Democratic Primaries
Related: About this forumAs a gay man, Pete Buttigieg's campaign meant the world to me.
Buttigieg and Biden were the only two campaigns I donated to.
As some of you know, I'd been torn between my passion for Pete and the practicality of a Biden candidacy. After talking with friends last night, I decided to vote for Pete on Tuesday because I longed my whole life to vote for a gay man for President.
I can't speak for all members of the LGBT community, but I can speak for me.
I grew up in a town where alcohol was illegal and where being gay could get you killed. I still see a therapist each Tuesday and discuss school bullying that left me with both mental scars and physical scars.
In the mid 2000's I witnessed a gay man stabbed outside a gay club in NC. We called 911 on my phone. It was a red phone and the droplets of blood blended in with the paint. There was so much blood. I remember that so vividly. He had on white pants and there was just... so much blood. I remember thinking, 'I can't believe how much they hate us when we never hated them.'
I wanted to do things in politics but never did because the rest of the world saw being gay as a stain that could never wash out.
I never thought I'd see the change I've seen in my lifetime. Never.
I cried the night of the Iowa caucuses.
What Pete did was bigger than politics. He gave me the hope that, somewhere out there, some kid in some small town might see him speak at a rally, or on TV, and it would help them through their day.
Thank you, Pete Buttigieg. May you be remembered for this forever.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
blm
(113,063 posts)And a historic......beginnng.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Rorey
(8,445 posts)And because of what he accomplished, progress will accelerate. You can count on that.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
patphil
(6,180 posts)This is just the beginning of what I think will be a long, and successful political career for him.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
forgotmylogin
(7,529 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
Moderateguy
(945 posts)I never thought that Id see a gay person even consider running for President let alone do so well....
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
Fresh_Start
(11,330 posts)and for that I am very grateful.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Codeine
(25,586 posts)to cast votes for Pete in the future. Hes great, and he will be a leader.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
frazzled
(18,402 posts)Not just for the symbolic pride in seeing a talented gay man go so far, and comport himself so beautifully throughout. He gave me hope for the future, for the generation to come. He represents my kids generation, and he is exactly what I would want for them. (My son, holding one of his own new twin infants today, told me Pete was his first choice, too.)
Im sorry for what you had to endure. I hope you can see how much you are respected when you think about the way the public embraced this stellar gay man and his husband.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Dem2theMax
(9,651 posts)All I can say is, 'what she said.'
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Demsrule86
(68,582 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
FM123
(10,053 posts)that meant a lot to us too.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Funtatlaguy
(10,878 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Wounded Bear
(58,662 posts)Looking forward to where he goes from here.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
MLAA
(17,296 posts)I think Mayor Pete is a hero for LGBTQ community and for all of us who appreciate intelligence and decency in a candidate. 😊
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
customerserviceguy
(25,183 posts)ahead of him. And, he won't just sit there on the shelf, waiting for his next opportunity to grab the brass ring. His classiness in handling his withdrawal from the race will be remembered forever.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Glorfindel
(9,730 posts)musicblind...very eloquently, and I appreciate it. Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that a gay man or woman could accomplish as much or rise as far as Mayor Pete has done. And he has done it all with poise, charm, and grace. I hope and expect to witness great things from him in the future!
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Crowman2009
(2,497 posts)Mike Pence's head will explode!
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
3catwoman3
(24,005 posts)Searingly intelligent. Calm. Compassionate. Able to reason and think on his feet.
I would have voted for him in a heartbeat, and hope there will be opportunities in the future to do just that.
Well done, sir.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Kablooie
(18,634 posts)And he won't be opposed by someone who does nothing but parrot gay stereotypes.
The future may not be here yet but it's coming.
He's not done and neither are you.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Corgigal
(9,291 posts)I just wanted the smartest person.
The rest, blech..
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
Piasladic
(1,160 posts)And yeah, he was a smart one. Now, I'm all in for another sharp one, E. Warren.
Go Dems!
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
orleans
(34,053 posts)i felt kinda bad when steyer left but i feel worse that pete left--so soon
i still hadn't decided who to vote for but i liked the fact that people had all those choices
and i liked pete. while steyer wasn't really a consideration pete definitely was.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Amaryllis
(9,524 posts)have had a special place in my heart for queer kids. I have thought so many times of how wonderful for those kids for Pete to be up there as an openly gay married man, so articulate, displaying so much integrity, and making it as far as he did. His campaign accomplished so much, and was so well worth it. You are so right, that what he did was so much bigger than politics.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
PatrickforO
(14,576 posts)gay people. I've never understood why people hate them so. Or other minorities, women, anyone different.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Warpy
(111,267 posts)were all treated as serious Democratic candidates. Nobody asked Harris or Warren for cookie recipes, nobody is grilling Bloomberg or Sanders about taking Jewish holidays and every Saturday off, what about that 3 AM pone call? This has been a pretty amazing season for our party.
There is nothing we can do about that other party, but I'm damned proud of ours.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
LisaM
(27,813 posts)First party to nominate a Catholic (Al Smith), first party to put a woman on the ticket, first party to put a Jewish person on the ticket, first party to give a primary victory to a gay person.
I'm really proud of all this, and how in the few decades since Ferraro in 1984 we've made this the norm.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin
(108,010 posts)He's an articulate man who's walked the talk (unlike Cadet Bonespurs). Hope to see and hear from him again. He's what the Democratic party needs more of.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Mazeltov Cocktail
(569 posts)Mayor Pete is a brave and intelligent man, the fact that he is gay makes him amazingly brave, a combat veteran makes him amazingly brave, I hope we see more of this extraordinarily brave young man.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Snake Plissken
(4,103 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Celerity
(43,399 posts)me, and his being a pioneer for all of us made me adore him.
So damn proud!!!
We will NEVER go back, EVER, fuck the haters, the MAGAt thugs, the ultra hypocritical fundie scum!!!!
NEVER AGAIN
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Hekate
(90,708 posts)We've seen a lot of changes in our lifetimes, that's all, and seeing Obama become POTUS was wonderful beyond words. Seeing Pete B get this far in the midst of the ugliness that is Trump gives us such a lift.
As both Buttegieg and Obama would say, out of the heart of their religious tradition: redemption is possible. There is hope for this nation.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
localroger
(3,626 posts)I loved Pete and had his picture under my posts until today. He was sensible, well spoken, and smart. He struck me in the same way Obama did in the early days of his camaign, being able to take a negative and deftly spin it around to his advantage in a speech or debate. He's young and I look forward to seeing him on the national stage again so I can finally vote for him. Oh, and I love the unashamed relationship he has with Chasten. Would that more heterosexual couples could do that so well.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
thegoose
(3,115 posts)Thank you. I mourn for the end of Pete's attempt, but I also love what he's accomplished.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
RandySF
(58,884 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
DarthDem
(5,255 posts)The story of the poor man's stabbing you told is so moving. I'm sorry you were there to see that but glad you were there to help. Did he survive?
I caught myself near the end of debates I watched this cycle suddenly remembering (typically in response to his closing statement) that Buttigieg is gay. His preferences simply didn't define him. He was just another very qualified person (with an astonishing debate skillset) running for president. His private preferences don't matter to right-thinking people and he helped promote that understanding among, I hope, countless young people everywhere.
From a practical standpoint and as a Biden supporter, I really admire his decision to end his campaign today. He wants to see Trump defeated and realized that the best way to assist that effort was to bow out.
I would like him to run for governor or U.S. senator in Indiana.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
blakstoneranger
(333 posts)And we lost him. Why, from what I hear it's because he's gay. Chicago Ill has a gay female mayor. Who voted for her? Blacks and Latinos. I think the media and these polling companies are really controlling the outcome of this election. They want trump. Now we're stuck with two old dudes, both of whom could croak before November (sanders already had a mild heart attack). And then there's the two females neither of them are as popular as the other candidates and they face the same stupid discrimination bias as buttigieg. Trump must be jumping for joy. He may croak before November too! Why do they want trump, why?
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
GulfCoast66
(11,949 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Duppers
(28,125 posts)So much so that I kinda choked a bit reading it aloud to my hubby. I don't understand the hate.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
ramen
(790 posts)Buttigieg would have an easy vote from me. He is well-reasoned, well-spoken, and well-tempered. I would love to see a 2024 run from him.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Soxfan58
(3,479 posts)To change the rights wings stereotype of gay men. We have not seen the last of Mayor Pete. Hes the parties future.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
sinkingfeeling
(51,457 posts)May he hold a higher office and run for president again.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Jamastiene
(38,187 posts)It is Hell on Earth to be gay here, STILL, to this day.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Skidmore
(37,364 posts)I want to see what he grows into.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
dsc
(52,162 posts)I can relate to your post on so many levels. I may well not live to see an LGBTQ president. I would be 76 by the time frame Jackson to Obama suggests. But seeing what I did, and when I did, I also thought I would never live to see.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
MarianJack
(10,237 posts)...I've always liked Mayor Pete. I hope we see more of him.
RESIST!
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
dawn5651
(604 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
aikoaiko
(34,170 posts)primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
calimary
(81,298 posts)Im one of many who was impressed with Mayor Pete. Once you started listening to him, what he said, how he said it, how much he knew and understood and had given thought to and aimed for, his personal life faded farther and farther into the background.
I liked his intellect and his way of assessing things. And I REALLY like his youth - he has a LOT of time to build for the future. He made a mighty impressive debut on the national stage, and he made a good impression on a lot of America. And he earned that. He has nowhere to go but up.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Marthe48
(16,963 posts)When Clinton started his campaign, he was back in the pack, and I didn't think he was going to amount to anything. But he methodically worked his way out of the crowd to the lead and then had a great 2 term Presidency. I think Mr. Buttigieg has that kind of political ability. I like him especially because he is young, canny, and decent. I saw a picture of him the other day, and I thought he looked like JFK.
I hope that he remains on our political stage, even if for now he helps shape policy. We need young energetic people as much as we need experienced old-timers.
On a personal note, I hope your life is easier as time goes on, and you are surrounded by people who love you and appreciate your abilities.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Initech
(100,079 posts)And I look forward to seeing what he is going to do next!
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
musicman65
(524 posts)For Pete saying and meaning the right things,will give Him part in our future,He made noise and people heard it
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
wryter2000
(46,051 posts)He's young and so incredibly talented. He'll be back. We'll get to vote for him again.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
rampartc
(5,408 posts)o'm sure he'll have a great job in the next administration.
primary today, I would vote for: Undecided
Karadeniz
(22,527 posts)For your movement. He opened minds favorably...that's a success story!❤
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
Chainfire
(17,542 posts)I was proud, as a straight man, that Pete was able to go as far as he did. He is young and talented, I am convinced that he will go far in American politics. Times have changed!
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
lambchopp59
(2,809 posts)I can only echo your sentiments. I was a bit bowled over hearing he'd won the Iowa caucus.
Having to resort to extreme measures to ensure my safety from the Westboro and other "religious" ilk in a small town in 1976, I also struggle with some PTSD issues. I was under a terribly poor impression of rural midwestern small towns I can't help. Not that I'd seek out any of the homophobic mob who tortured me to see if any of them have changed.
There's a fairly accurate picture I have of most of them, the ones who aren't serving time that is, of Red-hatted MAGA nutjobs complaining about socialism while collecting their S.S. disability checks. Well armed, angry fools who think they need to be armed to the teeth for when Ru Paul comes to force them to wear dresses and makeup, listening to the latest pResidential Medal of Freedom recipient rant on their front porch radios. Certainly enough looking at the 2016 election results map of that area, they went for Trump.... only a tiny sliver of blue.
The perfect nightmare scenario for me, far scarier than any Freddy Krooger or Nosferatu. Although I do keep a quart of blood in the fridge for the latter since he lives nearbly and looks really hungry most of the time.
It's about time that Pete, Barney Frank and so many other openly LGBT public figures ripped back the evil veneer the radical homophobes want to project onto us. It's so satisfying watching some who previously had many Americans convinced we were so horrible discovering we're not the monsters their hate-filled preachers made us out to be... Quite the opposite, and some of those so called community leaders amount to nothing but greedy, self-serving Nazi's.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden
warmfeet
(3,321 posts)Pete is a good person. We need him. I don't think he is done just yet.
primary today, I would vote for: Joe Biden