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JRug

(17 posts)
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 01:49 AM Feb 2016

Hello and goodbye

I recently joined DU hoping to have good discussions with other Democrats about the primaries. I hadn't posted many messages because I've been busy but was a little down about the caucus results in Nevada and decided to venture into the discussions.

I can't believe how mean and nasty people have been to me today. I've been cursed at, called a liar and worse, all because I said that both campaigns should try to get along better because we need to make sure that Democrats win in November and that we shouldn't be beating each other up. Someone even accused me of being a phony and not being a real Sanders supporter which is funny since I just got back home from Iowa where I worked my tail off for Bernie and on Monday am heading to Columbia to do canvassing and volunteer organizing for his GOTV effort there. I'm new to politics so I have a lot to learn but really believe in my candidate and in the process. It's been challenging and fun and really inspiring because I know I'm making a difference.

I had hoped that I could also help him and also have some fun by having some good conversations online, but all I've gotten is abuse from people and all of the abuse came from people who are on the same side as me. This is personally painful, after all I'm a human being and no one likes being treated this way even by people they don't know. But it's also upsetting because Bernie Sanders is a good man who will do great things for this country but we have to do our part, too. And yelling at people, calling them names, cursing at them and making them feel bad doesn't do that.

This place is bad for my spirit so I'm going back to what I was doing, real work in the real world with real people who are dedicated and enthusiastic and respectful and want to work together to bring people together, not tear them down. That's what's happening on the campaign trail even if it's not happening on DU. You guys can stay here and yell and curse at each other, make fun of people and try to destroy people's spirits. But I'm going to work my tail off to make Bernie the next president.


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Hello and goodbye (Original Post) JRug Feb 2016 OP
That's a great concession speech. desmiller Feb 2016 #1
is this necessary? Cary Feb 2016 #24
Was there really a need to attack/patronize the guy or gal? DemocratSinceBirth Feb 2016 #31
Why be nasty? cwydro Feb 2016 #44
exactly. ChairmanAgnostic Feb 2016 #47
Best wishes to you! n/t PoliticAverse Feb 2016 #2
DU is a tiny bubble in the big sea. leftofcool Feb 2016 #3
Yes. I think many people forget that because ... NurseJackie Feb 2016 #29
I would definitely agree that DU is one little bubble CoffeeCat Feb 2016 #40
DU can be rough especially when people are upset. Live and Learn Feb 2016 #4
DU's been a shadow of its former self for awhile now... But sorry you were bashed around so much villager Feb 2016 #5
It's like playing guitar... dchill Feb 2016 #6
+1 Kittycat Feb 2016 #8
Yeah, me too. dchill Feb 2016 #10
DU:primaries forum Kittycat Feb 2016 #7
OK. But comeback and visit. Wilms Feb 2016 #9
. merrily Feb 2016 #15
Thank you for your effort and support of Bernie think Feb 2016 #11
Now there's a solution. brer cat Feb 2016 #49
DU has a lot to offer and a lot that is better avoided. hay rick Feb 2016 #12
I am sorry that you've experienced such a rough initiation. CaliforniaPeggy Feb 2016 #13
JackpineRadicals.org is a board for supporters of Sanders only, if you're interested. merrily Feb 2016 #14
I'm right there with you... anotherproletariat Feb 2016 #16
I'm very sorry you had this experience EffieBlack Feb 2016 #17
This is a beautiful reply. One that reminds me what a treasure it is to be among some of the amazing PeaceNikki Feb 2016 #19
Well done. You speak for me. nolabear Feb 2016 #32
Sorry UglyGreed Feb 2016 #18
i believe it may be the BS supporters who make you feel that way. The tone is set at the top Jitter65 Feb 2016 #20
See you! RiverLover Feb 2016 #21
Hang around-- panader0 Feb 2016 #22
I am sorry about your experience. I had similar experience before but I learn that kgnu_fan Feb 2016 #23
it amazes me how people can be mean for no reason Cary Feb 2016 #25
Thanks for everything you're doing!!! RKP5637 Feb 2016 #26
Sorry to read this. JohnnyLib2 Feb 2016 #27
It works well to just use the ignore feature on DU. There are all types of people on this board, RKP5637 Feb 2016 #28
I'm sorry. It's hard on us old timers too. I can't imagine what a new poster must think. nolabear Feb 2016 #30
Use the Trash forum thread and make GD P go away. Agnosticsherbet Feb 2016 #33
Uh, LiberalElite Feb 2016 #37
Did you misunderstand. If he doesn't want to see the viciousness in GD-P Agnosticsherbet Feb 2016 #41
I know it's a typo... Liberal Jesus Freak Feb 2016 #39
Actually, the beer in March was good. I left it. Agnosticsherbet Feb 2016 #42
"all of the abuse came from people who are on the same side as me" snip from OP nt fun n serious Feb 2016 #34
Or claimed to be nt LiberalElite Feb 2016 #38
I'm sad that you're leaving, but I understand... MrMickeysMom Feb 2016 #35
Hello, JRug - LiberalElite Feb 2016 #36
Message auto-removed Name removed Feb 2016 #43
Sorry that some here have been ugly to you. cwydro Feb 2016 #45
Hey JRug NastyRiffraff Feb 2016 #46
Sorry this happened to you. It happens all too often. MADem Feb 2016 #48

leftofcool

(19,460 posts)
3. DU is a tiny bubble in the big sea.
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 01:51 AM
Feb 2016

DU doesn't even represent 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000.0000000000000000001% of Democrats or Liberals or Progressives.

NurseJackie

(42,862 posts)
29. Yes. I think many people forget that because ...
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 11:24 PM
Feb 2016

... this web site becomes their reality ... their matrix. Spend enough time behind these walls and it's easy to forget what the real world is like.

CoffeeCat

(24,411 posts)
40. I would definitely agree that DU is one little bubble
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 11:56 PM
Feb 2016

(as leftofcool said).

However, I would also suggest that DU is incredibly tame compared to most of what I've read out there.

The vitriol here is ten times worse in the comment sections of most political sites (DKos, Politico, Slate--just to name a few). Further more the comment sections on MSM sites (ABC/CBS/NBC/CNN) are much, much worse.

I've noticed that local newspapers are incredible vitriolic. I've perused dozens of local newspaper, as the campaign has progressed through different states. The comment sections in these papers are crazy-on-steroids with insults and personal slams.

I don't know of any other sites that have a jury system that tempers and quells comments. The effect is that those sites are pretty feral compared to DU. Everything is heightened in DU now, but it's nothing compared to what it's like on the outside.

I would also say that the comment sections of some of the more liberal outlets (Reddit, NYTimes, Huffington Post) are 80 percent very enthusiastic and die-hard Sanders supporters. Those sites are more civil. I love reading the NYTimes comment sections, because the comments are intelligent, thoughtful and insightful.

Each website has its own flavor, for sure.

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
5. DU's been a shadow of its former self for awhile now... But sorry you were bashed around so much
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 01:56 AM
Feb 2016

Here's hoping you find those good conversations and the general good-humored large-heartedness which is certainly in short supply here, and over much of the internet...

dchill

(38,515 posts)
6. It's like playing guitar...
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 01:56 AM
Feb 2016

Keep practicing and you'll get calluses, and soon it won't hurt at all.

Kittycat

(10,493 posts)
8. +1
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 01:58 AM
Feb 2016

:lol:
Every couple years, I come back in here to slap myself around a bit, swear it off - and then here I am again. News is so much safer.

dchill

(38,515 posts)
10. Yeah, me too.
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 02:03 AM
Feb 2016

But I gotta say, I've never heard more truth from one candidate, nor more lies from the other.

Kittycat

(10,493 posts)
7. DU:primaries forum
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 01:57 AM
Feb 2016

Not for the weak of heart. Some out it on ignore.

There's a Bernie Sanders forum, and a Socialist Progressive forum, in addition to LBN & General. Much safer for general dem conversation right now.

 

think

(11,641 posts)
11. Thank you for your effort and support of Bernie
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 02:04 AM
Feb 2016

Here's where some of us Bernie supporters hangout to catch a breath of fresh air:

http://jackpineradicals.org/content.php

Reddit's Bernie group is very positive too.

brer cat

(24,589 posts)
49. Now there's a solution.
Wed Feb 24, 2016, 04:59 PM
Feb 2016

"...all of the abuse came from people who are on the same side as me."

Go hang out with even more Bernie people since they have been so nice here.

hay rick

(7,633 posts)
12. DU has a lot to offer and a lot that is better avoided.
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 02:05 AM
Feb 2016

GD Primaries is a place to avoid. Thank you for working for Bernie.

CaliforniaPeggy

(149,677 posts)
13. I am sorry that you've experienced such a rough initiation.
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 02:09 AM
Feb 2016

We do tend to be nasty and off the rails during the primary season.

I hope you'll take a break out there in the real world where you're making a difference for Bernie, and then return after we have a nominee.

Things will settle down after the primary wars stop.

We need thoughtful intelligent folks like you to help us beat the Republicans.

 

anotherproletariat

(1,446 posts)
16. I'm right there with you...
Sun Feb 21, 2016, 02:22 AM
Feb 2016

I also joined recently, was leaning Bernie but ended up so turned off by the meanness of his supporters. I don't understand why people think that aggressive tactics will help recruits voters. Yes, there are people who acquiesce to bullies, but most people who come here looking for honest dialog are not of that sort.

 

EffieBlack

(14,249 posts)
17. I'm very sorry you had this experience
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 10:25 PM
Feb 2016

You sound young and committed and idealistic. Please don't let your experience here change that.

Remember, this is just a message board with lots of people saying things anonymously. Many of them are not who or what they claim to be and I suspect that the cruelest and most hateful ones have very little going on in the real world and attacking others while hiding behind their keyboards, saying things they probably would never have the nerve to say to anyone in person, is how they compensate for the shortcomings of their actual lives. But remember, they are irrelevant to you.

You go and do your thing, canvass and phone bank and fight like hell for your candidate. And win or lose, know that you did the right thing. If Bernie wins, you can savor a great victory and know that you truly made a difference. If he falls short, know that you did your best and there is no shame in your (or his) game and that only means when you do win, it will be all the sweeter.

Take care of yourself.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
19. This is a beautiful reply. One that reminds me what a treasure it is to be among some of the amazing
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 10:28 PM
Feb 2016

People here.

Like you.

 

Jitter65

(3,089 posts)
20. i believe it may be the BS supporters who make you feel that way. The tone is set at the top
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 10:28 PM
Feb 2016

and the supporters are, for better or worse, a reflection of the people they support. Trump is a perfect example.

panader0

(25,816 posts)
22. Hang around--
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 10:54 PM
Feb 2016

I've been here over 10 years and can say that the primary season is a minefield.
Besides, there's the lounge, photography group, many, many facets here at DU,
not just politics.

kgnu_fan

(3,021 posts)
23. I am sorry about your experience. I had similar experience before but I learn that
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 10:56 PM
Feb 2016

you can ignore those horrible people who are not worthy of my time. I found a few great members who taught me a lot over the years.

I understand how you feel. At a certain point in my DU time, when some people turned against me and followed me around like stalkers, I did take a long term break for a few years. It is good to do that. Lots get done in the real world as well. So take it easy and see you around when you feel like coming back....

Cary

(11,746 posts)
25. it amazes me how people can be mean for no reason
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 11:18 PM
Feb 2016

And then they play this stupid game where you're supposed to have ego problems because they have the emotional maturity of a 12 year old.

It's them, not you.

RKP5637

(67,112 posts)
28. It works well to just use the ignore feature on DU. There are all types of people on this board,
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 11:24 PM
Feb 2016

but everyone is not bad. I agree so much with you, sometimes it can be quite stressful and highly immature.

nolabear

(41,990 posts)
30. I'm sorry. It's hard on us old timers too. I can't imagine what a new poster must think.
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 11:26 PM
Feb 2016

It wasn't always this awful. I don't know what this means for the future. I'd say stay, but without the attachments of old it might not be worth it.

Agnosticsherbet

(11,619 posts)
33. Use the Trash forum thread and make GD P go away.
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 11:31 PM
Feb 2016

Last edited Wed Feb 24, 2016, 03:14 AM - Edit history (1)

Yes it is ugly here. It will be beer by mid March, and a whole lot better.

Agnosticsherbet

(11,619 posts)
41. Did you misunderstand. If he doesn't want to see the viciousness in GD-P
Wed Feb 24, 2016, 03:13 AM
Feb 2016

He can trash the forum.

That was not a comment about Sanders.

MrMickeysMom

(20,453 posts)
35. I'm sad that you're leaving, but I understand...
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 11:36 PM
Feb 2016

Please check back after what WAS a great site may/may not recover from this vindictiveness.

There are other areas I would visit, however. I used to spend (and probably will return) to the many other areas under "topics". I also can be PM'd for a positive web site which I shall NOT name here.

Please feel free to do that with me.

LiberalElite

(14,691 posts)
36. Hello, JRug -
Tue Feb 23, 2016, 11:40 PM
Feb 2016

I looked up the lists of posters in groups/forums and I didn't see your name in the Bernie Sanders Group. Maybe you could take a look there (it's under Democrats on the right). We try to keep it civil in there and we got complimented on it today.

I'm only here since 2012 but I understand it gets very very tense here and this primary season is exceptionally nasty for all of us. Keep in mind though - not everyone who posts here is a legitimate member of DU who joined with good intent. Some are plants who get paid to stir up trouble.

Response to JRug (Original post)

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
45. Sorry that some here have been ugly to you.
Wed Feb 24, 2016, 03:29 AM
Feb 2016

The vast majority here are good people who are able to be civil to one another.

If you stick around, you'll find out quickly that it's pretty much the same few who are consistently hateful to others.

Place them on ignore, or take refuge in the Bernie group. I'm not a fan of protected groups, but you can feel safer there at least.

I hope you'll reconsider. Check out the Lounge or any of the numerous other forums.

NastyRiffraff

(12,448 posts)
46. Hey JRug
Wed Feb 24, 2016, 12:44 PM
Feb 2016

I don't know if you're still around, lurking. If you are, I'd like to thank you for your post. Sometimes we forget that there are Sanders supporters who are thoughtful and genuinely want to be part of the process of electing a Democrat as president. I'm very sorry that people from your own side have attacked you so viciously; believe me, we've all seen that on GD-P. We've even seen it in the protected forums, like the Hillary Clinton group.

I'd ordinarily suggest you hang out in the Sanders group, but from what you say you may well be attacked there, too. I can't understand why people have to be so nasty. I know that there are few consequences for doing so online, but still. Sorry to see you go; I think you've added something valuable here.

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