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In reply to the discussion: Is it okay for a 18 year old to have sex with a 14 year old [View all]MineralMan
(146,375 posts)There is not enough information in the OP for me to make a complete judgment. I assumed this was about those two girls, but that was not stated.
Also, the difference between OK and illegal is a large difference. I think it is poor judgment for 18 year olds to have sex with 14 year olds, but I wouldn't criminalize it, as long as both were still in high school. I didn't turn 18 until the summer after my senior year, but some kids were 18 during that senior year.
At 17, I was sexually active with my 15 year old girlfriend, and I know of several other couples with the same age difference who were also sexually active. Some are still married, and I graduated in 1963. My girlfriend and I had already been a couple for a year before we engaged in actual intercourse.
Was it a good idea? I dunno, frankly. Probably not. But, it happened nevertheless. A couple of years ago, I heard from my old high school girlfriend. We discussed our early sexual activity in emails, almost 50 years after the fact. As she put it, "I was as eager to have sex as you were. It was a lovely, gentle relationship. No problems as far as I'm concerned."
So, there's one point of data. It happened. It happens a lot in that high school age group, even back then. I guess it depends on the people involved, really.