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Related: About this forumHow to Parent When Youre Spiritual But Not Religious
May 26, 2017
by Cindy Brandt
According to PEW, the SBNR (Spiritual-But-Not-Religious) demographic continue to grow, particularly among Millennials. This demographic is also approaching, or are at the age in which they enter parenthood. Confusion often ensue as they arent sure they want to pass on the religion of their own upbringing but yet want to give their children the robust spirituality that they still enjoy.
As if becoming a parent isnt already panic-inducing enough, how does one navigate their own fast-changing spiritual identity with the intense responsibility of raising children into faith? How do we share a religion whose tenants we arent sure of, or cultivate moral values without a coherent structure?
Most importantly, whats Grandma going to say when she finds out they arent taking their children to church?
First, I want to say, while some decry this trend and grieve the decline of institutional religion, I think its actually good news for the children. I think SBNR parents are well positioned to raise kids with the best of both worlds: the radical inclusivity and tolerance of secular values as well as the life-giving, self-sacrificial love taught by religion.
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/unfundamentalistparenting/2017/05/parent-youre-spiritual-not-religious/
Alice11111
(5,730 posts)most usually don't have a clue what it means, but it makes them feel cool, so they dont have to struggle with some of the tough issues. Maybe I'm biased because I was a philosophy major. It seems like both a spiritual and intelle tual cop out. I'm not on Match or Tender ,but everyone says that is what you are "supposed" to say.
I hear it everywhere here, from the last people who seem spiritual or empathetic, and I notice they usually vote 3rd party too. Spiritual, but not religious. Vote, but not in the 2 party system. Many people who are atheists say it, so they can get dates and fit him. I have no problem w their being an atheist or being grounded, but just adopting a popular cliche to fit in, gets on my nerves.
Personally, I wouldn't saddle children with that label.
My daughter and her husband are very open minded to all religions or none, and they do participate, but she studied all, experimemted, from a young age, in college courses, and still does. I think it is important to be accepting of all, and then find the path that works ,where your heart, mind and soul are committed to making the energy in the universe more positive, which is god.
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(82,333 posts)I think very often that position is a reaction to structure and doctrine.
That said, I also think people can be genuinely spiritual without structure, doctrine and certainty.
Either way, people should take the time and effort to learn about what they believe, what they don't believe, and why, Spirituality shouldn't be a shrug and a smile.