that would do the most to reform the Church would be to allow women into the priesthood, and allow priests to marry.

This would solve a multitude of problems.

The only thing stopping women from being priests is male dominance.

Not letting priests be married is stupid also. I think priests would do better if they could marry. It would help them stay connected more to the reality of life around them. Hard to Council someone on family issues when they have never had their own.

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I had a Methodist tell me she thinks unmarried clergy is not a bad idea, because many protestant clergy (her opinion) are terrible at raising their own families. The profession is so demanding that they have little time for their spouses and kids. I found that interesting.

That said, a celibate life appeals to so few that it makes far more sense to allow Catholic clergy to marry.

I mean aside from the obvious.

This was mentioned in the movie "Spotlight." Since at least half of all priests break the rule--most of them in consensual relationships---it fosters a culture of secrecy in which abusers--such as pedophiles--can blend in. No one wants to snitch on someone if they are Just as likely to be snitched upon.

I've known ministers who do fine as parents, some who have been quite excellent. But it can be a stressful job, if it's done right.

children than any other group. And we've had a few scandals in my area which involve public schools, and towns, those schools and public entities covered up just as much as the church did. Unfortunately, it's a human instinct (circle the wagons) that we humans have to scrap. I just saw a Frontline about a doctor who molested boys on various Native American reservations over a 10-year period. He'd take a job, scope out a community, find victims. His proclivities would become known, his current place of employment (always hospitals) would let him move on to a hospital on another reservation, and away he'd go again. (Sound familiar?) Some hospital administrators agreed to go on camera, surprisingly enough. They admitted they'd kept it hush-hush. Why? Money. Lawsuits. (BIA officials would not go on camera. But apparently his behavior was known by some at the federal level and nothing was done. Again, sound familiar?) Quite honestly, I think that's why the church did it. Lawsuits. Money. Isn't it always about money? It's certainly why the Louisville Police Department did what it did. Its cops were abusing explorers, and what did the city and department do? Cover it all up. Took a victim's lawyer to bring it all to light.

I know many people in many different faiths, and ministers screw up, run away with parishioners, turn out to be bad spouses and parents. They're like any other group. Which is not to say that married and women clergy shouldn't be allowed. Of course they should. It's a different world. People will not accept a celibate lifestyle. (Though Buddhist monks do. Are they overrun with pedophiles?) So, the clergy should be open to married men. AND to women, because that's the right thing to do.

well for her and my brother with their family and her work.

reminder, I guess, that no situation is perfect. There's also been some high-profile cases (in my area) of ministers eloping with underage parishioners. But you'd find a bad apple in any barrel.