Democratic Primaries
Related: About this forumThe 2020 Democrats Were Told to Give a Gift or Ask Forgiveness. Guess What the Women Chose.
It was the last question of the last debate of the year and Elizabeth Warren and Amy Klobuchar, who differ on many policy issues, were united in their answer.Having watched the debate, I was struck by this contrast. And yes, I believe that Amy also did very well in this debate.
It was the last question of the Democratic debate on Thursday, and the candidates were thrown a curveball. They could give a gift to someone else onstage. Or, in the spirit of the season, they could ask for forgiveness.
The men chose to give: an appreciation for teamwork, for example (Tom Steyer), a different vision for the future (Bernie Sanders), a copy of a book (Mr. Sanders and Andrew Yang).
The women chose to seek forgiveness: for being too forceful. Too passionate. Too much.
I know that sometimes I get really worked up, and sometimes I get a little hot, Senator Elizabeth Warren of Massachusetts said. She didnt really mean to, she said. It was just that she heard so many voters painful stories every day.
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Senator Amy Klobuchar of Minnesota, for her part, wanted to ask for forgiveness any time any of you get mad at me. She could be blunt, she said. But I am doing this because I think it is so important to pick the right candidate here.
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These responses, in the final minutes of a two-and-a-half-hour debate, threw into stark relief a dynamic that is not often so visible. Many women feel a sense of obligation, reinforced by daily double standards, to apologize for taking up space. Physical space. Political space. Rhetorical space.
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I know that the NYT has a paywall, but I still seem to have some free articles left there. This is a worthwhile article and very much worth thinking about.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
Sherman A1
(38,958 posts)I much prefer the town hall format where everyone gets a half hour to discuss the given topic instead of these dog and pony shows.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)And I truly hope the DNC never, ever, ever goes this route again.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
napi21
(45,806 posts)One thing that sticks in my mind was when Yang was the first candidate called on with that last question about a gift or apology. He kinda stared into the camera , took a deep breath, and said WOW! You could tell he was really caught off guard with that question. He then went on to offer everyone a book. I guess somebody had to be first and I suspect all the candidates would have been similarly caught off guard. Too bad there can only be one "first".
I didn't notice at the time what the NYT pointed out as the diff. between the men & the women. I find that disconcerting. Although the women on that stage always appear to be tough, inside they are still feeling less adequate than the men. Hmmmmmm...
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
List left
(595 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Lexee
(377 posts)Especially being passionate or even moving toward anger. Even if it is about people going hungry or dying.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
BlueMTexpat
(15,369 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
BlueMTexpat
(15,369 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
catrose
(5,068 posts)We all can use forgiveness for something, but only women need forgiveness for being themselves.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
napi21
(45,806 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
BlueMTexpat
(15,369 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
List left
(595 posts)The inability to be self reflective is a weakness. Why frame this as a shortcoming on the women's part? What we have now in the oval office is an extreme example of one* with the inability to be self reflective. wanting women to take that standard is in my opinion going the wrong direction. These are powerful women made stronger and more resilient for this ability.
tRump
* On reflection maybe all of his lackeys as well.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
BlueMTexpat
(15,369 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
question everything
(47,487 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
bucolic_frolic
(43,182 posts)Trumpers and dominant macho men will consider women's answers "neurotic" (if the men know the word), or just like 'the little lady'.
And clipped here or there, edited for "clarity", the answers will make great sound bites - for Kevin McCarthy Republicanism!
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
SMC22307
(8,090 posts)It was a truly stupid idea to drag out this process for so long.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
ehrnst
(32,640 posts)The ability to learn from one's mistakes first requires that one acknowledges that one is capable of making a mistake...
But by all means, sell that book.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
cwydro
(51,308 posts)Stupid.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden