2016 Postmortem
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Another Hillary Email Leakby, Mattie Bekink_
In 2014 my baby daughter Elouisa died in my arms and my life changed forever. Some weeks later, my husband helped me name a curious result of our loss we were afraid of nothing. Nothing could wreak the havoc that Elouisas death did and so our new reality felt like an opportunity to live more bravely. To realize, despite the chaos of a shattered heart, the absence of fear as bold hope.
That has remained with me and I have remained unafraid until I witnessed Donald Trump become the Republican presidential nominee. I am frightened of the ugliness and hatred that are at the centre of his messaging, the emptiness of his ideas, and his megalomaniacal focus on personal gain. I am horrified by the normalization of hate speech in US political discourse. And his appeal disturbs me, perhaps all the more so because I have watched his rise from afar, from Amsterdam where the forces that seem to be fueling Trumps rise and other political movements across Europe feel eerily reminiscent of the 1930s.
Amsterdam is a city not unfamiliar with lost daughters. After Elouisa died, I began volunteering with the Anne Frank House where the lessons of her story illuminate the timelessness of the persecution Anne and her family faced and the very human roles involved therein. Victims, perpetrators, helpers, and bystanders are everywhere.
Even beyond the contrast in policy agendas and vision, this election represents a sharp contrast in the humanity of the candidates. I cannot know whether Donald Trump is actually a magnanimous soul and this campaign is just an extension of a cultivated reality show persona designed to increase ratings and generate profits. But as Michael Bloomberg pointed out, the president must govern for reality, not reality television. And I do know that Hillary Clinton is generous, loving and has never been a bystander.
I am leaking an email from Hillary because I also refuse to stand by. Hopefully last weeks convention went far in addressing what is sometimes called her likeability challenge or what Ezra Klein called the gap between how those who have worked with or known Hillary describe her and how she is perceived by the public. I have had the great privilege of knowing Hillary for eighteen years, primarily as the mother of my dear friend Chelsea.
When she introduced her wonderful, thoughtful, hilarious mother at the convention, Chelsea explained that Hillary endures amid the sound and the fury of politics because she never, ever forgets who shes fighting for. Chelsea often says their family motto is get caught trying. Nothing says more about a person than their values as reflected through family. It was humbling and moving that Chelsea herself left her 9-week old daughter for the first time to come stand with me at our daughters memorial service. As she was en route, I received the following email:
So sorry
Dear Mattie,
When Chelsea arrives to be with you, shell be carrying my love and support for you, your husband and son as you go through this painful and challenging time.
If there is anything at all I can ever do for you, please dont hesitate to ask, my friend.
Love, Hillary
I have countless stories I could tell about Hillarys authenticity, her compassion, her grace under unrelenting scrutiny and mud-slinging, her determined work ethic, her trying. But her words in this message to me reveal more about her than any anecdote I could share. The Clintons are not bystanders. They try. And they care. Especially Hillary.
Lets save the Russians the trouble of meddling in our electoral process even more and focus on what qualities we really want in a commander in chief intelligence, compassion, integrity, and perseverance. Only one candidate has those qualities. Lets learn from the past and draw on a compelling vision for the future. Get caught trying this election, dont be a bystander, and vote for Hillary Clinton for President.
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DURHAM D
(32,609 posts)NastyRiffraff
(12,448 posts)their narrative. She's supposed to be "cold" and "distant." It only confuses the media people when something contradicts what they've been hammering into the American public for years.
mcar
(42,307 posts)Seriously, that is one of the loveliest messages I've ever seen.
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Rose Siding
(32,623 posts)Dupes are only discouraged in LBN
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(11,088 posts)mgardener
(1,816 posts)I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I held my 5 day old son while he died. Hardest thing I have ever done.
It is for my living children and my new grandson that I am voting for Hilary. To vote for Trump is a vote for the dark side. A world full of hate, fear and anger. Nobody deserves that world.except those that vote for it.
I have been to a fundraising dinner where Hilary spoke while campaigning for Senator. She was articulate, funny, smart and an excellent speaker.
calimary
(81,222 posts)Sounds like you're rather uniquely positioned to appreciate this OP on a very much more personal and intimate level than any of the rest of us could, having not experienced that agony.
My two kids are grown to adulthood. But I remember so clearly when they each were born, marveling at how perfect they were - completely "finished" as they came out of the womb (Look! A teeny nearly-invisible little hairline already! Cuticles, even!). Such an incredible miracle of cell differentiation. Everything's there. Every itty bitty detail is there. Package complete. And I also remember thinking of how delicate each of them were. "Go ahead! Pull her out," the obstetrician said, when our daughter was finally emerging. I was afraid to! I was afraid I'd accidentally pull her little arms off! Didn't happen. She was as sturdy and well-put-together as can be. Two-and-a-half years later, so was her little brother. But I still marveled and was intimidated and nervous - anything could happen. They're so little, so vulnerable. It's a dreadful and unfortunate truth - even now with all that modern medicine - that babies can, indeed, not survive their first few days. I can't even begin to imagine the agony of that worst-case scenario!
I also marvel at how people can face that agony, move through it, and find some way to go on - without being completely destroyed. I don't know if I'd ever have that much strength and fortitude within myself to recover from something so devastating. But at this late date, here YOU are, contributing and remembering and sharing about it so we can all gain in wisdom, and insight, and compassion.
You are a marvel. And an inspiration.
DesertRat
(27,995 posts)lillypaddle
(9,580 posts)Still In Wisconsin
(4,450 posts)expressions of love like what Hillary showed here are what get you through the hardest of times. Not "God needed another angel," not "you can have another," but just simple expressions like this.
Good on HRC. I love her more every day.