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Mother Of Four

(1,716 posts)
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:06 PM Feb 2016

This whole "Vote for me because I'm a woman" thing -

is going to backfire bigtime just like it backfired in 2008.

Whoever thought this was a good idea is completely out of touch with the younger set. My two young ladies heard the woman line in the last debate and basically said “Oh no she DIDN'T!” every single other younger voting age lady they know is beyond ticked that she's playing that card.

The general trend of the things I've heard them say are things like “Nope we can't stand on our own we need to throw in gender to get ahead.” “Is she serious?” “If you're the most qualified you shouldn't need to talk about your genitals" "What would people say if Bernie said vote for me because I have a penis? Or vote for me because I would be the first Jewish President?” “Just G*d D*mn” "Does she think we're stupid?"

It goes on and on.

I was going to post my elder daughters very long typed in response on here but I'm trying to poke her into getting active on DU. I will say one thing she stated as we were talking about it though “You know, Obama never said 'Vote for me because I'm black' – it was insinuated that he was using it, and it may have come into play at certain points but he was elected without ever saying it. I'm pretty d*mn offended that Hillary would make the rest of us look weak by saying that.”

Like I said. Backfire, bigtime. She needs to just stop it. She has more than enough experience to campaign without the gender card. If she wants to talk about issues, talk about them without relying so heavily on the fact that she's female. It didn't work in 2008, it's not going to work now. It's just going to alienate voters. If we want to win the GE no matter who gets the primary- we need ALL our voters to be engaged, not pissed off.

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This whole "Vote for me because I'm a woman" thing - (Original Post) Mother Of Four Feb 2016 OP
“If you're the most qualified you shouldn't need to talk about your genitals" FreakinDJ Feb 2016 #1
+100000000000 jillan Feb 2016 #7
Gloria Steinem has never been a hero for me. She was a roguevalley Feb 2016 #23
I so wish you would make this an OP. chervilant Feb 2016 #30
I don't always read long posts but am glad I read this one. Thank you for the informative A Simple Game Feb 2016 #37
I never use emoticons Bluenorthwest Feb 2016 #44
"No, Gloria, you didn't." malokvale77 Feb 2016 #46
Excellent post and why I have always been involved in feminism outside of the NOW constrictions. Luminous Animal Feb 2016 #49
Overies and balls don't matter. Character matters. Betty Karlson Feb 2016 #24
People who voted for Margaret Thatcher got what they deserved Rosa Luxemburg Feb 2016 #36
I'm suddenly picturing Bernie as a modern Theseus: Betty Karlson Feb 2016 #50
Thank you! MissDeeds Feb 2016 #42
I find it appalling cyberswede Feb 2016 #2
Bingo - nt Mother Of Four Feb 2016 #3
C-SPAN2 had coverage of the Polk country caucus and one woman leading the Hillary camp spoke twice brewens Feb 2016 #4
Exactly! HooptieWagon Feb 2016 #15
Hell yes is right. If Warren had run against Hillary instead of Bernie we would already be crowning A Simple Game Feb 2016 #38
Amen. HooptieWagon Feb 2016 #40
"Hillary Clinton's Internet Supporters Desperately Want This Campaign to be about Sexism" kath Feb 2016 #5
I would respect her more if she said "Don't vote for me because I'm a woman but because of my ideas. Peregrine Took Feb 2016 #6
Exactly!! jillan Feb 2016 #8
What ideas would those be??? Kalidurga Feb 2016 #20
All I can say UglyGreed Feb 2016 #9
Your wife sounds amazing :) Mother Of Four Feb 2016 #10
IMO she is amazing UglyGreed Feb 2016 #11
your wife is fighting to expand the world for everyone including roguevalley Feb 2016 #25
You're a lucky man farleftlib Feb 2016 #13
I would be homeless UglyGreed Feb 2016 #14
Please don't torture yourself - Mother Of Four Feb 2016 #18
my dad had strokes and was debilitated. His own mother expressed roguevalley Feb 2016 #26
My great grandfather was in a wheelchair from the time he was in his mid twenties Kalidurga Feb 2016 #21
Don't say that sarge43 Feb 2016 #43
The whole goal of the second wave of the feminist movement in the 70s was gender equality. jillan Feb 2016 #12
You're right, I hadn't thought of it in those stark terms. "Hire me because I'm a woman." JudyM Feb 2016 #17
Hillary's team wants this election to be about gender DebbieCDC Feb 2016 #16
As a woman, I find it embarrassing. (nt) Ino Feb 2016 #19
62 year old female. SamKnause Feb 2016 #22
I'm more offended by the "I want to be your champion" thing starroute Feb 2016 #27
Anyone who is age 70 or older gets a free pass from me to vote for genitals this election. Kip Humphrey Feb 2016 #28
I am going to be 70 in March. djean111 Feb 2016 #29
I'd rather see someone who is genuinely going to fight income inequality become president wickerwoman Feb 2016 #41
I'm 73 and not in tip top health; sarge43 Feb 2016 #45
As a woman I don't see any pride or any sadoldgirl Feb 2016 #31
they think there's enough people who feel some guilt that Sanders has a dongle, maybe? MisterP Feb 2016 #32
Ask Magoo shadowmayor Feb 2016 #33
Hillary Tells Women to Vote for Sarah Palin, Carly Fiorina LS_Editor Feb 2016 #34
Hillary is the female Bush gyroscope Feb 2016 #35
Of the 1% perhaps Hydra Feb 2016 #47
The oligarch's thought The First Woman POTUS" was the key to getting the liberal vote. jalan48 Feb 2016 #39
It's a cute lil marketing strategy they have been pushing Hydra Feb 2016 #48
Vote for a woman does nothing for me CountAllVotes Feb 2016 #51
And she's a total hypocrite on it jfern Feb 2016 #52
It annoys me that she doesn't acknowledge other women who have run loyalsister Feb 2016 #53
I'm going to vote for her and I'm a woman all american girl Feb 2016 #54
I want to elect a woman President in her own right Dems to Win Feb 2016 #55
^^ Totally Agree nt Mother Of Four Feb 2016 #56

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
23. Gloria Steinem has never been a hero for me. She was a
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 03:24 PM
Feb 2016

voice but she isn't feminism. Feminism is you and me and everyone else, not her alone. She is an ivory tower feminist to me but the ones who did the heavy lifting, who actually changed the world were everyone else.

It was the women who went into the world and pushed back. My goal out of high school was to be one of the few things available to me: teacher, secretary, mommy, dental tech. I decided to enter the navy to pay for it and to honor my father who was a feminist born into a feminist family when no one even knew the word. Same with my mom by the way. These were the people who changed the world, teaching their kids the truth about equality.

Everyone told me for my senior year that only sluts or someone so pathetic they had to go there 'to get a husband' entered the military. I never went. But in the end the work a day women and those who actually made the world change one furious moment at a time did the work, not the ivory tower folks like Steinem.

She has always had contempt for transgenders and made remarks against Caitlyn Jenner too.

Consider:

In 1977, she publicly attacked pioneering transgender athlete Renee Richards, referring to her and other trans people as "a frightening instance of what feminism could lead to" and "living proof that feminism isn't necessary."

In an article she wrote at the time, she claimed support the right of individuals to identify as they choose, but said that transsexuals "surgically mutilate their own bodies" and that "feminists are right to feel uncomfortable about the need for and uses of transsexualism."

She concluded the article with one of her most famous quotes: "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" This quote and others like it from her are used to this very day by trans-exterminationist radical feminists to demonize trans people and justify their discrimination.

AND:

In her 1983 book Outrageous Acts and Everyday Rebellions, Steinem wrote:

"[T]ranssexuals are paying an extreme tribute to the power of sex roles. In order to set their real human personalities free, they surgically mutilate their own bodies: anything to win from this biased society — where minor differences or hormones and genitals are supposed to dictate total lives and personalities — the right to be who they individually are as human beings."

and praised Janice Raymond's notorious transphobic screed The Transexual Empire:

"Instead of serving more lifesaving but often less lucrative needs for their surgical and hormone-therapy skills, some physicians are aiding individuals who are desperately trying to conform to an unjust society. It’s a small group of successful physicians she [Janice Raymond] names ‘the transsexual empire’."

Steinem has never apologized for or recanted her many attacks on trans* people in general and athlete Renee Richards specifically. If she is to be held up as a hero, she must be held to a standard where such attacks are unacceptable and must at least be apologized for.

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I think that would be the least she could do. She and Germiane Greer hold the same ideas and she demonstrated with Maher that they still have currency with her. Her remarks about young women are as sexist as they come and I am thinking that she is as isolated in her bubble of self congratulatory hoo-hah as anyone else in that strata. She didn't free women. Women freed women and she's showing that every time she opens her mouth.

Now that it blew up in her face, Steinem says that her actual remarks which bear nothing of the kind really meant this:

“What I had just said on the same show was the opposite: young women are active, mad as hell about what’s happening to them, graduating in debt, but averaging a million dollars less over their lifetimes to pay it back,” she wrote.

“Whether they gravitate to Bernie or Hillary, young women are activist and feminist in greater numbers than ever before.”

No, Gloria, you didn't.

A Simple Game

(9,214 posts)
37. I don't always read long posts but am glad I read this one. Thank you for the informative
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 04:31 PM
Feb 2016

and enlightening post. I was never really comfortable with Steinem and now I know why.

Excellent read, thanks again.

 

Betty Karlson

(7,231 posts)
24. Overies and balls don't matter. Character matters.
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 03:26 PM
Feb 2016

If you have to hide your character behind a penis or some labia, you might just be a piss-poor candidate.

Rosa Luxemburg

(28,627 posts)
36. People who voted for Margaret Thatcher got what they deserved
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 04:21 PM
Feb 2016

Thatcher was a woman but was like Medusa. I'm not saying that Hillary is like her but people should look at policies before they gender vote.

 

Betty Karlson

(7,231 posts)
50. I'm suddenly picturing Bernie as a modern Theseus:
Mon Feb 8, 2016, 07:31 AM
Feb 2016

(In a thick Brooklyn accent): "These Gargoyle banks are way out of hand! We need to hold 'm to a higher standard! They need to take a look in the mirror!"

brewens

(13,596 posts)
4. C-SPAN2 had coverage of the Polk country caucus and one woman leading the Hillary camp spoke twice
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:14 PM
Feb 2016

that I saw. She was all about the "woman in the White House" thing. She didn't have much else to say either. Once saying something like "it's time, time for a woman president." Then when speaking to a man there with his young daughter, it was, "you have your daughter here tonight, wouldn't you like her to see a woman in the White House?"

I have no problem if the best candidate happens to be a woman one of these years. I don't think there is any real barrier there any more.

 

HooptieWagon

(17,064 posts)
15. Exactly!
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:34 PM
Feb 2016

I didn't vote in the '08 primary, because DWS tried to rig it in favor of Hillary and as a result Howard Dean stripped our delegates per DNC rules. But I favored Barack Obama, not because he was black, or male, but because he was the better candidate in my opinion. I did make a sizeable donation to his campaign.
Now in '16, I agree with Bernie Sanders that his positions are the best direction for the country. Not because he's male, white, or Jewish.
Is this country ready for a woman president? Hell, yes! And when a woman runs who is the best candidate, she will win...not because of her genitals, or ability to get the nomination rigged on her behalf, but because she'll have sound proposals that voters want, is trustworthy, and shows leadership not followship. I can't wait! Hopefully Warren runs soon.

A Simple Game

(9,214 posts)
38. Hell yes is right. If Warren had run against Hillary instead of Bernie we would already be crowning
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 04:36 PM
Feb 2016

our next Democratic Presidential candidate, and it wouldn't be Hillary.

Kalidurga

(14,177 posts)
20. What ideas would those be???
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:47 PM
Feb 2016

She doesn't have any that will do anything more than throw crumbs to the middle class and will do nothing to help people get out of poverty. She has plenty that will favor those who are already rich though.

UglyGreed

(7,661 posts)
9. All I can say
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:17 PM
Feb 2016

is my wife can't stand it at all. A little back round, she is the head of our household, takes care and supports all four of us including a crippled husband. Has been in the workforce for over 26 years at one company and worked her way up to a very high position in that company. If I'm a sexist by admiring her determination and loyalty then I guess I am guilty as charged.

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
25. your wife is fighting to expand the world for everyone including
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 03:30 PM
Feb 2016

women with her work a day heroism. Steinem is sitting in her limo spouting crap. Big dif. Your wife is my hero.

UglyGreed

(7,661 posts)
14. I would be homeless
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:31 PM
Feb 2016

and most likely dead if she did not stay by my side. Of course by doing so this it has put a great deal of strain on her and our family and I often tell her I would not hold it against her if she left for greener pastures. But like I wrote she is too loyal and caring to do this to me. I feel very guilty each and everyday because day by day I have less and less to offer due to my condition. It a blessing but again I do torture myself by not being a productive member of the household.

Mother Of Four

(1,716 posts)
18. Please don't torture yourself -
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:44 PM
Feb 2016

If she loves you, and you love her then that all by itself is the productive part of your relationship. Guilt isn't necessary, only appreciation. You would do the same for her if the positions were reversed right?

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
26. my dad had strokes and was debilitated. His own mother expressed
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 03:33 PM
Feb 2016

amazement that my mom stayed with dad. HIS OWN MOTHER! Love knows no boundaries. Your wife loves you so don't feel awful. Obviously, you are a wonderful man in her eyes. Release your angst and live with joy. You are loved, my dear Ugly. (LOL! I love your 'nickname')

Kalidurga

(14,177 posts)
21. My great grandfather was in a wheelchair from the time he was in his mid twenties
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:53 PM
Feb 2016

He got hit by shrapnel in WW1 and had both legs amputated. He was the light of my life until he died. I didn't give one whit that he couldn't do everything he wished he could do and I know that it he would have loved to be able to walk and be as active as my other great grandfather. But, he did other things like tell great stories and taught me to play cards and he smoked a very fragrant pipe. Anyway, I still miss him and I am getting pretty old myself. Your legacy to your family and what you give them goes well beyond a paycheck or even beyond your physical abilities. They need your you, your wit, humor, knowledge, and emotional support.

jillan

(39,451 posts)
12. The whole goal of the second wave of the feminist movement in the 70s was gender equality.
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:20 PM
Feb 2016

It was to say - don't hire me because I am a woman and don't over look me because I am a woman....

Hire me because of who I am as a person.

Every time I hear vote for Hillary - she's a woman, we need a woman in the White House - I want to scream!

JudyM

(29,251 posts)
17. You're right, I hadn't thought of it in those stark terms. "Hire me because I'm a woman."
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:36 PM
Feb 2016

Steinem and notAlthatbright were both just incredibly sexist.

I'm disappointed that Hillary is wanting so much to be The Historic One that she's suggesting that's as important as other issues.

DebbieCDC

(2,543 posts)
16. Hillary's team wants this election to be about gender
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 02:35 PM
Feb 2016

Just like OJ's defense team wanted the trial to be about race

Ignore the facts....look over here --->

Classic misdirection. When you have an indefensible or unsupportable or unwinable position, deflect and redirect.

starroute

(12,977 posts)
27. I'm more offended by the "I want to be your champion" thing
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 03:38 PM
Feb 2016

It smacks of what my kids call "damseling" -- the tendency for women in comics and video games to be presented as helpless victims who need to be rescued by some white knight.

Hillary may be casting herself as the white knight, but she's reducing the rest of us to frail princesses who can't look out for ourselves. And that offends me a lot more than the "vote for me because I'm a woman" pitch.

Kip Humphrey

(4,753 posts)
28. Anyone who is age 70 or older gets a free pass from me to vote for genitals this election.
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 03:49 PM
Feb 2016

"A woman president in my lifetime" for these folks is fine and sufficient reason for me.

 

djean111

(14,255 posts)
29. I am going to be 70 in March.
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 04:05 PM
Feb 2016

Hillary is not the woman I want to see in the White House.

To me, saying that having a woman in the White House in my lifetime, no matter how much I hate the things that woman stands for, like fracking and war and Wall Street and the TPP and cluster bombs - which have and will hurt many many people - is being an asshole. Can't think of a better or more descriptive term, really.

wickerwoman

(5,662 posts)
41. I'd rather see someone who is genuinely going to fight income inequality become president
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 04:51 PM
Feb 2016

in my lifetime. Couldn't care less what they have between their legs.

Do you give a free pass to 70+ year old Sarah Palin supporters who just want to see "a woman president in my lifetime"?

sarge43

(28,941 posts)
45. I'm 73 and not in tip top health;
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 05:07 PM
Feb 2016

however, I fairly sure that I'll still be around when the first woman is elected POTUS. I hope it isn't Hillary Clinton.

When genitals fulfill a Constitutional requirement, then yeah we should cast our votes accordingly.

sadoldgirl

(3,431 posts)
31. As a woman I don't see any pride or any
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 04:14 PM
Feb 2016

self-respect in that attitude. Indeed, I think
it is just as sexist from the other side.

LS_Editor

(893 posts)
34. Hillary Tells Women to Vote for Sarah Palin, Carly Fiorina
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 04:18 PM
Feb 2016

Some satire that highlights the bastardized logic Hillary Clinton is using...

Hillary Tells Women to Vote for Sarah Palin, Carly Fiorina

WASHINGTON (The Nil Admirari) - Earlier today, Democratic presidential candidate and former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton repeated her belief that being a woman was a professional qualification for the presidency, and told women they must vote for her because she is also a woman. In doing so, Secretary Clinton's logic inadvertently told American women they must also vote for the likes of Sarah Palin and Carly Fiorina simply because they were also women, which automatically made them qualified for the presidency.

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Clinton continued, "My positions on things like regulating Wall Street, marriage equality, preemptive and perpetual war, and so many other things are simply not relevant, because I am a woman. If you can't understand that, you're a sexist."


More at link...

Hydra

(14,459 posts)
47. Of the 1% perhaps
Mon Feb 8, 2016, 02:29 AM
Feb 2016

Or, as pointed out in another thread, "Trickle down feminism." She benefits, at some point someone else may benefit as it drips on them.

jalan48

(13,870 posts)
39. The oligarch's thought The First Woman POTUS" was the key to getting the liberal vote.
Sun Feb 7, 2016, 04:45 PM
Feb 2016

They thought issues wouldn't matter. Bernie has spoiled their party.

Hydra

(14,459 posts)
48. It's a cute lil marketing strategy they have been pushing
Mon Feb 8, 2016, 02:30 AM
Feb 2016

"Love the image, follow the policies they lay out without question."

Saw them pushing that meme years ago and wondered how stupid they think we all are.

Answer: box of rocks

CountAllVotes

(20,876 posts)
51. Vote for a woman does nothing for me
Mon Feb 8, 2016, 07:35 AM
Feb 2016

and being a woman doesn't incline me to vote for one just because said person running for a political office is a woman.

To hell with this agenda, it goes nowhere very fast!



jfern

(5,204 posts)
52. And she's a total hypocrite on it
Mon Feb 8, 2016, 07:43 AM
Feb 2016

The 2014 New York Democratic primary had a corrupt male incumbent Cuomo versus a non corrupt female challenger Teachout. She robocalled for Cuomo, preventing Teachout from breaking the glass ceiling as New York governor.

loyalsister

(13,390 posts)
53. It annoys me that she doesn't acknowledge other women who have run
Mon Feb 8, 2016, 07:44 AM
Feb 2016

She acts like she's the first woman to run for president or win delegates. She's not. She is standing on Shirley Chisholm's shoulders but does not give her credit.

 

Dems to Win

(2,161 posts)
55. I want to elect a woman President in her own right
Mon Feb 8, 2016, 09:35 AM
Feb 2016

For 20 years, I've felt that trying to elect Hillary is a distraction to that goal. It seems to me that feminists latched onto Hillary as the best bet to be first woman president due to her high name recognition from Bill's presidency, but really, her path is a hindrance.

I don't want to send the message to young girls that the route to becoming President is to find and marry a man who can be president first.

Democrats do have many women with the experience to be credible presidential candidates. Elizabeth Warren, Barbara Lee, Patty Murray, Kathleen Sebelius, etc. I look forward to the time when the Democrats have moved beyond the Clintons and we see other women step up to run for President.

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