecture, with zero interest in listening. As evidenced by the OP's utter refusal to address his broad-brush smear of atheists, giving only trite non-responses when challenged.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)that of a believer. I am not a religious believer. I am not targeting anyone here.
It is crystal clear that this came across as offensive and I am trying to understand why. I do get your point that if one has complaints about the way a group of people is behaving or treating you, turning around and doing the same thing back is unlikely to remedy the situation.
As I said in my initial response in this thread, I think that the great majority of non-believers on this site already know this. Not only that, but I think that that same majority is unlikely to take offense.
In this particular group, the actively participating believers are in a minority, so perhaps your advice to stop lecturing and start listening could be applied here?
He stuck his neck out, but I think that there is a positive message that is being lost in the outrage. That message is that we are all on the same team.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I think this was geared to the regulars of this room more than the entire board.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)and that is what I am asking about.
Those who I would like to see really take this to heart are highly unlikely to do so, but they are so unrepresentative of the majority of atheists on DU and are more easily ignored than addressed.
But this member is very offended, even outraged, by this and I think he has a point.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)jeff47
(26,549 posts)cbayer
(146,218 posts)That might be different than your definition.
haikugal
(6,476 posts)While I've not posted often I'm reading here and elsewhere daily, and I've been on DU for years. I'm following this thread with interest.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)Then why make the list? Why address the list to that great majority?
Yay! More lecturing!
Yes, and black people should shut up in Ebony magazine. Because the entirety of the world does not matter, only one little corner of it at a time.
If that were true, there wouldn't be a list of 10 insults in the OP, followed by non-responses when pressed. You do that to people you do not respect, not people "on the same team".
There will always be a conflict between atheists and theists, because there is such a fundamental disagreement. While we can work towards common goals, goals that are not in common will create conflict. Lecturing does not reduce that conflict.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I am not suggesting that anyone shut up. I am suggesting that there may be many groups that need to be heard.
This is not Ebony Magazine. It is a site where this is a vast spectrum of people when it comes to religion. It's a site where those beliefs and lack of beliefs are protected by the community standards.
You read this as insults and lecturing, but I don't think it was intended to insult you. I could be wrong about that.
I don't see a fundamental disagreement that leads to conflict at all. I truly believe that most believers and non-believers here don't really care what other people believe or don't believe, as long as they share the same goals and don't harm others. Perhaps this is just another failed attempt to see what we all have in common instead of what is different.
We are all on the same team here, except for your trolls and disruptors. I know that to be true.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)As mentioned elsewhere in this thread, an overwhelming majority thinks it's A-OK to put that in the pledge of allegiance, and then force children to recite it every morning.
That is a fundamental disagreement which leads to conflict. Because to get that overwhelming majority, a whole lot of believers, including liberal believers, think that's just fine.
That's one example. There are many others. And while we can work together for common goals, there are going to be some things we just disagree on.
https://www.google.com/#q=define:example
And plenty of whites lecturing blacks do not intend to lecture and insult. Yet they do.
Then it would not be addressed to atheists. That is inherently turning atheists into an "other".
It's also quite obviously a response to a 10-list from another website that this OP appears to object to. Yet they created an OP instead of responding to that OP.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I hope you will pleased to know that the numbers are changing:
http://americanhumanist.org/news/details/2014-08-over-one-third-of-americans-support-removing-under-g
That 21% of christians likely include the ones that post here.
FTR, I have never seen any believer on this site take the position that the pledge should continue to include "under god". It may have happened, but I have never seen it.
Don't smack your head. You'll give yourself a headache.
I am quite aware of what an example is. Ebony magazine is a poor example. It is a magazine with a specific target audience. In terms of religion, this site and this group has no specific target audience. Atheists are clearly a minority in the US and on this planet, but they are not a minority on this site and most certainly not in this group.
Again, I started the conversation with you about the way this is framed and I think you have a very valid point. The subject line clearly addresses a group and does turn that group into an "other". That clearly runs the risk of alienating people and defeating the whole purpose.
I don't see another 10-list because I have an ignore list that is populated by the "regulars" to which Justin referred, so I don't know what this may or may not have responded to specifically. OTOH, I'm pretty sure I understand what it is responding to in general.
Some people are tired of being called religionistas, delusional, apologists and held to account for every bad thing every religious person on the planet does. What do you make of the recommendations for this?
You made the point about listening and it was a good one. Consider for one moment that there is a group here who also wants to be heard.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)First, it's 2% worse.
Second, that 2% shift is likely due to pulling out the demographic groups. Christian is the vast majority of the US, while the 90% of atheists is a very small number.
I'm capable of keeping my mouth shut too.
Also, saying nothing does not change the status quo.
Yes, it's not like it's called Democratic Underground or anything.
And the point you are missing is an island of majority status does not suddenly reverse society's privileges.
The post is a small quote and a link to this article. http://www.atheistrev.com/2014/03/10-more-things-i-wish-everyone-knew.html
You'll note a few in this 10-list were more-or-less lifted from that article. Though in the article the author was skilled enough to not name all theists as his target.
When someone is receiving a great deal of abuse, they are going to lash out. If name calling the the worst of it, there isn't much to complain about.
As for accounting for every bad thing, if you are part of a church doing bad things and do nothing to reform it, you are responsible for continuing those bad things. Just like not racist but silent whites helped maintain segregation, and maintain racism today.
That group is already being heard elsewhere. After all, religion is plastered all over our public sphere.
Also, it's quite the contradiction about listening being a good point being followed by a veiled "shut up".
cbayer
(146,218 posts)you have reacted with a howl in this way.
You are right about what happens when one is receiving a great deal of abuse. The problem is you can only see one side of it, and that's a shame.
If you are a part of a group that is doing a bad thing and do nothing to reform it, or even recognize that there are some bad things going on, then you are responsible for the continuation of those bad things. You might consider that this is exactly what is happening here.
I have never, ever told you to shut up. I have simply asked you to listen.
I like the atheistrev article. I tend to like a lot of what he does. But a big LOL on your statement that Silverman doesn't name all theists as his target. He names everyone. This OP names "atheists on DU", but I suspect he meant a small subset.
I think both he and the OP have valid points to make. Unfortunately they both apparently managed to offend others. I would look very closely at those that are the most offended.
Just as an aside, do you always block quote the post you are responding to? I'm not sure why, but it tends to trigger a rather defensive response on my part, because not once have you posted something on which you might agree with me.
WOW!
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Wow, indeed.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)As you always do. It's not like this is the first time we've had a "chat".
Feel free to provide some evidence that liberal theists receive a great deal of abuse in the US.
You might consider that I'm not part of an organized group. But nice try at deflection. The topic must have started not working as well as you wanted, so it's time to shut it down.
Because when people talk simultaneously, they listen to each other.
Here's a fun little experiment. Point out which response, if any, you have made that did not attempt to minimize or explain away the OP. You know, some time when you actually listened.
I have difficulty believing your reading comprehension skills are that poor.
Saying he wishes everyone understood those 10 things does not mean nobody does. It's utterly moronic to argue such, and I'm rather appalled that you would resort to such a stupid argument. He would be claiming that he, himself does not understand those 10 things.
It's just utterly and completely stupid, and far beneath you to resort to such a dumb argument.
He's arguing that there are people out there who do not understand. Which means as long as the WBC exists, he's right.
That's because you always argue for theists, and believe that atheists are supposed to shut up and listen to theists.
It's a useful mechanic to demonstrate which part of the post I am responding to. It's also quite helpful on a board where people edit their posts after replies have been made.
Well, that's because you don't agree with me.
You believe I should stop complaining. You believe I am wrong to have taken offense. You believe I should shut up and listen to the lecture. That any offense is excusable because it's perfectly fine for the OP to have not noticed the insults. That it should be taken the way you want it to be taken and no other way. That words only have the implications you like. That everything is sunshine and rainbows, and actual repression does not happen to atheists. The only problem is those damn atheists who won't shut up and listen to the lecture and ignore any offense contained within.
Fuck that.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I certainly would have remembered those highly annoying block quotes.
Liberal theists receive a great deal of abuse in this group, not so much in the US. This group is not at all reflective of the real world.
You are getting a bit defensive and personal here. Poor reading comprehension? Moronic? Stupid? Dumb? That's usually a bad sign.
You have developed a caricature of me that fits your agenda. It is gladly reinforced in spades by the people who frequent this group to whom this OP is targeted.
I support believers and non-believers. I challenge and push back against those who are anti-theist or anti-atheist.
And then a whole long and ugly list of what I believe. You have no idea what I believe, and I would suggest that this is entirely projection on your part.
Fuck that indeed.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)I don't have one. As a result, people don't remember me as much.
This group exists within that real world. As a result, that real world has effects on this group. It is not an island to itself.
Then stop desperately grasping for dumb arguments. Show me the respect of thinking before you respond, and you'll find more respectful responses.
And that is why I blockquote when I respond. To demonstrate that I am responding to the text, and not the person.
Damn, if only I were them that would be a relevant argument!!
Hrm....maybe you could try to come up with some sort of way that I'm really in their cabal. ( )
Which is why every response to me has contained a variant of "No, you're wrong for thinking that".
Oh wait...that doesn't make sense.
Yes, there's no basis whatsoever. That's why you could so easily point to responses where you did not excuse or lecture. Nor why you're degrading the conversation by flailing about with less and less veiled "shut up"s.
Could've been a chance for thesis to see how seemingly innocent statements are actually hurtful. Instead, it's the atheists fault for other atheists not being nice enough.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)It makes it necessary to scroll up and down the page while responding and, as I told you before, it comes across as hostile.
Perhaps that is your intent.
And that, jeff, is showing you the respect of my thinking.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)Clearly I need to keep it vague so that people can fit their preconceived notions to the response.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)That's my opinion and you can take it or leave it.
I think you forgot your sarcasm thingy, but if you can't be clear about what you are responding to without repeating loudly what was just said, then I would suggest you continue practicing conversational skills.
Rolling of the eyes generally indicates contempt and a dismissal of what the person you are talking to has said.
There is a world of difference between "keeping it vague" and loudly repeating everything that has just been said to you. Nuance can be an important part of conversation.
I would suggest that by doing this it is you that makes the conversation fit your preconceived notions. You use it as an opportunity to shoot down everything that has been said to you, point by point. It's a game that I guess you feel you win, but it's not a discussion.
You have a nice evening.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)and I suggest you do the same.
http://www.gallup.com/poll/11551/Americans-Indivisible-Pledge-Allegiance.aspx
There is a significant change over a 10 year period, and yes, I do think you should celebrate that.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)"if enough people say you have a tail, you should probably turn around and look."
MANY DU atheists, even some that you despise and label as "trolls and disruptors" have commented on this thread to disagree with how the OP mischaracterized all DU atheists.
That you would still double down and insist they were all wrong, and that there was nothing at all wrong with the OP, is just ridiculous. It also betrays your true feelings about what civility and honest discussion mean.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Thanks for that, jeff47.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)It is being asked the same questions all the time when they know the answer. At this point i refuse to play along.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)Such as asking for any evidence of these 10 assertions?
Or is that forbidden too?
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I was talking about the regulars here who pester me with the same questions about my faith all the time.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)In a thread where the only repeated asking of questions is to back up the assertions in the OP.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I am done and not playing along.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)I'm an atheist that has lived in some of the most religious parts of the country. For example, down the road from Ted Haggard's church.
I've had those kinds of questions asked of me many, many times. In real life, not a message board. By coworkers, bosses, neighbors, and hosts of other people who then shunned or otherwise harmed me because I did not believe.
I am not sympathetic to the horrors of being pestered on a message board. Especially one with an "ignore user" feature.
If your church is doing what you believe is right, let that be your answer. If your church is not doing what you believe is right, lobby for it to change and let that be your answer. If you're not able to do so, then you should face a stream of questions. From yourself.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I am sick and tired of being abused here and I will no longer play the game.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)You've been "abused" here? Really? Can you point to an example of this "abuse"?
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)And nobody ON A DISCUSSION BOARD is allowed to ask "why did you do that?", because asking is abusive.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)and in particular in a forum dedicated to discussing theism and atheism, because every time you insist on bringing it up, it is going to be discussed. So if you find that abusive, then stop.
rug
(82,333 posts)Questioning it is also part of this room.
Being abusive is not.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I am just making it clear to people in this room that I am sick of answering the same question over and over again.
I am also not going to take the bait by some posters. I see it is already bothering some that I am not responding to them.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)No questions. No conflict. No discourse. Nothing learned.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)And that's a good thing.
rug
(82,333 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)Personal attacks, lame ridicule, cartoons and smileys.
DU's finest.
corkhead
(6,119 posts)All ten huh? Thank you for filling me in.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)or that any large group of people will have individuals that disagree.
But hey, apparently that's part of not viewing atheists as enemies.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Bingo.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Because I can think of exceptions to that list.
For instance, number 8 may be strictly true, but they are in some cases, members of churches that ARE homophobic, racist, or sexist. Meaning, the weight of their existence as a constituency is used to bolster the churches credibility when lobbying for political issues, like eliminating abortion, etc. Also, their tithing is used to either directly fund lobbying, or offset church operation costs allowing other funds to be diverted to lobbying, for right wing/regressive political issues. Happy to supply examples.
I can also think of self-proclaimed 'atheists' that continually place themselves as human shields for theists that would be exceptions to that list. Particularly number 3. However, I appreciate that you chose the word 'some' here, I consider that progress of a sort.
There are also some of these self-proclaimed 'atheist' human shields that fall afoul of #8 in the process of their frantic apologia for theists. I can link to hidden posts as examples for this as well.
I agree with number 7, however, I do not appreciate being attacked ("who do you think you are to suggest" when I point out that if a progressive theist is a member of a regressive church, they might seek a faith/church sect that is more in keeping with their progressive values WITHOUT exhorting them to become atheists.
TexasProgresive
(12,157 posts)lark
(23,105 posts)Thank you.
I grew up in an extremely religious Southern Baptist home, saw the lies and racism and hatred and left the RWNJ religion. When they started preaching against the anti-Vietnam marchers and calling us the tools of Satan, I knew I could never again go to that church and that all of their teachings were suspect. Do feel there's some overarching moral consciousness, Gaia, God or ?? but really not certain at all.
LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Some of you yes. But some of you are so clouded in your own privilege you can't see where believers on DU fall short of the goal. When the pledge was challenged in Court by Newdow they did a poll and 77% of Americans supported the pledge a direct and blatant violation of the wall.
That means that there are a significant number of progressive believers who have no issue with allowing exceptions, especially when its their religion that is getting promoted. Even here on DU you find this:[/font]
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1014671562
http://www.democraticunderground.com/121888768
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10024627996
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]That said, there are also some atheists who are less than stellar on the wall also. I think anyone who violated this principle should be held accountable.[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Some of you do, and for those who do I am thankful.
However, even on DU there is religious privilege and people who are anything but respectful. For instance, I don't see why on earth my alert about comparing someone's religion to NAZISM was not a 7-0 hide. [/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]And some of you don't. Here is a couple of threads in which a few posters throughout the thread show they don't share the humor:[/font]
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1218173924
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1218130270
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1218127628
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1218111983
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]And a great many of us (maybe even a majority but i can't say that without evidence) were once theists.[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]The atheists who are not vocal are not all opposed to the vocal ones. Further, the reason they are drowned out is because they are not vocal. Are you really wanting to compare yourself to those who choose to be silent on the issues?
I get that there are progressive theists and I get why you are seldom heard. Lack of media coverage, and you are outnumbered by conservatives in most theist religions here in the USA.
I don't hold that against you. It is when progressive theists waffle on things like the pledge that I get annoyed. And yes, I know that not all of you do it. But there are quite a few of you who do. Again, there would not have been 77% support for "under god" if that were not the case.
If you are standing up for progressive values and the separations of church and state then I have nothing but commendations to heap upon you. It is the others my criticism is focused on.[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Very well. Same is true for me.
That said, not all theists or atheists feel the same. Many theists feel as if they are trying to save the souls of others by proselytizing. They do so with the best of intentions. Many atheists feel that religion is ultimately dangerous and harmful to society. They are fighting it with the best of intentions.
Those who don't want to be proselytized are going to be annoyed by one or both of the above.
Further, this is a group whose very purpose is to discuss religion. By coming here you should expect to hear arguments from both sides and have your position questioned harshly. No-one is making you answer anything you don't want to. No-one is making you participate.
If you find you don't like it, then leave the discussion.[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Neither believing there are god, or that there are no gods, is either liberal or conservative. However, many religions have conservative or liberal ideologies written into their foundational texts. These deserve analyse and critique. That said, yes not all adherents believe in those passages or doctrines, but they are still there and need to be challenged.
Again, if you don't believe in those passages, feel free to take a giant permanent marker and remove them from your book, my criticism is not aimed at you. I give you kudos for removing them from your book. But for those who do believe in them or abet those who do are not off the hook.[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Universally? No.
But again many theist religions do have bigotry institutionalized in their books. Books that then pass said prejudice down to their children and their children's children. So long as it is there, so will be the criticism. I will not let homophobia slide.
And again, if you don't believe in those passages or outright removed them then power to you.
I am not trying to broadbrush anyone. But people generalize at times when they critique things. Bill Maher specifically said he was not talking about all muslims, but then proceeded to say muslims in his critique of the middle east and was treated like he was talking about all muslims. Feminist are not criticizing all men in their protests against patriarchy, but that is the way some men take it.
It might help all groups if they tried to understand the context in which a person is talking before getting offended. It might also help if you are critiquing a group that is down the privilege ladder, that you specify that you are not critiquing the whole group.
But doing this seems to be a hassle to too many people and they would rather get outraged over nothing. See the NDT thread on the front page of this group if you want to see more false outrage.[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]No argument about that from me. Has anyone here on DU done that?
I have not seen such things here with the exception of the guy who said that being a satanist was like admitting to being a nazi to him. I have seen, over and over and over theists in the real world argue that without a belief in god you can't be a moral person though and worse.[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Ehhh, most theists? Blasphamy laws sure seem popular in religious states then for no reason.
I am not going to take a stand one way or the other on "most" till I see hard evidence to support making any statement on most of anything. For example, I can point to this poll and say that a majority of Muslims in Egypt support death for apostates.
You have to give me some evidence before getting me to commit to saying most of anything.
I will say however, there are a great many theists who do have a problem with free speech. The same can probably be said for atheists. To them, I center my accusations. Those who support Blasphemy laws in particular.[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]For 99% of issues, that is probably the way it is in actuality. But this is the religion group. The major themes we discuss here we disagree on. Sometimes bitterly. The solution is simple if you want to avoid those disagreements, just don't discuss religion or the religious aspects of that debate.
Maybe discussing the legal or civil rights aspect is more your cup of tea? That is always an option here.
But, while some people will declare otherwise, the truth is that they LIKE the
They just won't admit it.[/font]
trotsky
(49,533 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Texas Progressive will not answer that question. He has been asked many times in this thread to support his assertions that atheists on DU don't already know these things and he wished they did, which prompted him to post this distribe in the first place.
Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)I wish that I could have put it so well, and believe me, I wanted to try.
I can only add that these silent believers who do not side with the fundamentalist are at fault in my eyes for not speaking out against the insanity. The very right wing Christians are trying to lead this country toward fundamental Christianity, and all the moderate and liberal Christians are afraid to stand up to them and tell them that this is not acceptable....thus making it appear to be acceptable. I don't know what they are afraid of, if it is to have their own faith challenged by these nutjobs or if it is that they cannot bring themselves to side with the atheists on anything. Silence looks like approval to me.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)Do you not think we can challenge the religious right as a coalition with believers and non-believers?
Who here do you think is afraid, Curmudgeoness? Who do you think doesn't side with atheists on anything. That is an old meme you are stating, and while there may be some who are afraid, that is not who you are dealing with here.
I would point out that you are making the mistake that I think triggered this OP. YOu are making blanket statements and assumptions about liberal christians without any basis for doing so, and then going on to say that they are even responsible for the religious right.
Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)against the religious right. What I am saying is that I don't see enough speaking out against the fundamentalists here, and more importantly, out in the world. Even if the believers who are not fanatics are here on DU, this is not really the place where change will take place. That has to happen when they challenge the fundies in the real world---in the streets, in their churches, in discussions with others. It is very easy to say anything on an anonymous board. I see too many people who do not come out against religion in the public venues. They are either afraid to be labeled as anti-religion, even if they are believers, or they see no problem to be concerned with.
I may be making assumptions, but I have a basis for it. I do not see enough liberal Christians willing to take a stand against the right wing fundamentalists, with the exception of maybe the Westboro nuts. They either make excuses, they say that it is no big deal, or they agree with the stand of the religious extremists. Take as an example crosses or nativities on government property, and how many liberals think that this is ok and we are whiners.....I hear this all the time IRL. This is the reason that I suggest that they are allowing the religious right to flourish.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)Instead of making blanket, unsubstantiated statements about those cowardly religious liberals and progressives, lets get some support for those here and those who are posted about here that don't bear any resemblance to that description.
If you don't think you see enough of it here, then why don't you post some articles about liberal/progressive people of faith who do challenge the fundamentalists. Even easier, why don't you just weigh in with support or recommend the articles that do get posted about it.
You are changing the goalposts. Change can take place here and there are articles about it happening in the real world frequently. Yet I never hear a peep of support from you.
Maybe if you offered some support for those that do take a stand in this group instead of joining in the chorus of those that can always find some reason to attack them, things might change.
I don't see believers that post here making excuses or saying it's no big deal or agreeing with the stand of religious extremists. Quite the opposite. Show me where the believers that post here took a stand in favor of religious symbols on government property and called those of us who disagree whiners.
You might hear it all the time IRL, but when you bring that here and paint others with it, then you are not being fair or reasonable or rational.
All I ask is that you support those here and elsewhere who take a stand instead of taking every opportunity to bash them. I know that won't sit well with some, but here is the opportunity to make a difference.
Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)I am not going to spend time finding some of the threads that I recall as offensive because it will do nothing to change the minds of anyone here. (See LostOne4Ever's post that I first commented on for examples that everyone has ignored to see why I am not going to bother.) I can say that right here on DU in the Religion group, I have seen excuses for keeping religious monuments on public land. Or if I remember, supporting the government giving land away to protect a religious monument. No big deal to many.
You accuse me of "joining in the chorus", as if there is some huge conspiracy. If there is, I have not been invited to the party. My opinions are my own. I may be guilty of not supporting people who stand solidly for total separation of church and state, and much of that is because I do not come into this group often. Somehow, I get sucked in when a post here hits a milestone---and at that time it is usually a free-for-all here by then. Maybe you should take a long break from this group, then come back with fresh eyes and you will see the dysfunction on both sides. Right now, you are in a clique where you only see certain posters as always right or always wrong.
An admission here: Before I started reading the Religion group, I was one of the atheists who was apathetic about anything to do with religion unless it affected me personally. But I have seen a treatment of atheists here, on a liberal site, that bothers me enough that I have gotten involved with atheist readings and sites. I had never heard of Dawkins or Harris or any of the other "famous" atheists because I didn't care. This all came from reading right here. I don't need a chorus. I see enough to upset me by reading some of the posts here.
Save any further lecture. It is only doing more damage.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)There are times when there is disagreement about things like religious monuments on public land and, IIRC, those disagreements have to do with whether the monument is solely religious or has some other meanings that put it in a different category. The 9/11 memorial comes to mind. But I have never seen an outright statement from anyone here that purely religious monuments are a-ok on public land. In fact, I see just the opposite and I see it frequently. If it happens as often as you propose, it really shouldn't be hard to fine.
Most of the time I see you stand on your own principles, but when you post things today about how cowardly liberal believers are, it doesn't look very principled at all. I understand that you feel much more comfortable posting in a place where no one challenges your patently unsubstantiated views about religious people on this site, but I think you are worth challenging and when you do participate here, I am generally glad to see it.
I'm in a clique that only sees one side as wrong and the other as always right? Oh, the irony. Maybe you are the one who should take a long break if that is what you think would resolve that problem.
Atheists aren't treated badly here. There are some individuals who love to mix it up and they give at least as good as they get. That they are atheists is irrelevant and they represent no one but themselves. I realize that you have found something to identify with. That can be a very good thing, but you are not a victim here. In fact, you and your clique are clearly in the majority, as has been recently shown.
It is not my intent to do damage where you are concerned. My wish would be for you to be more open minded and see that there is a potential for building bridges instead of setting fires. I am not your enemy and if you experience our interchange as a lecture, I would suggest that that is your issue, not mine.
PassingFair
(22,434 posts)Not while she has strength left in her fingers to depress buttons.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)Hoping you are having a wonderful New Years Day!
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I think you are making a statement that is clearly not true.
I have done plenty of battles with rw Christisns in my life and have spoken out.
I am not afraid of speaking out against them when I feel they need to be.
Maedhros
(10,007 posts)and religio-political propaganda.
Right Wing Christian myopia and intolerance is being exploited for political gain. Those doing the exploiting have de facto control over the media, and thus incredible influence over our culture and the public understanding of what is "religion." It is entirely possible to reject the false religion being pushed upon America by our oppressors while simultaneously holding true to one's own personal belief.
I am an atheist because, upon reflection of my experience in life, I have chosen to adhere to an evidence-based method for answering questions and to eschew revealed truth. I would be an absolute fool to reject out-of-hand the ideas that have originated with the world's great religions - they all have something to teach, even though it might not be what the originators intended.
Dorian Gray
(13,496 posts)your characterization of liberal Christians not standing up to right wing Christians as very unfair. Many of us do it every time we vote. Many of us do it when we campaign for representatives in our government. Many of us do it with the charities we support.
There are many liberal Christians who are not afraid to stand up for what is right and they are vocal against right wing Christians.
Kevin from WI
(184 posts)I don't think I could put down in words all of my feelings about this original post. You covered many of my thoughts on the issue.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)But you won't, likely because you can't. Which means you've probably made-up these baseless charges just to stir-up shit.
Job well done, I guess.
Silent3
(15,220 posts)I argue with theists because I think theism is a bad idea, regardless of whether any particular theist manages to be a good person or not.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)of the things Texas Progressive has asserted is the truth.
I won't hold my breath, though, because we all know it's never gonna happen, because it never happened.
rug
(82,333 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)Thats just sad, rug. Just plain sad.
rug
(82,333 posts)Leontius
(2,270 posts)cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)But actually backing up your claims is hard, so you won't be doing that, will you?
rug
(82,333 posts)http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1218&pid=91904
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1218&pid=79286
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1218&pid=64967
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1218&pid=63551
How many do you want? I can change the search term and give you as many as you'd like.
cleanhippie
(19,705 posts)or that you think they apply to the point the OP seems to be trying to make.
rug
(82,333 posts)It's dismaying that they're so easy to find. Rather makes the OP's point.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]All that delicious pasta and I don't get any!!![/font]
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]I loves me a good tomato sauce.[/font]
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Once the New Year is here I am going back on a diet.
Bye bye my delicious pasta, it was nice knowing you [/font]
/sobs
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Kevin from WI
(184 posts)And do you believe in a literal interpretation of the bible? I am just curious about left leaning theists, especially christian ones.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Welcome to the religion room.
Kevin from WI
(184 posts)Is the bible the word of your god?
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I believe some of it is allegorical.
I believe in the Incarnation, ministry, crucifixion, resurrection, and ascension of Jesus Christ.
Kevin from WI
(184 posts)Do you feel that we should legislate based on the teachings of your bible?
I would like to continue with this, but unfortunately I have to go now. I am enjoying the conversation. Perhaps we can continue this.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Again welcome and we will talk when you get a chance.
Festivito
(13,452 posts)A few banal liberal posts, but along with a constant barrage of jabs that would make the unwarned Christians taking a look around here to feel uncomfortable and to leave.
There are plenty of wonderful atheists. There are also some who have no desire to reach accord, except to do so every once in a while to allow them to drive more DUers away later.
The verbose arguments also work to keep one from reading important posts.
Jappleseed
(93 posts)Found your responses quite informative. I think the saying goes actions speak louder than words.
Prophet 451
(9,796 posts)I'm a believer (albeit in an extremely minority faith) and some of the atheists here are extremely aggressive and insulting toward believers.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)This thread has been quite illuminating.
Prophet 451
(9,796 posts)I haven't read the entire thread but I'm sure there have been some believers being prats. Neither faith or teh lack thereof seems to promote being a nice person.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)There is a subset and it is small. They will run off any other kind of atheist, which is why it sometimes looks like they are the atheists of DU, but they are not.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Not the fact that they have a different opinions than I, but harshness at times is upsetting.
But to be fair I have my own moments and sins.
mr blur
(7,753 posts)It's a fact.
Prophet 451
(9,796 posts)If it seemed like I was letting believers off the hook, I apologise.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Those who are so offended by this should ask themselves why so many of the believers here felt the need to rec this.
It was not a post to insult atheists but a reminder that we have feelings too and that many people on this site treat people of faith like crap.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)Next, let's go over to the LGBT group and make a list of 10 things we wish they understood about how they are hurting us poor straight people.
We can work our way through all the minorities we aren't a part of! Our own "Airing of grievances".
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)And if you don't like my responses you can ise the ignore function.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)Additionally, your unwillingness to consider the targets of this attack is not going to be addressed by me ignoring you.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I ask because I am not familiar with you and I am just curious if you read thix forum often.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)who does not post extremely frequently.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)jeff47
(26,549 posts)And you are not the only extremely frequent poster I'm familiar with.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)and have stopped answering questions not posed in good faith. And I can tell you that it is bothering some already.
I am not afraid of questions or a good argument in opposition of mine, but i do get pissed off at the vitriol spewed to me and other people of faith here.
And if you can't see that we go throught this then I can't help you.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)That's where I'm coming from.
To claim put-upon status because of uncomfortable questions from people you could ignore kinda minimizes the put-upon status people experience in the real world. It would be like me claiming I was more oppressed than blacks, when I'm able to easily hide my minority status.
As for the questions, why not just own the answers? It's your faith. It's what you believe. Whiny questions on a message board aren't going to change that. If you like what your faith teaches, great. If you don't like what it teaches, say what you don't like about it. That doesn't change your faith - no one is a 100% match for their religion or lack thereof.
And if they're persistently being assholes, just ignore them - either via the ignore function or by not responding to them.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)But this discussion is not about real life but about this board.
DU is not real life and the Dynamics are very different here and the believers here are sick of being treated like crap here and I am n8t going to be a punching bag for certain members of this room anymore.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)or at least why we should be here. We're trying to make a better place in real life - that's the point of politics, and this is a political forum.
And my talking about questions is not any sort of dig. I'm trying to better understand what bothers you about them.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Being asked what I get out of prayer by the same people every time I mention prayer. They already know my opinion.
I am sick of being told I am deluded and once and awhile being called mentally ill.
I am sick of the bullying.
I am sick and tire of the constant violation of the Interfaith safe-haven by people who denegrade people of faith.
I am sick of a lot of things in this room.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)Can you do me a favor? Can you take a step back for just a minute and consider whether your reaction to what people say here isn't so much a reaction to "bullying" but a reaction to the lack of the privilege that you have in real life? That, perhaps, your reaction to your treatment is a reaction to not being treated they way you are in real life and, therefore, it feels mean when in reality it is just people not high fiving you for your religious statements?
I really don't think that denegration of people of faith really happens here on anything resembling a regular frequency.
I really do think that you aren't used to being questioned because you aren't in real life. And I can tell you that what is said to you about your beliefs in this group pale in comparison to what atheists hear out in the real world.
I'm really am sorry you feel the way you do. But could it perhaps be that you are in a place where you have lost your privilege and that, alone, makes you uncomfortable?
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I am very used to being questioned in real life. My parents are not believers.
No what i am not ysed to is the vitriol by some posters here who feel they ard entitled to spew vitriol on believers on this site.
What I am not used to is being used as a punching bag and I will not have it anymore. I am not responding to certain posters anymorenless I really feel the need to. And I can see it already bothers some.
The other week broke the camels back with me. I will not put up certain posters vitriol anymore!
LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]But there would be a lot less violations of Interfaith if your SoP said:[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]instead of:[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]Also you need to remove the part about criticizing non-belief not being allowed here (cause it damn sure is allowed):[/font]
[font style="font-family:papyrus,'Brush Script MT','Infindel B',fantasy;" size=4 color=teal]I think my last foray into there proved that anyone who is irreligious is not welcome there. Whether they are polite and respectful or not. Whether they have a history of abusing believers here or not.
Because we both know I did not denigrate anyone. That I do not have that history. That I followed the SoP to the letter. I did not disrupt in any way. I received multiple personal attacks yet I attacked no-one. I was civil and polite. And I still had a post calling for me to be banned which was recced by a hosts there.
All for explaining why I thought the term militant atheist was a slur. Meanwhile, the person who called all militants reptile brains got a pat on the head...from the very people who were arguing with me insisting that they themselves were "militants" and how militancy was a positive thing.
[center] [/center]
Interfaith advertises itself as being a version of religion without all the snark and attacks; welcome to all who remain polite and civil. But in fact it is a pro-believer safehaven in which attacks upon the irreligious are common and speaking on behalf of the irreligious is deserving of not one, but two threads denigrating those posters.
I am not the only one who followed the SoP and rules and was made to feel unwelcome and I won't be the last.[/font]
PS: You have said in the past that linking to interfaith was okay but if you have changed your mind tell me and I will remove the links.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Sincee there is no agreement it will remain.
Yes you may post links from interfaith.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)Being irreligious can mean being hostile towards religion. Using that definition, I would say that you are absolutely correct that those that hold that position really don't belong in that group, no matter how polite they are or how they parse the SOP.
BTW, you want to see a really funny SOP?
I would suggest that not only does that need changing, but the group really needs a whole title change.
LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)The group's name is controversial (and lets not get into that bucket of worms) and even its location within the over group "religion and spirituality" can be objected to as well.
I am certain we (the A&A group) had a discussion there not long ago about just that. IIRC it was determined that the name was not chosen by any of the current hosts and is not changeable and no way to get the group moved out of religion and spirituality over group.
That said, I am really happy about the new rules they recently instituted there. I was a bit apprehensive at first but now I know that they were a great idea.
I wish interfaith had taken your suggestions a while back. They were both great ideas.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)All you would have to do is petition the administrators of the site. If there were enough support, I would bet good money that they would be glad to accommodate you. I don't know why anyone would say it couldn't be done.
What do you think would be a more appropriate name? Where do you think it would better fit?
The dynamic between the two groups is complex and I think the hosts do what they can to keep things reasonably civil. My suggestions about the group did not go over all that well and that doesn't surprise me.
LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)I would name it something like
Or
Or
Or something like that. I would want to avoid the whole atheist/agnostic label debate. Though I will admit that the name does have one good benefit: It keeps someone from creating a group called agnostics and blowing up the debate between groups about labels.
I was not one of the ones complaining about where the group is located but if was moved and up to me where to put it I would probably put it in people. Other places would be recreation or activism. But that is just me.
The point is that atheism is not a religion and putting it in that over group gives the impression that it is one.
Sorry your suggestion failed. It would have been a good fit there imho.
LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)I meant it in the sense of not having religion or rejecting religion, and yes even being hostile to religion.
The group says both believers and non-believers. However, what is welcome is only a subset of non-believers those who I call believer allies (to avoid using a word some consider a slur).
The way the SoP is set up those with irreligious views should be allowed so long as they: are civil and don't question others beliefs. Same as believers.
Under such rules neither anti 4 horseman threads/posts nor anti pope threads/posts would be allowed. However only one of those is true.
That is why I feel the above change would be good. It makes it clear that the room is a believer and believer-ally safehaven, and there is nothing wrong with it being that. Every group should have that, and I feel that is what many if not a majority of the members of Interfaith really want.
Otherwise, I fail to see why my posts were so objected to. I think it was the content and not the delivery.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)definition of being hostile towards religion.
I'm not going to parse the SOP. There is a whole discussion in the group about the rules. Basically, it's like porn - you know it when you see it.
I find the AA groups ideas about what is and isn't allowed much more problematic, but I was blocked from that group so I have a personal bias.
Sorry, but you really aren't in a position to give input on changing the SOP or speak for "many if not a majority of the members of Interfaith". Its' fine the way it is. The hosts have a good handle on who belongs there and who doesn't.
As I have told you before, you really have no reason so be there and your presence is felt to be disruptive. Why is this so important to you?
LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)To tell them how to avoid getting more idealistic posters like me in there when I am not really wanted. So, to that end, I think I am justified in my suggestion.
Talking about "many" is an observation and the rest was speculation. I have no evidence so I will do no more than speculate. "Many", I have to admit, is a weasel word, and was used as such.
But to get to the point. How is someone who has never been there before to know? Or someone who actually is looking for nicer version or religion? The SoP is literally inviting them in. Even a set of rules clarifying things would be an improvement.
Why is it important to me?
Because I am an idealist "ninny." Because it looks to me like people getting baited and trapped. Because it looks like a double standard. One set of rules for the pro-religious and another for the irreligious.
Irreligious are told not to bring grudges from here into there, but when the religious do the same and they were provoked by the irreligious posters posts in religion. The four horsemen can be critiqued without end, but don't say a single bad thing about the pope. Personal attacks on the irreligious are fine, but don't provoke pro-religious posters in anyway.
AND I still think what happened to Goblinmonger was wrong. Even as a temporary ban.
Same with some of the others who were banned. Some of them, undoubtedly would have slipped up and would have violated the SoP, but banning people for things they haven't even done yet bothers me as a liberal non-believer.
I am staying out as I was asked nicely (by you), but you can't say that what I posted there was nasty in any way. That I violated the safehaven in any way.
Funny thing is, before posting I had PMd justin about what happened to the cartoonist. And he told me that if someone without a history like his, and in a thread about it, could critique the pope. If I had come into there with the bad intentions they thought I did, I would have made an anti-pope thread. I would have intentionally pushed the envelope.
Instead I post about why I felt a term was a slur to atheists and avoided all personal insults or incivility. For a disruptor I sure went about doing it in the most ass-backwards way possible.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I know how you feel. I felt I was very unfairly blocked from AA, a group that I didn't even participate in.
But I think you have to be honest with yourself here.
You first posted in Interfaith in April, 2013. You then had 30 posts over a two month period and self deleted every single one of them. I don't recall what happened, but I going to go out on a limb and say that things weren't going all that well.
Then you came back in in August 2014 to mount a defense of another member that had been blocked from the group. It was all meta and not at all about an interfaith topic.
And then you came back this month to challenge the use of the word militant in multiple threads. You were very persistent and rather aggressive and continued despite being told repeatedly that your presence was felt to be disruptive.
The picture you paint of your participation in the group is not accurate.
Groups are allowed to make their own rules and enforce them any way they want. That you don't like them or think they are fair is of no consequence. More importantly, people in glass houses should not throw stones. Frankly, what goes on in interfaith pales in comparison to some of the shit that gets posted in AA. I don't think this is a comparison that you want to make.
The reasons for my block from AA are completely ludicrous. Even the owner of the site said he thought it was unjustified. So you may be pleading to the wrong party. I'm not terribly sympathetic.
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)If you are thinking this OP is so great and that people need to realize what others think, why are you so unconcerned when someone comes into Interfaith and says that a particular phrase is offensive. Shouldn't you be trying to understand that and change your language rather than double down on it?
cbayer
(146,218 posts)At this time, I have nothing that I wish to discuss with you. Nothing. Go clean your own house. The windows could use some attention.
Happy New Year!
Goblinmonger
(22,340 posts)And my house is just fine.
And I'm not blocked from Interfaith anymore. I told Justin I wouldn't post there anymore and I'm true to that word.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I'm not sure I will recover.
Let's be clear. I'm not interested in being your tool or being schooled by you. You have pretty close to zero credibility with me. I gave you a chance and you blew it in spades. My expectations were not that high to begin with, so I'm not terribly disappointed.
Enjoy yourself. Good things come to those that bait.
Feel free to have the final word. It is of zero consequence.
LostOne4Ever
(9,289 posts)An altercation with El_bryanto.
He is a member in good standing there, and despite the altercation I quite like his posts.
When I came back it was because of the issue with Goblinmonger, which I mentioned. Had that thread never happened you would have only seen me there wishing Justin a happy holiday when he made those type of posts.
What is not accurate about my depiction? I did not even disagree with the poster to whom I replied. I did not get into a heated discussion until one of the host replied and even then I was calm. The links are above.
Yes they can. That is why I am simply giving Justin a suggestion. Even then, I am not saying to change the rules for me, but simply to make the SoP reflect the spirit of the group.
And technically I am not nor was ever blocked. This isn't about me. It is about what I feel is a misleading SoP and keep others from unintentionally violating the goal of the room.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)It's a bad fit.
The SOP does reflect the spirit of the group. It's not misleading at all.
It's not that complicated.
Lordquinton
(7,886 posts)There are a small minority of disruptors who were kicked out for good reason, and have since been openly hostile to atheists ever since. anti-atheists tend to not last long there, as you might have noticed.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I'm going to have to ask you to back that up and provide anything to support your contention that I am an anti-atheist.
I will point out again that just because I stand in strong opposition to some specific people who also happen to be atheists, does not make me an anti-atheist.
Let's review:
Person B is an atheist.
Therefore, Person A is an anti-atheist.
Let me know when you find any reasoned and rational thought that would make that a logical conclusion. Critical thinking is important, no?
And you might want to review every single post I ever made in that group before calling me a disruptor.
There are lots of people that don't last long in there. Their crime is not being the right kind of atheist, as you might have noticed.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)It would be like going to the LGBT group and making a list of 10 things that a LGBT member wishes the straight members understood about them. While I would suspect that most members would already know those things, there might be a few that are so blinded by their prejudices that the message really pertains to them.
Atheists are not a minority on this site and particularly not in this group. This reminds me of the oh so persecuted christians who decry the war on christmas.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)And again, equating the horrors of being insulted on a message board to the real-life suffering of any minority group is appalling. You should stop doing it. It really does not help your argument.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I didn't equate a single thing. It was you that did that. You are the one expressing absolute outrage at being insulted by this OP.
You should stop doing it. It really does not help your argument.
The real life suffering of some atheists is a fact. It's also a fact for some members of pretty much every religious group on earth. Points of privilege are dependent on multiple factors, and demographically, your point is extraordinarily high up the ladder.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)because you would be more comfortable with the conversation. But that enclave exists within a larger world, which should be considered within that enclave.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)Your caricature of me is amusing, but it is only a caricature. I am your windmill, I guess, but I would rather be you Dulcinea.
There is a difference between what goes on in the real world and what goes on in this group. I am entirely comfortable talking about what goes on in the real world and agree that it should be taken into consideration. It is important to understand the prejudice against some non-believers and helpful in explaining some of the anger.
But this thread is about people on this site. It has become crystal clear that it definitely hit it's intended target, and that target is not all the atheists on DU. Quite the contrary.
You may have enemies, but I am not one of them.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)jeff47
(26,549 posts)If I wandered into the African American group and lectured them, that would not be tolerated despite my minority status in that group. Because of my majority status everywhere else.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)jeff47
(26,549 posts)They just have additional rights to ban.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)This is about the treatment of believers by atheist in this room and on this board.
If you wish to talk about the wider world start a new thread. Stop trying to take away from the real feelings of members of this board by saying the wider world.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)You would think that those that suffer some abuse or discrimination based on their lack of religious beliefs might be somewhat more empathic when those who are experiencing it because of their beliefs speak up.
But that is not the case. The fact is, that if a non-believer does stand up or express support and empathy, they are then accused of being the wrong kind of nonbeliever or even of lying about their lack of religious beliefs.
You are right to stand up for yourself and it is clear from the recommendations that you are not the only one that feels this way. Most of the recommenders don't even participate in this room and I bet that is a result of the hostility they experience.
When people as kind and upstanding as you and pinto can be repeatedly attacked, there is a problem.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)And unfortunately several of the people who recced this thread just don't feel comfortable posting in this room anymore. I wished they did because we need more voices here.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)My not so secret wish is that more people would do it, because I think things would change in a hurry.
I am glad you are standing up for yourself. You do not deserve the treatment you often receive here.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)not one thought why it needed to be written.
And I am not responding to several anymore because it is just not worth it and I can see it bothers them.
I gave enough of my time to people who have no desire to discuss, so now I am done.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I could guess, though, exactly who howled and who howled the loudest.
Funny how that happens. Must have hit a little too close to home and the large number of recommendations must be like salt in the wound.
You have repeatedly said you are done, but it doesn't stick. I am hope it does this time. You have much to offer and have every right to be able to participate here free of harassment.
Just refuse to play and you will have a much better time.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)cbayer
(146,218 posts)They will work harder and harder at pushing your buttons. They will even continue to do it for years.
If you let them, then you have accomplished nothing and you lose. If you don't let them, they just look sad and you win.
Your choice.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)I need to stiffen my spine.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)At any rate, just make a pledge to take it one day at a time. No peeking! That is the sure route to getting your buttons pushed.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)If he had posted this in the atheist group, that would be an apt analogy and would not be tolerated. This is the religion group. It is open to believers and nonbelievers.
Interesting that you feel lectured to. I bet you the vast majority of atheists on this board would read that OP and not take it personally at all.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)It exists within a larger context, and that context carries over into this group.
Safe havens are not immune to that. They just have additional rights to ban. But their conversations are still affected and within the larger context.
Why? Every single one of your replies is telling me that I am wrong, and must be corrected.
So we can lump people together based on their faith now? Great, I'll equate all theists with the Phelps clan. Or perhaps we should not do that.
cbayer
(146,218 posts)I started out my conversation with some questions to you about why you were offended and how we might be reading it differently.
I continued to be pretty positive and supportive. Here are some block quotes for you:
Now, if you read all of that, and this is your conclusion:
then I would suggest that the problem does not lie with me.
riqster
(13,986 posts)Iggo
(47,558 posts)Yeah, got it.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)and they're at it again.
I suppose it's entirely possible that the thinner skinned out there will see this as not a call for peace, but an attack claiming disagreements are all one side's fault. Happens all the time with race and sexuality, so religion would seem an obvious choice for this sort of thing.
Well, there is that, but it still amazes me that posts like this generate over 200 more spoiling for a fight.
One thing that never changes is that urge to get the last word in, no matter how sane or silly your argument.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)If I posted a request for a "cease-fire" that was a list of things I wish DU Believers Knew, and included items like:
* Atheists don't eat babies.
* Atheists don't want to murder all believers.
* Not all atheists are Ayn Rand libertarians.
etc.
Would you be cool with that, and snarkily judge any believers who took offense to my suggestions as being "thin-skinned"?
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)although I would kinda hope the full list wouldn't be that OTT.
And yes, I would think anyone who seriously objected to that would be lacking of a decent skin.
Religion is one of those topics that, as you well know, can bring hellfire and brimstone (sorry) to any discussion of it. There are a few, very few, thank God (sorry, again) on both sides who do get their buttons pushed far too easily and are itchin' for a fight at the drop of a a hat. And I don't know if they are deliberately trolling, have some personality disorder, or really don't understand the trouble they can cause. Or something else.
Most of them that I've seen have come from the non-theist camp, but I may have missed a bunch from the other side. Anyway, I don't care to keep score and just wish all of it would stop.
I was under impression that this group was to calmly discuss the different ways religion affects us, and the differences between belief systems. And non-belief systems. All that went to hell and it became largely a battleground between a small group of hard atheists and their believing counterparts. And, of course, everyone has to take sides-- at least those who don't argue here just because they like to argue here.
I don't think there's anything wrong with (you know at least one I'm thinking of) having a good ol' time using this place for debating practice, but there is a problem when people take it too seriously. It's just pixels on a screen, and nothing to ba taken personally.
Anyway, it got so bad another group got set up for such discussion, and that one's been under attack by a few who prefer fighting, demanding, accusing, and pontificating to discussion.
Those of us who look at our religion as one of peace, tend to be abhorred by such tactics, no matter who tries them.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)By posting a list of things I wish DU theists knew, and just putting whatever I want on it regardless of whether a DU theist EVER made a claim otherwise, that's A-OK? If that is truly what you are saying here, then I guess we have the level of discussion we all deserve.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)You're taking some outlandish statements and instead of accepting them in the course of general debate where outlandish statements have a place, you're insisting that they refer to actual events or statements in the past.
Everyone knows, or should know, that atheists don't eat babies, at least not any more the the general population, but including such hyperbole doesn't invalidate the basic argument that we should stop spouting lies and improper generalizations.
Now I'm wondering if your question wasn't just a ruse to trap me into an answer you would spin into an argument. See how that works?
trotsky
(49,533 posts)You would have a point IF the OP wasn't specifically directed at "atheists at DU."
The OP made specific claims about what some DUers thought or posted. Multiple DUers then asked for evidence to support those claims. None has been provided. Perhaps you have some?
No traps, just a sincere effort to try and figure out how asking for evidence to back up a claim has turned into all the passive-aggressive attacks on this thread.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)aside from worrying about who the mythical DUers are, what about the specific items he mentions?
Are there any in that list you particularly disagree with?
trotsky
(49,533 posts)Why would I ask for evidence if ANY atheist on DU thought those things, if I did?
So, would you care to answer my question? Why have so many passive-aggressive attacks been launched at those of us who are merely asking if anyone actually believes otherwise?
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)you prefer to consider yourself a victim of an attack rather than to address the points of the OP.
Or to just let it be.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)And you've proven you'd rather make this personal than discuss the core issue: is there any "atheist at DU" who has stated anything indicating they needed the "correction" provided in the OP? Can you stick to the topic or will you too lob passive-aggressive personal attacks?
No one has provided even the slightest shred of evidence that "atheists at DU" needed this lecture. Instead, we're left with a broad brush attack that does nothing to foster discussion or respect. In fact, it did the opposite.
mr blur
(7,753 posts)I was under impression that this group was to calmly discuss the different ways religion affects us, and the differences between belief systems. And non-belief systems.
It's never been that. Never will be. The religionists don't want to debate, they want to be respected for, well, for nothing really. They don't want to be questioned, challenged, or criticised. They see most of the stuff we post as an attack against which there is no defence but to say, "Well I know God is real!" The non-believers are sick of being told to respect something which we see as childish nonsense. They definitely don't like some of us. Me, for example. I don't care, they're amusing enough much of the time. I imagine we make them feel nice and persecuted, so everyone gets something out of it. Trying to get our posts hidden certainly gives them something to do and good old reliable Religious Privilege works in their favour there.
The other group " set up for such discussion" - do you mean the Echo Chamber? The one that Atheists & Agnostics group helped them to get established? Well, have fun there if you meet The Management's high standards. But don't expect intellectual stimulation.
I'm an atheist. In fact I'm an anti-theist. In the same way that I'm anti-terrorism, anti-racism, anti-violence, anti- anything that separates people and makes them hate each other. I don't like religion. I don't trust it. I don't want it anywhere near my children, my family. I don't know what your religion is but I've yet to come across one that was truly "one of peace".
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)while you can be as atheist, or anti-theist, as you want, it is bad form to imply believers are idiots. It is worse form to say it outright.
Since negative proofs are problematic, you can't prove there are no gods any more than they can prove there is one. You can provide good evidence, like the unicorn argument, but not proof. Both sides are working on blind faith, but neither side will admit it and they fight over who is the more deluded.
No one wants to hear any more about how science backs atheism, how Einstein didn't believe in God, or even how Newton had mercury poisoning. We've heard it all and note that Einstein never said he believed there is no God, just that he didn't care much about the subject.
Now, here's a secret I'm going to share with you-- whatever you might think of the opposing side, or what you might think they are doing to you, it is not necessary to fight with them. It really isn't, and the fighting makes everything more difficult for everyone on both sides who prefer not to fight. Which is most of us.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Stop pretending that
"God Exists"
and
"I don't believe god exists"
are equal antonyms with equal burden of proof. It's bullshit. There is no 'blind faith' in the position of seeing the natural world the way it is. There's no blind faith in rejecting the blind, unprovable faith of others. If we plot this on a graph, 'God exists' is +5. 'I don't believe god exists' is 0, not -5.
Nonbelief is not a positive affirmation, or belief.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)Nowhere did I say nonbelief is equivalent. What I said was the statement that there is no god is the equivalent.
I said exactly what you are saying, just expanded it a little to add "god definitely doesn't exist" as your -5
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)"Both sides are working on blind faith, but neither side will admit it and they fight over who is the more deluded. "
Try again.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)you pick a word, phrase, clause, or sentence misread it, and frame the entire post around it. You know perfectly well what I mean, but it looks like you're just picking a fight for the hell of it.
Go crusade somewhere else.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Faith is a positive premise. Disbelief is not. You are accusing 'my side' of that -5 position. It's not. It's a lack of belief/faith, or, the baseline: 0.
I didn't misread shit. You were quite clear.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)SPECIFIC CLAIMS THAT THERE IS NO GOD
which is not the same thing.
Get a life.
AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)Since negative proofs are problematic, you can't prove there are no gods any more than they can prove there is one. You can provide good evidence, like the unicorn argument, but not proof. Both sides are working on blind faith, but neither side will admit it and they fight over who is the more deluded.
No one wants to hear any more about how science backs atheism, how Einstein didn't believe in God, or even how Newton had mercury poisoning. We've heard it all and note that Einstein never said he believed there is no God, just that he didn't care much about the subject.
Now, here's a secret I'm going to share with you-- whatever you might think of the opposing side, or what you might think they are doing to you, it is not necessary to fight with them. It really isn't, and the fighting makes everything more difficult for everyone on both sides who prefer not to fight. Which is most of us. "
Why don't you bold the part where you specified specific claims there is no god.
I'll wait.
(You lumped atheist and anti-theist together.)
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)AtheistCrusader
(33,982 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)goldent
(1,582 posts)People come here to fight with people of the other "tribe,", insult them, mock them, ridicule them, etc. The conversation is nominally based on the underlying subject (in this case religion) but it is expressed in ways to maximize the amount of mocking and ridicule. This has become a big part of social media. It is fascinating to me and I'm sure it is the subject of much study.
Now with a place like DU, people get to know each other, and the insulting and mocking becomes personal. It spreads to topics that have nothing whatsoever to do with Religion. I've never seen the conflict as extreme as here in Religion but I don't do that much social media.
The other thing interesting to me is that the way DU is designed seems to really encourage the conflict and personal attacks, such at the alert/jury system, safe havens, and bans. I'm not sure if the owners and designers did this on purpose, but frankly they want clicks and a system that encourages this kind of conflict generates clicks.
This is why I can't take the Religion group seriously, but I still find it very entertaining. I am also interested in religion, but if I want to discuss it. Interfaith is the place to go.
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)it seems that people are more liable to lose inhibitions when typing than when speaking face-to-face. And I've been to plenty of meetings where people lost it when there could be real consequences.
I was just at one of those last week that degenerated into arguing and finger pointing when the original point was forgotten. Anonymous posting just makes that sort of thing inevitable.
Just like real life-- the "winner" of the argument is often the one with the time and energy to keep it up.
My ego situation isn't much different from everyone else's-- I like it when a comment of mine is viewed favorably and I'm disappointed when it isn't. But we're not in a courtroom or any place where the outcome of the debate means something.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Was it without any sense of irony at all that you waded into this thread to denounce those mean atheists for their bad behavior, got engaged in a discussion about exactly what you meant, and then told the person discussing that with you to "bugger off"?
Was that you setting an example for how people should behave in this forum?
Perhaps instead it was yet another demonstration of religious privilege. Being asked to defend what you say here makes you the victim.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)rug
(82,333 posts)Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)abused by being asked questions about statements you posted on a discussion board is an example.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)individuals who know my answer.
Please give a legit example?
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)questions about what you have posted, but claim it is "bull" because it is the same questions. OK Justin, bully for you. I suggest you can avoid this alleged "abuse" by not posting about praying for things here, as you know that every time you do somebody is going to ask why you pray, what you expect your prayers will do, etc. and since you find that abusive it is entirely in your control to not have this allegedly abusive experience.
Or you can post about praying in the HrmJustin Forum, where never is heard a disparaging word and the questions are just never asked.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Goodbye Warren.
rug
(82,333 posts)Is that it? Is that your evidence of religious privilege on DU?
TreasonousBastard
(43,049 posts)you look at this group, or any other, in terms of victimhood, you are probably missing the point.
trotsky
(49,533 posts)perhaps you should re-read the OP.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)You get 100% respect from this atheist. And I'm not the only one by a long shot.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)I keep looking for it. It never shows up.
JDDavis
(725 posts)Did you look there?
Well, I didn't look there either, because it probably doesn't exist, but it's right next to the website for women marrying their cats, I think.
Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)Can't imagine why. Ah well, i'm sure you'll be just fine in the knitting group.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)Starboard Tack
(11,181 posts)We don't knit, we weave plots to fight bigotry. Plots to end intolerance, know what I mean? Nudge nudge, wink wink. Love to the lads and your delightful leader.
Have an absolutely super 2015. May it bring you joy and enlightenment and put love in your heart for all those you envy.
Warren Stupidity
(48,181 posts)There are so many of you, and that awful Bad Atheists forum is no place for you, and you were so eager to get an alternative up. What happened?
By the way, where were all of your atheist supporters during the recent hosting change poll? Couldn't get out the vote? Bummer.
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)Great thread Texas! It spoke to how several of us feel although I must admit the spaghetti nonsense does piss me off.