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In reply to the discussion: Just ripped a co-worker. Now I feel terrible. [View all]busterbrown
(8,515 posts)142. I hope everything remains well with your family...
However Im done...
Ill leave you with this. No one can be certain of anything. And if my son were to end up in Jail with D.U.I
Id be down in a heartbeat, you leaving him in jail might not turn out to the lesson you think it would be..
Tough love can certainly work..But it can also lead to terrible consequences under certain circumstances...
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Boosterisim, which is what happened here, is more like an absence of partiarchy
Mopar151
Mar 2013
#78
Remember that you have limits, and that today she violated them. You are HUMAN.
CaliforniaPeggy
Mar 2013
#3
I can understand how it would be really hard to remain calm and level headed when...
love_katz
Mar 2013
#5
Actually, I believe the reports on Steubenville indicated that Jane Doe vomited.
spooky3
Mar 2013
#87
She sure didn't express herself well. Maybe she thinks that people of all genders didn't
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#6
The adults who permitted, condoned, and encouraged the drinking are criminals.
lapislzi
Mar 2013
#15
Your right. I just don't get where were the parents that owned the homes this was going on?
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#19
"There was enough blame to go around" <-- Yep, that girl should never ever be alone with a guy!!
bettyellen
Mar 2013
#36
Hey Betty, I think I have a right to my opinion just like you have your right to yours.
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#58
"If she had been sober she could have punch the guy and left had he tried something."<--Rape Culture
bettyellen
Mar 2013
#59
Well Betty Guess whatever you say is fine. Rape culture. Ok whatever. One thing
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#62
Sorry, I stand by my opinion. You stand by yours. I am not blaming her for being raped.
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#65
You kidding? Grow Up. Last time I checked this forum is a DISCUSSION forum. It doesn't
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#83
She got drunk cause that’s what many do at her age. Just because you didn’t drink, don’t start
busterbrown
Mar 2013
#95
Well now you see what happens when a person isn't in control because they were drinking.
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#102
I am living in reality sweetie pie. So you think it is ok for teens to go out and drink and act
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#121
No I don’t think its o.k...... I just know it happens and there is not a thing you can...
busterbrown
Mar 2013
#131
You live in your reality of kids doing things that are illegal and I will live in mine. I am no
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#136
Well I dunno. I am not saying am perfect. Not at all. But I will tell you this much if
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#139
Yes, I'm kind of tired too. We all had some say and we can leave it at that. Thanks for
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#144
I think they deserve to sit in jail for raping the girl. To me all am trying to say that
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#80
On the contrary I think the parents should be in jail for allowing them to have booze at the house.
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#103
Let me get this straight, a girl goes to a couple of parties with who she thinks are friends...
Humanist_Activist
Mar 2013
#86
I have no idea about this whole case what really went down. Neither do you. So say all
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#125
So you think you know everything? I doubt it. No one really knows what happened.
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#140
I AM NOT BLAMING THE GIRL FOR BEING RAPED. PERIOD, END OF THE FUCKING STORY. I SO
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#143
Well lets face the facts if NONE OF THEM had been drinking this wouldn't have happened.
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#150
Have a good day mercuryblues. I'm not trying to change anyone's mind. It's
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#152
Let it go mercuryblue. I agree if she was slipped something she didn't know it is a
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#154
Well I sure see your point and as far as am concerned the girls are just as guilty as the
southernyankeebelle
Mar 2013
#123
There's probably nothing wrong with continuing the conversation on a different level.
randome
Mar 2013
#8
If you want people to understand you, it is helpful to understand them, because they react as
patrice
Mar 2013
#12
I do hear you. I think if we start from a place of common ground we might make some headway.
lapislzi
Mar 2013
#18
Exactly! And one thing that, to me, always breaks what appears to be a dead-heat between two points
patrice
Mar 2013
#31
we haven't broken those cognitive links here at DU, even on this thread there's plenty of blame for
bettyellen
Mar 2013
#37
Great..such a relief. .. I feel so sorry the girl...just wanted to check was she
nenagh
Mar 2013
#41
Sounds like a young lady who knows which side her bread is buttered on
alcibiades_mystery
Mar 2013
#43
"She is not especially well-liked, is known for being a whiner and not a team player"
alcibiades_mystery
Mar 2013
#84
I posted my reply at the bottom before I read this. Congrats to you and your coworker!
McCamy Taylor
Mar 2013
#99
Tired of hearing about rape culture? Guess what. I'm tired of living in it. So very tired.
seabeyond
Mar 2013
#26
+1 I thought we had done away with the Scarlet Lettering of people long ago.
Live and Learn
Mar 2013
#94
This is why places like DU are vital. Keep on fighting the good fight.
SleeplessinSoCal
Mar 2013
#48
OK, I'm a "child of the sixties," which doesn't mean things were wild and promiscuous in most of the
maddiemom
Mar 2013
#50
There are all kinds of ways you could have talked to her about this. Sadly, you would probably have
Iris
Mar 2013
#54
Survivors need to quit the fuck apologizing for denouncing rape-in any form.
MichiganVote
Mar 2013
#82
You feel terrible, because you were raped. And because society says "Get over it"
McCamy Taylor
Mar 2013
#98
I would not feel terrible in the least ... sometimes what you did is what it takes, and in
RKP5637
Mar 2013
#104