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I like the way this girl thinks ... (Original Post) Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 OP
Miss Clever Britches! My Good Babushka Feb 2014 #1
and what would you do about the boy/man that instigated her clever retort? Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #2
If he were my minor son My Good Babushka Feb 2014 #3
excellent. i doubt i would ground the daughter, seabeyond Feb 2014 #4
I worry about the same with my sons My Good Babushka Feb 2014 #5
and i was there also. mine are 19 and 16. it worked well. seabeyond Feb 2014 #7
Love it. cinnabonbon Feb 2014 #6
Such a clever girl. I would hate to see her creativity and cleverness quashed. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #8
Saw that on tumblr and *looove it*... but what I take away from these kinds of posts, redqueen Feb 2014 #9
and this is it. i agree totally redq. nt seabeyond Feb 2014 #10
the very fact that this girl had to come up with clever retort. And the fact that they blanked his Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #11
"...the sadness of this situation, this is a big part of why I became a radical feminist." CrispyQ Feb 2014 #13
Yes. I am so sad for my young neices and the things they have to deal with. Squinch Feb 2014 #14
I find it kind of sad... F4lconF16 Feb 2014 #15
Anywhere but DU3, I think she would be known as a Feminist. However, DU3 is so behind the times Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #16
Ha, yes, that is true. redqueen Feb 2014 #19
question regarding terminology ... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #20
Yes, I just dislike the 'wave' terminology. redqueen Feb 2014 #24
I thought we are already in Fourth Wave. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #25
Many of us would like to be, redqueen Feb 2014 #27
I claim it, redqueen. Rising Up and Moving On. I understand what you are saying about Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #29
Oh, well I was referring to the academic definition of radical feminism, redqueen Feb 2014 #18
I guess that is pretty radical ... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #21
Haha yeah, radical as in AWESOME! redqueen Feb 2014 #22
This country used to be known as a Social Democracy .... Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #23
Thank you very much for the explanation. F4lconF16 Feb 2014 #26
That is wonderful! redqueen Feb 2014 #28
One little fix: F4lconF16 Feb 2014 #31
with the above definition I too, would have to self define as a radical feminist. meh. I agree with Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #30
Good for her! nt sufrommich Feb 2014 #12
I thought it was a very smart comeback. Good For Her! Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #17

My Good Babushka

(2,710 posts)
1. Miss Clever Britches!
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 12:00 PM
Feb 2014

If she were my minor daughter, I'd still ground her!
Never encourage creepy weirdos by acknowledging them.

My Good Babushka

(2,710 posts)
3. If he were my minor son
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 12:08 PM
Feb 2014

he would be grounded from phone, internet and video games and we'd be spending the next month volunteering at the Women's Crisis Shelter.
But my boys are still young, they think girls are yucky.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
4. excellent. i doubt i would ground the daughter,
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 12:13 PM
Feb 2014

for the fact of cleverness of her reply. could equally be the boy she has know all her life in the neighborhood, going to school with. doesnt necessarily have to be a "creepy" guy from the internet. i would have to see more. but, point. if creepy man on internet, though clever, it is feeding the creep.

My Good Babushka

(2,710 posts)
5. I worry about the same with my sons
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 12:16 PM
Feb 2014

They want to play online games and have their own YouTube channels, and I constantly have to police them, so they don't say "hey here we are, we're 7 and 10, we live in this house, come kidnap us!"
Vigilance. Vigilance. Vigilance.

 

seabeyond

(110,159 posts)
7. and i was there also. mine are 19 and 16. it worked well.
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 12:20 PM
Feb 2014

but, a parent not paying attention, in my book, is not parenting.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
9. Saw that on tumblr and *looove it*... but what I take away from these kinds of posts,
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 12:28 PM
Feb 2014

and there are many, is the entitlement.

Girls share their clever smackdowns of these pathetic jerks and it is amusing... but in some, they reveal such sadness and disappointment. Some share that that they used to think of the guy as a friend. That they used to think he respected them as a person. And now they get desperate pleading and bargaining - or worse, orders, like in this case - and they find out they were never a friend to them at all.

The smackdowns are funny - the public outings even better (I assume you've all seen the Facebook sexual harassers who were outed to their moms - but the sadness of this situation, this is a big part of why I became a radical feminist.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
11. the very fact that this girl had to come up with clever retort. And the fact that they blanked his
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 12:56 PM
Feb 2014

face. Had this been the other way around. Well, we see that happening and the results daily.

The tables need to be turned.

That he thinks he can act this way in the first place ...says a lot ... I think.



CrispyQ

(36,487 posts)
13. "...the sadness of this situation, this is a big part of why I became a radical feminist."
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 05:59 PM
Feb 2014

And it's you wonderful members of HOF who have educated me on how pervasive this whole thing is & also how different things are than when I was young.

I almost hope it was some creepy guy asking instead of one of her classmates. To me the classmate indicates the level of entitlement young boys feel is much more than when I was a teen in the 70's.

Squinch

(50,977 posts)
14. Yes. I am so sad for my young neices and the things they have to deal with.
Thu Feb 27, 2014, 06:33 PM
Feb 2014

One is at that age where she is invincible, and it is so much fun to watch her humor and grit and confidence. I cringe at the thought of the experiences that will inevitably dim that little blaze she has.

F4lconF16

(3,747 posts)
15. I find it kind of sad...
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:04 PM
Feb 2014

that supporting equal rights and freedom from harassment, among many other things, means that you are a "radical" feminist. While there are certainly radical feminists (as there are of pretty much anything), from what posts of yours I have seen I wouldn't consider you one. It's kinda sad that we label ourselves as such when our demands are so reasonable.

Now if you support chopping off all male genitalia or something like that elsewhere that I haven't seen, then I would probably agree with the "radical" label

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
16. Anywhere but DU3, I think she would be known as a Feminist. However, DU3 is so behind the times
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 12:36 PM
Feb 2014

that her ideas appear radical to some of the more conservative ... uhm ... Democrats (?) ... that post here.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
19. Ha, yes, that is true.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:36 PM
Feb 2014

Here, we get the types which aggressively catapult antifeminist propaganda, which is of course more commonly used against radical feminists.

Liberal feminists aren't threatening the more popular forms of female oppression, so they aren't targeted nearly as much.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
20. question regarding terminology ...
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:40 PM
Feb 2014

inre:

Liberal feminists aren't threatening the more popular forms of female oppression, so they aren't targeted nearly as much.


Would this be Third Wave ... ?

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
24. Yes, I just dislike the 'wave' terminology.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:03 PM
Feb 2014

The waves are poorly defined and all too often the less informed like to pretend that since the third wave is the latest, that anything but third wave feminism is therefore outdated, obsolete, old fashioned, etc.

Spend enough time discussing feminist issues and you'll quickly start seeing a pattern.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
27. Many of us would like to be,
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:24 PM
Feb 2014

But the idea is very new, and there's no widespread understanding of what the term even means.

IMO such branding type terminology gets in the way more than it helps to communicate ideas anyway.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
29. I claim it, redqueen. Rising Up and Moving On. I understand what you are saying about
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:31 PM
Feb 2014

communicating ideas and, I am not really fond of the labeling either but, since it is already here and, I am late to the "game"

and, since there are some agreements on the nebulousity of all this terminology, I am claiming fourth wave to be already here.

Third wave is so 20th century.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
18. Oh, well I was referring to the academic definition of radical feminism,
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:27 PM
Feb 2014

as opposed to the ignorantly used pejorative.

Those who use it as a pejorative only demonstrate their lack of knowledge about the subject.

Radical feminism is the type of feminism that deals with the root cause of not only women's oppression, but all oppression (therefore 'radical' because the definition of 'radical' used here means to go to the root or origin).

As an example of the difference - Liberal feminists are focused mainly on addressing the causes of women's oppression that can be rectified via laws and courts. This is very important obviously, but radical feminists, although they do also support and fight for better laws, seek to address the underlying causes for these inequalities.

In addition to fighting unfair laws, we try to address reasons the laws were written in the first place. Or to go back to the example above, in addition to laws that protect women and girls from sexual harassment, we try to address the societal causes which are the reason for this sadly ubiquitous form of harassment.

That is why it is the goal of radical feminists to end the harmful structure of society - the patriarchy - which enforces a hierarchical power structure on everyone. It is our belief that true equality of all people cannot be achieved as long as this structure remains in place.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
21. I guess that is pretty radical ...
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:41 PM
Feb 2014
That is why it is the goal of radical feminists to end the harmful structure of society - the patriarchy - which enforces a hierarchical power structure on everyone. It is our belief that true equality of all people cannot be achieved as long as this structure remains in place.


This would mean World Wide Global Effort For Change.

That is pretty damn radical.

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
22. Haha yeah, radical as in AWESOME!
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 01:58 PM
Feb 2014


It of course would also require a more socialist economic model, since capitalism is inherently hierarchical. Capitalism is, in the opinion of many if not most radical feminists, simply an offshoot of patriarchy - just like the patriarchal religions which also serve to reinforce and maintain this horrific hierarchical society

F4lconF16

(3,747 posts)
26. Thank you very much for the explanation.
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:21 PM
Feb 2014

I've never studied feminism academically, so there's a lot I don't know. I just work to stop the inequality I see, which, unfortunately, is a lot. It's good to learn, though, and I am always glad to hear explanations like this. I do believe I would consider myself a radical feminist then

redqueen

(115,103 posts)
28. That is wonderful!
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:28 PM
Feb 2014


We need so many more women helping to focus on the root causes of this stuff. Like you said, there is A LOT.

F4lconF16

(3,747 posts)
31. One little fix:
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 03:14 PM
Feb 2014

While I completely agree we need more women helping out, I'm actually a man my fault for not making it clear, I meant "we" as in feminists in me earlier post, not "we" as in women. Sorry, it wasn't my intention to decieve.

Tuesday Afternoon

(56,912 posts)
30. with the above definition I too, would have to self define as a radical feminist. meh. I agree with
Fri Feb 28, 2014, 02:33 PM
Feb 2014

redqueen, that it is probably best if we not get bogged down in labels and terminology.

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