there is no way you'll try to deconvert her and that you'd appreciate having the favor returned.

Sometimes it even works out.

Most of the time, it doesn't. It ends before anyone is in too deep and that's a good thing.

Except secretly lead her down the path of Satan!!!!

She's Ukrainian, so I get the post-Soviet religion thing.

You're right, coming out quickly would be best for both of us. Thanks.

We've been married almost 20 years, and no problems, really. We also don't agree 100% on politics, but she is generally liberal. We both have the maturity and tolerance to live and let live and not try to change each other. Sometimes a little contrast is good in a relationship. We also don't like the same kind of music or TV shows. There's always enough common ground to share when we are together, though.

It's hormones. Do with hormones as thou pleasest.

If you're talking about a long term relationship... that's as much a crap shoot as any relationship. If there's an unresolved issue between you it's likely to be a problem. Resolve the issue and see what happens. If you aren't honest from the start you're asking for trouble regardless of the issue's subject matter.

The thing going for you is that you know there is an issue so you have a chance to resolve it before diving in too deep. A lot of times the issues come up after committing oneself to a relationship and that is much harder.

The Ukranian church tends to be ultra conservative so I'd wonder what else comes along with the Jesus-love. Homophobia? Misogyny? Social and/or economic conservative? Does she meld her religion with politics? Too many unanswered questions.

Everything she has said has been about love, nature and beauty, nothing about hate.

We'll see what happens. so far she hasn't reacted at all to my silence when she mentions Jesus.

We've been talking about Putin and she thinks he's a buffoon.

It's obvious that she's not the equivalent of an American RW fundie. She's just a kind person who likes Jesus as far as I can tell.

Moving forward.

My wife believes in something out there, though less so in the whole Christianity thing, these days. But we never fight about it. We never even talk about it.

We don't talk politics either. That's a much bigger, more useful bit of advice there.

Good looking and articulate don't equate to wonderful...they just equate to good looking and articulate.

It really depends on how the two of you approach all of this. And where you sit with respect to your belief system.

Can you take someone seriously who believes in something you find a fairy tale? Would you find her as attractive if she told you that she believed in the purity and existence of unicorns? What value would place on her opinions for believing something you find not only unbelievable but ludicrous?

I guess this works for some people, but it's difficult to remain intimate with someone whose world view is markedly different than yours. If that's the only point of difference probably you're good to go, but I find when the basic world view is out of sync you eventually discover a host of other things out of sync as well.

That usually dooms the relationship over time regardless of how great the sex is during the relationship.

So I haven't even thought about it until now.

Yes, I am concerned and afraid for those very reasons. I certainly wouldn't want either of us to be disappointed.

And importantly, I know that hotness and articulate-ness aren't "wonderful" by themselves. She is also a multi-talented artist and super creative, for instance. I'm sure she gives god credit for her talent, but I know it's all her.

The world is full of girls.

For me, it would be a non-starter for one reason----you hardly know her yet and she has already been talking Jesus. I would not really have a problem with someone who was a believer, but a super-believer who announces it enough that you already know that she "loves Jesus" seems too much. Most people that I know have never once announced a love of Jesus, even when they are believers.

I agree with everyone who says that this should be brought up from the start---since she already is wearing her heart on her sleeve. She may think that it is enough of a problem that she isn't interested. Just watch out if she sees you as a challenge that she can "save".

Good luck whichever way it goes.

Her invocations didn't offend me, though they did seem odd.

Jess askin'

"I'd Rather Have Jesus"

...a couple of months.

Lots of mixed marriages out there.

We're getting along well, and I'm sensing she has consciously toned back the religious stuff during the past few days.