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rug

(82,333 posts)
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:10 AM Feb 2013

I was an atheist child, and the Girl Scouts didn’t want me

When it came time to graduate from the Brownies, I was asked to make a pledge to God. I just couldn't do it

Sunday, Feb 10, 2013 09:00 AM EST
By Lynn Stuart Parramore

The news this week from Scoutland brings controversy over a proposed end to the ban on gay Americans. But here’s another dirty little secret. The Boy Scouts also officially discriminate against atheists and agnostics. For much of their history, the Girl Scouts did, too, but in 1993, the national organization had the sense to stop this unfair and distinctly un-American practice.

That was too late for me. I was a Brownie in 1978, and wanted to become a Girl Scout. It was not to be. I had a hard time fitting in as a kid. My Sunday school teacher’s eyes shot daggers at me when, after a lesson on the Virgin Mary, I asked, “Was Joseph a virgin, too?” I just didn’t take to the religion thing. Alongside my Bible, I read Bullfinch’s Mythology, and I much preferred the Greek gods. They fell in love and had adventures and didn’t seem to take themselves so seriously. There was laughter in heaven. Jesus was sort of okay – I liked some of his sermons. But the Bible seemed filled with harsh desert people (mostly men) morbidly obsessed with death and suffering. What had they to do with me?

When I was eight, I became a Brownie and took much pleasure in my crisp little uniform and close association with mint chocolate cookies. I vaguely recall winding yarn around popsicle sticks and doing things like that to prove my craftiness. Like most Brownies, I yearned to join the green ranks of the Girl Scouts, so I dutifully earned Brownie points in preparation for the big event when I would be pinned by a troop leader and accepted into the upper echelon of girldom.

But something unexpected happened during the Induction Ceremony. The ritual of transition from Brownie to Girl Scout was very sacred and solemn and involved, among other things, staring into a pool of water. It also required me to pledge an oath to God. (You can check out a video of some little tykes saying it here.)

http://www.salon.com/2013/02/10/i_had_to_leave_the_girl_scouts_for_being_an_atheist_partner/

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I was an atheist child, and the Girl Scouts didn’t want me (Original Post) rug Feb 2013 OP
Interesting article ......... What about the article did you find interesting that you had to post?? Angry Dragon Feb 2013 #1
There has been much written recently about the BSA versus the GSA. rug Feb 2013 #5
The GSA lets in gays, atheist and agnostics and have taken out the pledge to god Angry Dragon Feb 2013 #9
"I was an atheist child, and the Girl Scouts didn’t want me" rug Feb 2013 #10
Since the 1990's that has changed the article also says Angry Dragon Feb 2013 #11
Here's the oath (or promise), in 2013. rug Feb 2013 #12
And it would take close to an hour to watch it ............. Angry Dragon Feb 2013 #13
It only feels like an hour. rug Feb 2013 #14
No Angry Dragon Feb 2013 #16
Girl Scouts are allowed to substitute whatever word has meaning for them WolverineDG Feb 2013 #29
A long as spirituality remained. rug Feb 2013 #31
Really? Only if you stop at the title of the article... meeshrox Feb 2013 #21
Really. rug Feb 2013 #32
From your Wiki link: meeshrox Feb 2013 #33
If you look closely, it's the GSA version of DADT. rug Feb 2013 #34
Except the official policy meeshrox Feb 2013 #35
+1! cleanhippie Feb 2013 #37
Except it doesn't. rug Feb 2013 #38
First, WAGGGS is the international organization. meeshrox Feb 2013 #39
I have browsed their page. rug Feb 2013 #40
Perhaps, but I don't see why they should single out non-belief. meeshrox Feb 2013 #41
I remember it being optional to include the "serve God" in the pledge meeshrox Feb 2013 #2
I understand your reservations about the cookies. But at this point.... Moonwalk Feb 2013 #3
"...buying a box of cookies has become a show of support" cleanhippie Feb 2013 #15
I must strongly and passionately disagree with you Dorian Gray Feb 2013 #22
BLASPHEMER!!!! cleanhippie Feb 2013 #23
They're all good cookies Dorian Gray Feb 2013 #25
Tagalongs! meeshrox Feb 2013 #24
They're really delicious..... Dorian Gray Feb 2013 #26
There used to be three licensed flavors by Edy's meeshrox Feb 2013 #27
I usually buy an embarrassing quanity of the chocolat mints. okasha Feb 2013 #17
Yes, I understand and still buy a case when cookie time rolls around. meeshrox Feb 2013 #18
Well now I wish my daughter were young enough to start scouts OriginalGeek Feb 2013 #8
Thanks! meeshrox Feb 2013 #20
At what age do you go from brownie to girl scout? Jim__ Feb 2013 #4
That's what I was wondering. rug Feb 2013 #6
Brownies are scouts between the age of 6 or 7 and 10 or thereabouts. meeshrox Feb 2013 #19
I wanted desperately to join the Brownies and Girl Scouts and was not cbayer Feb 2013 #7
I was in girl scouts in the 60s and don't recall anything whatsoever kestrel91316 Feb 2013 #28
Did you recite the Girl Scout Promise at events? rug Feb 2013 #30
I'm sure I did. I don't remember the words. Obviously they held great meaning for me, lol. kestrel91316 Feb 2013 #36
 

rug

(82,333 posts)
5. There has been much written recently about the BSA versus the GSA.
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:55 PM
Feb 2013

On this issue there does not seem to be much difference.

Angry Dragon

(36,693 posts)
9. The GSA lets in gays, atheist and agnostics and have taken out the pledge to god
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 04:37 PM
Feb 2013

The BSA does none of those things
I say that is a big difference


I do not know where you got that out of the article

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
10. "I was an atheist child, and the Girl Scouts didn’t want me"
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 05:09 PM
Feb 2013

It's not hard to get that from the article.

Check the video. God is still in there.

Angry Dragon

(36,693 posts)
11. Since the 1990's that has changed the article also says
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 05:21 PM
Feb 2013

It is not hard to get that from the article


I do not do videos, takes too long for me to watch them

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
12. Here's the oath (or promise), in 2013.
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 05:31 PM
Feb 2013

On my honor, I will try:
To serve God and my country,
To help people at all times,
And to live by the Girl Scout Law.

http://www.girlscouts.org/program/basics/promise_law/

The video is 58 seconds.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
31. A long as spirituality remained.
Mon Feb 11, 2013, 08:47 AM
Feb 2013
For some individuals, the word 'God', no matter how broadly interpreted, does not appropriately reflect their spiritual beliefs. Since the belief in a spiritual principle is fundamental to Girl Scouting, not the word used to define that belief, it is important that individuals have the opportunity to express that belief in wording meaningful to them. It is essential to maintain the spiritual foundation of Girl Scouting, yet be inclusive of the full range of spiritual beliefs. This [policy change] does not take the word 'God' out of the Girl Scout Promise. It gives those individuals who wish to do so the option to state their commitment to the spiritual concepts fundamental to the Movement with a word or words more appropriate to their own beliefs. For instance, an individual may say 'my faith' or 'Allah' or 'the Creator'."


Officially, it was an accommodation for non-Christians, not atheists.

meeshrox

(671 posts)
21. Really? Only if you stop at the title of the article...
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:04 PM
Feb 2013

"On this issue there does not seem to be much difference"

Except the part where she said they have allowed openly atheist/agnostic members since 1993. You are contradicting the whole of the article! Yes, admittedly, badly written title. But, you posted it!

The part "serve God" is optional. Just like when I say the pledge and don't move my lips for the "under God" part. It may have just been my experience, but belief in god was not a requirement for membership when I was an active member. Now that I'm an adult, I don't expect that my being an atheist would be an issue except for perhaps some individual fundamentalist parents that may not wish I lead their girls. I do live in a red district in Florida...

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
32. Really.
Mon Feb 11, 2013, 08:50 AM
Feb 2013
For some individuals, the word 'God', no matter how broadly interpreted, does not appropriately reflect their spiritual beliefs. Since the belief in a spiritual principle is fundamental to Girl Scouting, not the word used to define that belief, it is important that individuals have the opportunity to express that belief in wording meaningful to them. It is essential to maintain the spiritual foundation of Girl Scouting, yet be inclusive of the full range of spiritual beliefs. This [policy change] does not take the word 'God' out of the Girl Scout Promise. It gives those individuals who wish to do so the option to state their commitment to the spiritual concepts fundamental to the Movement with a word or words more appropriate to their own beliefs. For instance, an individual may say 'my faith' or 'Allah' or 'the Creator'."


It has moved beyond monotheism but it has not officially embraced atheism.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girl_Scouts_of_the_USA#.22To_Serve_God.22_in_the_Promise

meeshrox

(671 posts)
33. From your Wiki link:
Mon Feb 11, 2013, 09:00 AM
Feb 2013

The next section:

Prayer at meetings
The official Girl Scout policy does not ban or require prayer.[70]

The Girl Scout organization does not endorse or promote any particular philosophy or religious belief. Our movement is secular and is founded on American democratic principles, one of which is freedom of religion. Although Girl Scouts has policies supporting religious diversity, there is no policy by Girl Scouts of the USA that prohibits or requires the saying or singing of a grace, blessing, or invocation before meals by Girl Scout members in a troop/group setting, in a resident or day camp, or at meetings, conferences, and other large events. The decision to say a grace, blessing, or invocation is made locally at the troop or group level, and should be sensitive to the spiritual beliefs of all participants.


As I've said all along, the author in the OP likely received scorn for her atheism because of an individual leader since the official policy has been (at least since 1993) all inclusive and accomodating. I have never seen otherwise from my 12+ years of active membership and my 12+ years of inactive membership.

meeshrox

(671 posts)
35. Except the official policy
Mon Feb 11, 2013, 09:19 AM
Feb 2013

is that if you tell, you are not kicked out. Bigotry and hatred of any group was not tolerated; I refer you to the Girl Scout Law (the one we talk about in the pledge). Pretty secular stuff...

The Girl Scout Law

I will do my best to be
honest and fair,
friendly and helpful,
considerate and caring,
courageous and strong, and
responsible for what I say and do,
and to
respect myself and others,
respect authority,
use resources wisely,
make the world a better place, and
be a sister to every Girl Scout.


http://www.girlscouts.org/program/basics/promise_law/

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
38. Except it doesn't.
Mon Feb 11, 2013, 07:36 PM
Feb 2013
Some groups consider that the Girl Scouts of the USA have not gone far enough in making Scouting open to non-theists; others that they have gone too far in removing God or that they are violating the constitution of the WAGGGS. The WAGGGS constitution requires member societies to maintain membership standards to include a promise similar to the one established by Baden-Powell, which includes the concept of duty to God. The GSUSA policy adopted in 1993 led to the 1995 formation of an alternative organization, the American Heritage Girls that accepts only leaders and chartering organizations that agree with a specific Christian statement of faith.The organization had a little over 5,000 members in 2006. According to the organization, membership as of 2012 is over 18,000.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girl_Scouts_of_the_USA#cite_note-65

If you've got the "official policy" of the GSA on atheist members, post it.

meeshrox

(671 posts)
39. First, WAGGGS is the international organization.
Mon Feb 11, 2013, 08:35 PM
Feb 2013

As I have said before, Girl Scouting is all about inclusion. There will be nothing stating the exclusion of anyone from atheist, to brunette, to environmentalist, to softball player.

If anything your Wiki quote proves my point. In response to allowing girls to leave out "the serve God" of the pledge in that 1993 policy change, the American Heritage Girls (a separate organization) was formed. They are not part of the Girl Scout organization. From Wiki:

The American Heritage Girls (AHG) is a faith-based Christian Scouting organization founded in 1995 by Patti Garibay and other parents from West Chester, Ohio, who "want a wholesome program for their daughters," since the Girl Scouts allowed girls to substitute another word for "God" in the promise (as allowed in the Girl Scout handbooks) and allegedly banned prayer at meetings[2] (see also Girl Scouts of the USA: Issues). The organization has more than 20,000 members (2012)[1] with troops in 48 states in late 2012, plus Americans living in seven other countries.[3]


A quick search on the GSUSA website has this little gem:
Our continuing mission is to build tomorrow’s leaders, one girl at a time, and that can only be accomplished by the participation of people of all races, ethnicities, religions, and abilities, as well as people from all socioeconomic levels and geographic areas. With each passing year, Girl Scouts of the USA finds more innovative ways to build upon the foundation laid in 1912, so that every girl may find a role model within the organization.

http://www.girlscouts.org/who_we_are/leadership/the_architecture_of_inclusion.pdf

There certainly are religious recognitions, developed by each religious community (not USGSA) for use by girls of different ages. Here is a link to that info:
http://www.girlscouts.org/program/basics/faith/

So far, I don't see any recognitions for non-believers there, but I suspect that there won't be recognition for not participating in religion. I think it would be nice to suggest to the AHA that they develop another award along-side the others, but that is up to each individual group. Perhaps I need to draft an email to them about that...

I suggest you browse around on the Girl Scouts official page to get a better idea of their inclusive policies. It really is an amazing organization, and it's made me who I am today. I also have to say thank you because I haven't looked through my handbooks and badge books for quite and while and it brought back so many fond memories!

Edited to add: this quote from your Wiki page. It actully resides directly above your quote about WAGGGS and the American Heritage Girls.
Girl Scout President B. LaRae Orullian made an official statement that the change is "a very strong statement that Girl Scouts continue to be on the cutting edge, and this is a continuing effort to show that we have strength in diversity and that we are an inclusive organization."
 

rug

(82,333 posts)
40. I have browsed their page.
Mon Feb 11, 2013, 08:44 PM
Feb 2013

That's why I aked you to post it in case I missed it. While they certainly are more welcoming than the BSA, they still, as you acknowledged, have not explicitly stated nonbelievers are welcome. There is really no rationale for not doing so and the coyness on the subject is unnecessary.

meeshrox

(671 posts)
41. Perhaps, but I don't see why they should single out non-belief.
Mon Feb 11, 2013, 08:52 PM
Feb 2013

If that were the case, it would seem that they would need to develop a policy listing all religions to fit their all-inclusive existing policy. My point is that the inclusion policy is overarching over any division someone could think of, religion or otherwise.

meeshrox

(671 posts)
2. I remember it being optional to include the "serve God" in the pledge
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 11:37 AM
Feb 2013

and all that jazz...I guess I started scouts (as a Brownie) in 1988 IIRC.

I said it anyway because I was raised Baptist. But, now that I'm an atheist, I still don't feel unwanted by GS. At the link, she clearly points out that they are accepting to atheists/agnostics. Her leader clearly wasn't following the rules of scouting by dismissing her concerns. It is unfortunate that she had such a terrible experience.

I had incredible leaders that were Catholic but there were also agnostic and jewish girls in my troop. We went to a mass to see what it was like (if we wanted to) and were encouraged to attend services at jewish and buddhist temples. The message was always about inclusion and diversity, as was written in our guidebooks.

I realized a long time ago that I was very lucky to be led by a strong feminist leader and not a fundie bible-thumper even though I was one myself at the time. I am very grateful to her for having such an amazing scouting experience. Despite the reservations I have with policies about selling cookies (the troop makes about $.30 per box of cookies, last I checked), I still have plans to start a troop whether or not I decide to have children and fully expect to be 100% valued.

Moonwalk

(2,322 posts)
3. I understand your reservations about the cookies. But at this point....
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:21 PM
Feb 2013

...it's become a matter of social protest to buy them, no matter our feelings toward the economic unfairness of the practice (which really should be changed). With all the crazy fundie politicians using the Girl Scouts as scapegoats, attacking them for connections to Planned Parenthood and accusing them of teaching girls to be lesbians--well, unfortunately or not, buying a box of cookies has become a show of support. Also an important message, both to the idiots spouting such vitriol, and to the Girl Scouts who have to listen to it.

cleanhippie

(19,705 posts)
15. "...buying a box of cookies has become a show of support"
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 05:36 PM
Feb 2013

You are right. And you make really great points.

We have always bought a box or two, mostly out of obligation (spouse is a schoolteacher) and who can resist Samoas, right? But you have given me reason to buy extra. Thanks.

Dorian Gray

(13,496 posts)
22. I must strongly and passionately disagree with you
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:47 PM
Feb 2013

Thin Mints! Try them crumbled into vanilla ice cream. Delish!

cleanhippie

(19,705 posts)
23. BLASPHEMER!!!!
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:55 PM
Feb 2013


Thin mints are the better-half's favorite. Unfortunately, she like my Samoas just as much.

Dorian Gray

(13,496 posts)
25. They're all good cookies
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:14 PM
Feb 2013

I just have my own personal favorite. Though I wouldn't say no to any of the others!

meeshrox

(671 posts)
24. Tagalongs!
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 09:59 PM
Feb 2013

Dipped in hot chocolate!

Oh, yeah, and mints, too! I'll have to try the ice cream thing, never thought of that!

Dorian Gray

(13,496 posts)
26. They're really delicious.....
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:15 PM
Feb 2013

I'm surprised that one of the big ice cream companies hasn't thought of it yet!

(Or have they?)

meeshrox

(671 posts)
27. There used to be three licensed flavors by Edy's
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:21 PM
Feb 2013

But now their website has generic names like "Caramel Coconut Cookie"...perhaps the license ran out?

Used to be Tagalongs, Thin Mints, and Samoas...but I hadn't tried them. I will be trying the Thin Mints on ice cream, though, so I can pick how much cookie goes on the ice cream! Why, yes, I'd like some ice cream with my cookies, thank you! Maybe I could even try Thin Mint Ice Cream Sandwiches! Mmmmmm, now we're talking!

okasha

(11,573 posts)
17. I usually buy an embarrassing quanity of the chocolat mints.
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 06:57 PM
Feb 2013

This year I intend to order as many as I can give as gifts plus all the freezer can hold.

meeshrox

(671 posts)
18. Yes, I understand and still buy a case when cookie time rolls around.
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 08:47 PM
Feb 2013

When I was a GS selling cookies (about 12 at the time, I think), Connie Chung did a report on 20/20 about how unfair the organization was to the girls and about their nifty new office building in downtown NY. The response from the public? Somewhere along the lines of "screw you and that terrible organization!" Really supportive of the girls!

I still buy the cookies and try to start conversations with the girls/leaders as to what they are going to do with the money they earn. Usually, the girls don't respond and the leaders tell me what trip is planned. I went to Savannah as a junior and Switzerland as a senior, but not with cookie money! We sold crafts at craft shows to earn our way. I try to show encouragement and support as much as I can!

OriginalGeek

(12,132 posts)
8. Well now I wish my daughter were young enough to start scouts
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 02:25 PM
Feb 2013

and be in your troop..at any rate, I feel better about the world in general knowing you are out there and maybe gonna start a troop.

meeshrox

(671 posts)
20. Thanks!
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 08:53 PM
Feb 2013

I'm nervous about being so open about my non-belief and starting a troop, especially in this part of Florida! But, I'm sure I'll summon the courage someday soon!

Jim__

(14,077 posts)
4. At what age do you go from brownie to girl scout?
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:32 PM
Feb 2013

I assume it's around 12 or 13. If it is that young, I'm surprised that she felt that strongly about it and was willing to take a public stand - that takes a lot of courage. Since she talks about Sunday school, I assume her parents were religious.

 

rug

(82,333 posts)
6. That's what I was wondering.
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 12:56 PM
Feb 2013

From the video of the girls reciting the oath, I'm surprised too.

meeshrox

(671 posts)
19. Brownies are scouts between the age of 6 or 7 and 10 or thereabouts.
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 08:50 PM
Feb 2013

I think it goes by school grade than age. Daisies are kindergardeners and Brownies are the three years following that. That is a bit young to have such strong religious convictions. At that age, I still believed everything my parents told me. Then again, my father constantly reminded me of his favorite commandment to keep me in line: honor your father and mother!

cbayer

(146,218 posts)
7. I wanted desperately to join the Brownies and Girl Scouts and was not
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 02:19 PM
Feb 2013

allowed to.

I suspect that decision was made by my parents because of their discriminatory policies, but, now that I think of it, I'm not entirely clear and will need to ask.

 

kestrel91316

(51,666 posts)
28. I was in girl scouts in the 60s and don't recall anything whatsoever
Sun Feb 10, 2013, 10:23 PM
Feb 2013

about God being discussed or pushed on anybody. Our Junior GS troop met in a local Methodist church but that was just the space they used, the troop had nothing to do with church or religion.

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