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redqueen

(115,103 posts)
Mon May 20, 2013, 11:22 AM May 2013

More goodness from tumblr.




So, I paint my nails pretty regularly these days. I also work as a barista/cashier pretty regularly these days. A few weeks back, I had a customer come in, a fairly typical, sheltered, suburban soccer mom, and she ordered a latte from me. She saw my brightly colored nails and said, “Wow, you’re so brave! My son asked me about painting his nails, and if it’s okay for boys to do that. Now I’ll tell him there’s a cool guy who does it too!” It was a nice moment, very cute.

Then, last week, she came in again, and said, “Hey, I’m so glad you’re here! I want you to meet someone!” She then brings her son forward, and says, “Okay sweetie, show him what you did!” And he throws his hands up, showing off his bright, sparkling blue nails. He shows them off, and I show mine off to him. He smiles. We fist bump.

Guys, I’ve only wanted to cry once at work before, and that was when someone ordered a large dry soy cappuccino on ice.

This time, though. This was a good cry.

http://vegansanfrancishet.tumblr.com/post/50509954832/so-i-paint-my-nails-pretty-regularly-these-days


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More goodness from tumblr. (Original Post) redqueen May 2013 OP
I guess others here weren't as touched by this story. redqueen May 2013 #1
It didn't make me teary eyed, it made me feel happy inside tavalon May 2013 #2
This message was self-deleted by its author redqueen May 2013 #3
I wanted to add that as a Seattlite, tavalon May 2013 #4
I prefer to think of it as gender-shitcanning, myself. redqueen May 2013 #6
Okay, tavalon May 2013 #8
It's just that gender-bending, to me, implies that the gender constructs stay intact, redqueen May 2013 #10
Yeah, I can agree with that tavalon May 2013 #13
I am happy to see a mom who is willing to open her mind UtahLib May 2013 #5
Same here... redqueen May 2013 #7
I agree UtahLib May 2013 #9
SO very well said.. redqueen May 2013 #11
Awesome! ismnotwasm May 2013 #12
You know I'm lovin' it. MadrasT May 2013 #14

tavalon

(27,985 posts)
2. It didn't make me teary eyed, it made me feel happy inside
Mon May 20, 2013, 02:58 PM
May 2013

Almost anything that blurs the gender lines we've lived with for so long is A-OK with me

Response to tavalon (Reply #2)

tavalon

(27,985 posts)
4. I wanted to add that as a Seattlite,
Mon May 20, 2013, 03:08 PM
May 2013

I am quite used to gender bending. It happens all over this city. And I think it's a good thing.

tavalon

(27,985 posts)
8. Okay,
Mon May 20, 2013, 03:47 PM
May 2013

Whatever it takes. It wasn't until I came to Seattle that I saw the level of diversity that made me understand that there's a lot more than just girl, boy, het, homo, trans, etc. People here come in at least as many flavors as Baskin Robbins.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
10. It's just that gender-bending, to me, implies that the gender constructs stay intact,
Mon May 20, 2013, 04:05 PM
May 2013

and just bent / fudged a little... when IMO they just need to disappear completely.

I don't know if it was growing up in a multi racial family or early exposure to Rocky Horror or what, but I've always intuitively known that these little labels are nothing but nonsense ... I used to think it was just for lazy minds, but I have realized it's also for bigots... and the roots are in power and oppression.

tavalon

(27,985 posts)
13. Yeah, I can agree with that
Mon May 20, 2013, 09:06 PM
May 2013

There is so much still within the American societal structure that needs to be gone.

UtahLib

(3,179 posts)
5. I am happy to see a mom who is willing to open her mind
Mon May 20, 2013, 03:18 PM
May 2013

in order to expand the horizons of her son. He will be a better person for having such a caring and non-judgemental parent.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
7. Same here...
Mon May 20, 2013, 03:23 PM
May 2013

it kills me to see parents basically telling their kids that they're wrong for liking harmless things... if a kid is a bully, that's a valid reason to tell them that their behavior is wrong... but telling them they're wrong for liking the wrong colors, toys, characters, hobbies, etc... just breaks my heart.

UtahLib

(3,179 posts)
9. I agree
Mon May 20, 2013, 03:55 PM
May 2013

One need only observe some of today's societal ills to see what damage might be done to a child by forging such a divide between female and male during the most important learning stages of his or her life.

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