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ZM90

(706 posts)
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 07:03 PM Oct 2016

The difference between what Bill Clinton did and what Donald Trump did is one simple thing.

We all know Trump is going to bring up Bill Clinton's blowjob with Monica and while yes that was a terrible thing for Bill to do there is a huge difference between what Bill and Trump did. One word.

Consent.

What Bill did was consensual but what Trump did with groping those women was non-consensual it was in other words sexual assault.

Trump is going to try to save himself by comparing this to what Bill did but don't let them get away with that meme. Bill loved women a little too much but Trump sees women as his playthings and doesn't see them as human beings.

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The difference between what Bill Clinton did and what Donald Trump did is one simple thing. (Original Post) ZM90 Oct 2016 OP
It's Trump's childish way of saying 'but everyone else is doing it so I'm not really bad'. In_The_Wind Oct 2016 #1
Both were bad deeds, no way to justify but Bill Clinton is not running for president MyNameIsKhan Oct 2016 #2
Bill asked Monica if he could kiss her, after she lifted up her shirt pnwmom Oct 2016 #4
Yes. The key difference is consent. Clinton asked permission to kiss her, pnwmom Oct 2016 #3
Monica also acknowledged having an affair with an older man whose kids she watched politicaljunkie41910 Oct 2016 #11
Except Trump is focusing on Broaddrick not Lewinsky oberliner Oct 2016 #13
Broaddrick testified in her Paula Jones deposition that she had NOT been pnwmom Oct 2016 #14
She recanted that testimony oberliner Oct 2016 #15
Did you read my post? She recanted it under pressure from the Ken Starr pnwmom Oct 2016 #18
Yes, of course oberliner Oct 2016 #19
No, Hillary will find a much more succinct way to turn it back at him. pnwmom Oct 2016 #20
I look forward to that oberliner Oct 2016 #21
No, the difference is that Hillary didn't do it. Vinca Oct 2016 #5
This. Agschmid Oct 2016 #7
Precisely! etherealtruth Oct 2016 #8
And Trump's blaming her only reinforces his misogyny. BainsBane Oct 2016 #49
I thought you were going to say the Rs impeached Clinton but Dark n Stormy Knight Oct 2016 #6
Another huge difference is that Bill Clinton genuinely likes women Hortensis Oct 2016 #9
Just like in a court of law, Wednesdays Oct 2016 #25
Sorry... qwlauren35 Oct 2016 #10
Right... yet 70m starr commission got nothing, want to change your tune now Foggyhill Oct 2016 #22
I refer you to post #5 Wednesdays Oct 2016 #26
This message was self-deleted by its author Kathy M Oct 2016 #40
Trump is retweeting Juanita Broaddrick right now oberliner Oct 2016 #12
Hillary didn't rape anybody. She's not responsible for what Bill did or might have done. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2016 #16
Exactly oberliner Oct 2016 #17
This has been rehashed to death Foggyhill Oct 2016 #23
That is exacatly what the strategy should be, and Bill Clinton should stay away still_one Oct 2016 #28
I think he should be there Kathy M Oct 2016 #42
No, Bill is innocent, the 90's were spent investigating radius777 Oct 2016 #48
I have to push back on this line of argument. CTyankee Oct 2016 #53
It's unbelievable to me that this point has to be repeated over and over sarae Oct 2016 #51
Read up about the story she's skating on thin ice withthis Foggyhill Oct 2016 #24
Bullshit. That wasn't just about Monica, there was a history. Bill Clinton should keep a low profi still_one Oct 2016 #27
So, your saying there is a history of assault? Foggyhill Oct 2016 #29
When he was govenor of Arkansas. You have heard of Paula Jones? Paula Jones filed still_one Oct 2016 #30
And this was rehashed during the start commission Foggyhill Oct 2016 #33
Thank goodness you are not on the Clinton campaign, no offense still_one Oct 2016 #36
Right... because you constant distorsion of facts Foggyhill Oct 2016 #55
Bill was a politician who had many affairs, and many enemies, radius777 Oct 2016 #44
Paula Jones's claim was that he exposed himself to her, not that he assaulted her. pnwmom Oct 2016 #45
I would have agreed - but more than one woman has accused Bill nadine_mn Oct 2016 #31
Well, they should go to court then and make a. Snk Foggyhill Oct 2016 #34
Don't you follow the news? former9thward Oct 2016 #38
So settled means assault... NO, try again and that's Foggyhill Oct 2016 #50
Ken Starr spent $70 million searching for evidence pnwmom Oct 2016 #46
Just shoot me now. OMG, here we go again nt riderinthestorm Oct 2016 #32
Bill? GulfCoast66 Oct 2016 #35
The difference is Trump admitted to it Adenoid_Hynkel Oct 2016 #37
Really? former9thward Oct 2016 #39
He didn't. Paula Jones didn't claim he assaulted her. pnwmom Oct 2016 #47
Bill was a player, Trump is a predator. radius777 Oct 2016 #41
This message was self-deleted by its author Kathy M Oct 2016 #43
Wouldn't it be nice to return to these quaint days exboyfil Oct 2016 #52
Bill Clinton is not running for President. Why should we care about that now? lonestarnot Oct 2016 #54
The nonconsensual allegations against Clinton have all been disproven Peaches999 Oct 2016 #56

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
4. Bill asked Monica if he could kiss her, after she lifted up her shirt
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 07:19 PM
Oct 2016

and showed her thong underwear.

His behavior was not the same as Trump's. To this day Lewinsky asserts that their relationship was consensual; that what hurt her was the media attention, not Clinton.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
3. Yes. The key difference is consent. Clinton asked permission to kiss her,
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 07:17 PM
Oct 2016

according to Lewinsky's testimony in the Starr report. She has consistently, even twenty years later, insisted that their whole relationship was consensual.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/politics/special/clinton/icreport/6narritii.htm

C. November 15 Sexual Encounter

Ms. Lewinsky testified that Wednesday, November 15, 1995 -- the second day of the government shutdown -- marked the beginning of her sexual relationship with the President.(146) On that date, she entered the White House at 1:30 p.m., left sometime thereafter (White House records do not show the time), reentered at 5:07 p.m., and departed at 12:18 a.m. on November 16.(147) The President was in the Oval Office or the Chief of Staff's office (where Ms. Lewinsky worked during the furlough) for almost the identical period that Ms. Lewinsky was in the White House that evening, from 5:01 p.m. on November 15 to 12:35 a.m. on November 16.(148)

According to Ms. Lewinsky, she and the President made eye contact when he came to the West Wing to see Mr. Panetta and Deputy Chief of Staff Harold Ickes, then again later at an informal birthday party for Jennifer Palmieri, Special Assistant to the Chief of Staff.(149) At one point, Ms. Lewinsky and the President talked alone in the Chief of Staff's office. In the course of flirting with him, she raised her jacket in the back and showed him the straps of her thong underwear, which extended above her pants.(150)

En route to the restroom at about 8 p.m., she passed George Stephanopoulos's office. The President was inside alone, and he beckoned her to enter.(151) She told him that she had a crush on him. He laughed, then asked if she would like to see his private office.(152) Through a connecting door in Mr. Stephanopoulos's office, they went through the President's private dining room toward the study off the Oval Office. Ms. Lewinsky testified: "We talked briefly and sort of acknowledged that there had been a chemistry that was there before and that we were both attracted to each other and then he asked me if he could kiss me." Ms. Lewinsky said yes. In the windowless hallway adjacent to the study, they kissed.(153) Before returning to her desk, Ms. Lewinsky wrote down her name and telephone number for the President.(154)


The relationship between the President and Lewinsky while he was President; and with Gennifer Flowers before he was President (which Clinton acknowledged, though the two disputed the length of the relationship); were the only ones that Starr, with his $70 million, multiple year investigation -- was able to prove.

politicaljunkie41910

(3,335 posts)
11. Monica also acknowledged having an affair with an older man whose kids she watched
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 07:54 PM
Oct 2016

long before she came to Washington for her Internship. I believe he was also one of her professors at the university she attended. It showed that she was a sick young women who preyed on older men with families for attention. She seemed to have many security issues, and Bill Clinton seemed just as needy as she did at the time.

There use to be an infomercial on many years ago, called "Light His Fire" for woman whose husbands had had affairs, and for women who wanted to keep their husbands from having affairs. The woman who starred in the Infomercial was a psychiatrist and selling a book and a series of tapes. The central theme of it all was that men have affairs not because they didn't love their wives and their family, but because of the way the woman with whom they were having the affair (or just sex) made them feel, when they were with them. So the tapes and the book were pretty informative and they were marketed towards women whose husbands had had affairs, and those who want to keep their husbands from having affairs. She also came out a Light Her Fire version which were geared towards men, though men rarely by these kinds of books. While the book and the tapes were informative, it still seemed to put the majority of the responsibility of having a successful marriage on only one of the parties in the relationship. However, the advice was good, and it pretty much concluded that men are simple creatures; women are more complex.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
14. Broaddrick testified in her Paula Jones deposition that she had NOT been
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 08:02 PM
Oct 2016

sexually assaulted.

Later, she signed a deposition for Ken Starr saying that he had assaulted her. But we also know that Ken Starr tried to intimidate another witness, Julie Hyatt Steele, into falsely swearing an affidavit confirming the assault report of Kathleen Willie. When Steele wouldn't do so, he pressed charges against Steele for obstructing justice, and she faced years in prison. She faced him down in her trial, however, and won.

Meanwhile, Linda Tripp, the same woman who brought Monica Lewinsky's tapes to the Starr investigation, testified in dispute of Kathleen Willie's account. There were many other problems with that case, too. But Starr was desperate to corroborate it -- so desperate that he had pushed Steele to lie.

So why did Broaddrick first swear that he hadn't assaulted her and then swear that he had? Maybe she was telling the truth to Starr -- or maybe he had intimidated her, just as he tried to intimidate Steele.

Knowing how hard he pushed Steele -- the real hero in this whole debacle -- it is obvious that if he could have prosecuted Clinton for anything more than lying about Lewinsky, he would have. But he didn't have the evidence, after all those years of a $70 million investigation.

And neither does anyone else.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
15. She recanted that testimony
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 08:04 PM
Oct 2016

And is tweeting right this very moment that she was raped by BC and Trump is retweeting those tweets.

This is the angle that Trump is going to try to push.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
18. Did you read my post? She recanted it under pressure from the Ken Starr
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 08:07 PM
Oct 2016

investigation. And she has received plenty of money for her new story over the years. Nothing she says could be proven then or now.

By the way, her husband at the time was one of the people who disputed her story.

Trump can push that story, just as he pushes lots of stories. But he will never be able to prove it's true.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
19. Yes, of course
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 08:09 PM
Oct 2016

I am just telling you the direction that Trump appears to be wanting to take this.

We've seen enough of him to know how he acts.

He could say something like: "Are you calling this woman a liar?"

Does she respond the way you did above or is there a better way to deal with him on this front?

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
20. No, Hillary will find a much more succinct way to turn it back at him.
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 08:11 PM
Oct 2016

I'm not sure that pointing out that Broaddrick signed a deposition denying any assault wouldn't be a bad thing.

But Hillary has got this, I'm sure.

Vinca

(50,273 posts)
5. No, the difference is that Hillary didn't do it.
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 07:21 PM
Oct 2016

Bill might have fucked everything in sight. Hillary didn't. It will only piss off women (aka "pussy" to Trump) if he blames her for Bill's philandering.

BainsBane

(53,032 posts)
49. And Trump's blaming her only reinforces his misogyny.
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 03:00 AM
Oct 2016

I just hope Hillary does not defend Bill tomorrow night.

Dark n Stormy Knight

(9,760 posts)
6. I thought you were going to say the Rs impeached Clinton but
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 07:22 PM
Oct 2016

nominated Trump.

Trump is also claiming Clinton raped women other than Lewinsky. I really do hope that is untrue, but does not excuse Trump's vile misogyny, regardless.

Hortensis

(58,785 posts)
9. Another huge difference is that Bill Clinton genuinely likes women
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 07:35 PM
Oct 2016

and enjoys their company out of bed, as well as in. And men like that are extremely attractive to women.

Trump's personality disorder does not allow him to develop normal relationships with others, but his wealth has always drawn women to it, and it's allowed him to purchase sexual favors as needed. Without it, he'd be an extremely lonely man.

Wednesdays

(17,380 posts)
26. I refer you to post #5
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 09:22 PM
Oct 2016

Last I heard, Bill Clinton's name was not on the ballot. I think you took a wrong turn at Albuquerque.

Response to qwlauren35 (Reply #10)

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
12. Trump is retweeting Juanita Broaddrick right now
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 07:56 PM
Oct 2016

If she is to be believed, that was not consensual.

Foggyhill

(1,060 posts)
23. This has been rehashed to death
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 09:10 PM
Oct 2016

If she goes there, she'll be in court for libel after the election
There is fucking limit to the shit

Trump probably assaulted hundreds of women, many ynderafed

Kathy M

(1,242 posts)
42. I think he should be there
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 02:13 AM
Oct 2016

Hopefully some if not all of the truth will be known in the next few days instead of the conspiracies

Posted above a couple links may want to look at

radius777

(3,635 posts)
48. No, Bill is innocent, the 90's were spent investigating
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 02:40 AM
Oct 2016

all of this shit, millions of dollars, countless hours/witnesses/experts. Nothing.

A settlement to Jones (or anyone else) proves nothing, certainly not illegal (non-consensual) behavior. High profile defendants often settle out of court in order to hide embarassing details about their lives from coming out in public.

Many women coming forward proves nothing, since Bill had many affairs and many enemies, who could use the women as pawns and claim it was non-consensual. Again, there is zero evidence of illegal behavior, and much to suggest it was fabricated for political reasons.

Trump/GOP is trying to paint Hillary as either an enabler or clueless, which is why a defense of Bill is essential, as well as the fact that he'll become the first gentleman if Hillary is elected, and she has stated she will appoint him to a role in her admin. Avoiding this issue is not an option.

CTyankee

(63,912 posts)
53. I have to push back on this line of argument.
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 10:53 AM
Oct 2016

What Bill did was reckless to say the least. His presidency and the fate of the Democratic Party hung in the balance. Bill was the most powerful man in the world and he could have barred Monica Lewinsky from the White House. He could have easily told his aides to keep her away. He brought that on himself and, unfortunately, us as well. We had to waste time and effort just to keep him in the White House. He had the power to stop her and he didn't.

sarae

(3,284 posts)
51. It's unbelievable to me that this point has to be repeated over and over
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 10:50 AM
Oct 2016

to Republicans who insist on using this avenue to condemn her. The blatant sexism behind charging her with her husband's actions is completely lost on them.

still_one

(92,201 posts)
27. Bullshit. That wasn't just about Monica, there was a history. Bill Clinton should keep a low profi
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 09:54 PM
Oct 2016

Hillary will do just fine as long as he stays away from this

Foggyhill

(1,060 posts)
29. So, your saying there is a history of assault?
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 10:17 PM
Oct 2016

Infidelity is one thing, that's something else
The state commission tried real hard to get more and could NOT

still_one

(92,201 posts)
30. When he was govenor of Arkansas. You have heard of Paula Jones? Paula Jones filed
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 11:14 PM
Oct 2016

a harassment lawsuit against Bill Clinton. Before the trial the case was dismissed, on the grounds that Jones failed to demonstrate any damages. The dismissal was appealed, and Bill Clinton entered into an out-of-court settlement by agreeing to pay Jones $850,000

I am not going to rehash the garbage, but there were enough women who said it was not consensual. Some no doubt is politically motivated, but going that route by bringing in Bill Clinton is a losing proposition

Hillary had nothing to do with Bill's behavior, consensual or not

Foggyhill

(1,060 posts)
33. And this was rehashed during the start commission
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 01:07 AM
Oct 2016

So, all I got is innuendo

I'm not arguing that he
Wasn't a bad husband
And probably did his share
Of sexual harassment
But

Implying a settlement means assault is quite something else

Trump describes sexual assault as a routine "séduction" technique

Foggyhill

(1,060 posts)
55. Right... because you constant distorsion of facts
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 11:19 AM
Oct 2016

A la 90s and accepting innuendo as true
Despite 100m of wasted investigation saying different
Would be so much better
Pushing back on this is why Clinton is why she and bill are here to fight another day

Words also have meanings, using assault or rape when it isn't ts not right

radius777

(3,635 posts)
44. Bill was a politician who had many affairs, and many enemies,
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 02:20 AM
Oct 2016

and once his enemies discovered this, they could easily use it against him, and what many of those investigations in the 90's (imo) revealed was that the women were used as political pawns to bring him down.

So yes, there were many women, but there has never been evidence to suggest these were anything other than consensual affairs that were then later weaponized for political effect by claiming they were non-consensual.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
45. Paula Jones's claim was that he exposed himself to her, not that he assaulted her.
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 02:26 AM
Oct 2016

If he did that, it was WRONG -- but when she came forward, it was with Republican handlers. Who knows whether it really happened?

Ken Starr spent years and $70 million, but all he could find worth prosecuting Clinton for was obstruction of justice for lying about consensual relations with Lewinsky.

nadine_mn

(3,702 posts)
31. I would have agreed - but more than one woman has accused Bill
Sat Oct 8, 2016, 11:19 PM
Oct 2016

of rape or sexual assault.

I want to believe all of his affairs were consensual, but I also want to believe victims. Bill was my "first" - first presidential election I could vote in, so my memories of those times are rose colored. But to staunchly say that the other women who accused him of assault are liars without evidence makes me no better than the Trump surrogates on TV now


And to the more salient point already raised - we are voting in 2016 for Hillary, and she has not sexually assaulted anyone

Foggyhill

(1,060 posts)
34. Well, they should go to court then and make a. Snk
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 01:11 AM
Oct 2016

Accused this, accuse that
Again, more than 120 million in 2016 money
Was spent going after Bill and they
Got nothing
That's a monstrous amount of investigative power

Foggyhill

(1,060 posts)
50. So settled means assault... NO, try again and that's
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 10:42 AM
Oct 2016

A civil case where the standard of proof are lower too and it's not that person either
The Jones claim wasn't assault even if it was true which was not demonstrated.
So, try Again.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
46. Ken Starr spent $70 million searching for evidence
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 02:30 AM
Oct 2016

that would show Clinton assaulted someone, but couldn't find anything to prosecute him for, except for lying about consensual sex with Lewinsky.

The only other person he prosecuted was a woman, Julie Hyatt Steele, because she wouldn't confirm Kathleen Willie's story. He charged Steele with obstruction of justice because she wouldn't falsely confirm Willie's story, and she faced years in prison. But she faced him down in a trial and won.

She was a Republican who had no reason to help Clinton. She was just an ethical person with true courage.

GulfCoast66

(11,949 posts)
35. Bill?
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 01:22 AM
Oct 2016

I see no Bill on my Ballot. Only a Clinton named Hillary.

I am married to a strong woman. I love being married to a strong woman. My actions do not define her.

And when Bill is brought up as an attack on Hillary...Misogyny is the word.

 

Adenoid_Hynkel

(14,093 posts)
37. The difference is Trump admitted to it
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 01:47 AM
Oct 2016

and bragged about how he got away with it.

Bill has always denied the claims of his questionable accuser Broddrick and her constantly-changing story. (When under oath, she swore nothing happened)

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
47. He didn't. Paula Jones didn't claim he assaulted her.
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 02:34 AM
Oct 2016

She claimed he exposed himself and asked if she wanted to do something.

She said no and left.

If he did expose himself, that was wrong -- but when she came forward, it was with Republican handlers, during the Ken Starr investigation. Maybe it happened, maybe it didn't. But he was smart to settle so she'd go away.

radius777

(3,635 posts)
41. Bill was a player, Trump is a predator.
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 02:13 AM
Oct 2016

The fundamental difference has to do with consent, worldview and evidence.

Bill Clinton was pro-women's rights and viewed women as equals, whose choices and consent mattered. His actions with women seem to be more of his own personal weakness, like an overweight person who eats too much, or an alcoholic who drinks too much.

Trump, OTOH, holds an aggressively misogynistic worldview where women exist to serve men, especially powerful men like himself, and his actions w/women are an expression of hierarchical and gender dominance.

Evidence. There is a mountain of evidence, mainly Trump's own recorded words, that he sees nothing wrong with behaving in inappropriate, illegal and non-consensual manner with women, including his own family members (wives, daughters), co-workers, friends, aquaintances or strangers.

Bill Clinton has lived a lifetime in the public eye and had been investigated ad-nauseam, and zero evidence has ever turned up that he behaved in a non-consensual manner with anyone.

IMO, there is evidence to suggest that he was the repeated target of political witchhunts, and thus was the victim himself.

Response to radius777 (Reply #41)

exboyfil

(17,863 posts)
52. Wouldn't it be nice to return to these quaint days
Sun Oct 9, 2016, 10:52 AM
Oct 2016
http://www.mtv.com/videos/misc/133280/vintage-mtv-bill-clintons-briefs.jhtml


I am going to mine quotes from leading Republicans on this.

As for the difference between Trump and Clinton. Adultery is wrong but coarsening the culture by talking about it, intimate sexual acts, objectifying women in sexual terms including your daughter etc. The Republican Party has given you this. Bill Clinton never wanted to talk about what he did, but he was forced to by the Republicans. What he has admitted to is legal if immoral. What Trump admitted to is illegal and immoral.

Finally Bill Clinton is not running for President. Trump is.
 

Peaches999

(118 posts)
56. The nonconsensual allegations against Clinton have all been disproven
Wed Oct 19, 2016, 04:18 AM
Oct 2016

Trump has not been able to do the same, aside from threatening to sue.

On edit: sue the newspapers, not the accusers/victims.

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