let all those go. good to read. i had to grow up though. we should be teaching our girls. i wish we had the awareness when we were younger. and the support.

I'm hardly surprised to hear you don't need this advice.

I know we probably have quite a few DUers for whom the indoctrination didn't take (both men and women).

May we have more and more with each generation.

i always do it, i just have the tape in my head that apologizes. i will stop that now.

sorry to ask to clarify a question

sorry doing my job

kinda of people, lol?

i have met people like you. and i tell them, dont you dare say you are sorry. nothing to be sorry for. lol.

i hear ya.

i actually find myself scratching my head about what make people thing i am so big and bad. just me being me. i forget that i carry a quiet attitude of "and fuck you if you don't like it."

i hate it when it is cold and people can't see my tattoo-

you had me fooled. i was surprised, but, ya know. whatever.

that is funny.

and that is some tattoo.

I alternate between being too apologetic and this:

And I love the suggested activities.

world and it is his way of pushing his hand on her head, and kneeling her in front of him.

what she is doing, is reinforcing and saying out loud.... fuckin dude, you do not have a chance. and THAT is what pisses him off.

I know a whole lot of men who act as if women are there for men and not for themselves.

The sense of entitlement that many men have, that they seem completely unaware of, is amazing. And my oh my do they get *annoyed* when it is challenged.

we know as a gender that there are those in the other gender that are beyond our reach. women get it, and pretty much leave it at that. but, men expect to have the 10, when they are a mere 5. it is their right.

i have felt, thru my younger years that many mens behavior is because they know they are a mere 5 and this is a way of putting a woman who is out of their reach, in her place.

but then, i absolutely agree with you on what you say.

so this one, i will think about.

thanks.

...it's probably both and many other reasons too. It's not like there is one behavior that applies to "all men". That's insulting and just ridiculous.

(And I know you don't believe there is one behavior that applies to "all men", but sometimes it seems the lurkers aren't clear what we are talking about amongst ourselves.)

i have had different experiences in different communities. so all that is moving around in my brain. but, we cannot really get into the nitty gritty of it all.