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MissMillie

(38,562 posts)
Sun Aug 18, 2019, 04:58 PM Aug 2019

My sister gave me a heartbreaking report about Mom today

Two days in a row she has not wanted to get out of bed.

Not only that, on Thursday, Mom told one of our neighbors who was visiting her that she had spent the whole afternoon talking on the phone w/ her mother.

My mom's mother died more than 40 years ago.

I broke down and cried.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not in any kind of denial about her Alzheimer's Disease. But somehow incidents like this just seem to knock me for a loop.

/ end of rant

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My sister gave me a heartbreaking report about Mom today (Original Post) MissMillie Aug 2019 OP
Yeah, they do. Get some support wherever you can. TreasonousBastard Aug 2019 #1
I don't think that is unusual. I've had it happen with parents and in-laws over the years. Frustratedlady Aug 2019 #2
And it is tough. My grandfather had altzheimers too. After not making sense applegrove Aug 2019 #3
I am so sorry FM123 Aug 2019 #4
Hugs to you MissMillie--- skylucy Aug 2019 #5
words don't help much... handmade34 Aug 2019 #6
I am so sorry. It's heartbreaking to see someone mentally dying right in front of you. CousinIT Aug 2019 #7
(((hugs)))... samnsara Sep 2019 #8

Frustratedlady

(16,254 posts)
2. I don't think that is unusual. I've had it happen with parents and in-laws over the years.
Sun Aug 18, 2019, 05:04 PM
Aug 2019

My mother-in-law had a wonderful conversation with MY grandmother. She'd only met her once before we were married and that had been over 30 years before. She didn't have Alzheimer's, but was in the process of end-of-life issues.

Same with my father, husband and my husband's aunt.

In a strange way, it can be comforting.

It is hard to lose our parents and there definitely is a process we have to go through.

Hugs.

applegrove

(118,696 posts)
3. And it is tough. My grandfather had altzheimers too. After not making sense
Sun Aug 18, 2019, 05:10 PM
Aug 2019

for a while he piped up one day and remembered the day he got off the boat in Halifax, NS after WWII and saw my grandmother. "And there was my Margaret" he said. Sad disease. Vibes to you.

FM123

(10,053 posts)
4. I am so sorry
Sun Aug 18, 2019, 05:10 PM
Aug 2019

I took care of my mom years ago and she had dementia, and there were days that were just oh so soulcrushing. Sending you love and support

handmade34

(22,756 posts)
6. words don't help much...
Sun Aug 18, 2019, 05:21 PM
Aug 2019

it is good to cry... before my dad died, there were times he seemed pretty normal and then he would do things like angerly insist that my partner stole all of his underwear, and he couldn't be convinced otherwise...

CousinIT

(9,247 posts)
7. I am so sorry. It's heartbreaking to see someone mentally dying right in front of you.
Sun Aug 18, 2019, 07:25 PM
Aug 2019

Do you have friends or a supportive person to talk to IRL? Your sister of course but she's probably in grief as well.

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