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In reply to the discussion: I was raped this week, ask me anything [View all]The point of this thread is to pick apart my thought process so others may know or learn how to approach the subject.
I do not expect my reaction is typical or acceptable. It's not meant to be. It's just information to make people think or understand.
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I have no question but one--are you getting the help you need to deal with this trauma? nt
MADem
Dec 2013
#2
Funny thing about stoicism; it's a short term fix, but long haul, eh, not so much.
MADem
Dec 2013
#22
If you know of a crisis center nearby, maybe you should think about calling or dropping in.
MADem
Dec 2013
#86
I just want to say the advice from Chan790, MAdem, and pnwmom are what makes this site worth it's
adirondacker
Dec 2013
#188
Trust me being stoic isn't nearly enough I'm a male I was raped as a child
Arcanetrance
Dec 2013
#134
How incredibly kind of you to make a victim of rape responsible for rape. Disgusting.
idwiyo
Dec 2013
#148
I repeat: your post is disgusting. Prism, please ignore this crap, and accept my apologies.
idwiyo
Dec 2013
#152
I also did not report my rape over 20 years ago. And i find the suggestion that Prism is somehow
peacebird
Dec 2013
#204
Only a total scum will ever suggest something like it. I am sorry you had to read this shit.
idwiyo
Dec 2013
#209
I agree it was tasteless to say that on this thread. You should be more sensitive to the topic here.
nomorenomore08
Dec 2013
#201
An agenda wrapped in the veneer of a "fair question" might be more accurate
LanternWaste
Dec 2013
#244
There have been a large number of threads recently about pornography simulating rape and possibly
sibelian
Dec 2013
#159
There have been few times when a post of yours has taken me aback. This is one of them.
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#180
i think the way you are looking at this is wrong regardless of whether you report him
JI7
Dec 2013
#27
in the end, you have to do what is right for you regardless, if you want to move on as long as you
loli phabay
Dec 2013
#49
i am going to tell you from experience , whatever you decide to do as long as its your decision is t
loli phabay
Dec 2013
#68
Do you blame yourself somewhat, for putting yourself in a position of vulnerability?
Electric Monk
Dec 2013
#37
You didn't ask to be raped. Being drunk doesn't mean "open season" for rapists. I'd press charges.
Electric Monk
Dec 2013
#105
"You will not be ruining his life if you turn him in. He is ruining his own life by being a rapist."
Matariki
Dec 2013
#203
If he had done this to someone you love, would you be giving him the same benefit of the doubt?
Squinch
Dec 2013
#171
this would be the problem if you do report it, though i believe you it gets into the he said he said
loli phabay
Dec 2013
#118
While certainly good points, there is also the issue of how this could affect Prism.
Behind the Aegis
Dec 2013
#122
I often disagree with what you write but in this case, you hit it dead on. +10000
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#184
You are what matters. If he chose to do something wrong, that was his choice. HE chose to ruin
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#182
You should, at the VERY least, insist on proof that he has a clean bill of health.
PassingFair
Dec 2013
#178
I know I speak for many here when I say we support you and we want you to stick around.
Bjorn Against
Dec 2013
#21
I honestly can't comprehend the pain you must be feeling but I hope this helps in some way....
Rowdyboy
Dec 2013
#34
If you can talk to him...Tell him first hand what a dispicable act he has done to you and
Auntie Bush
Dec 2013
#191
A mnemonic device I've learned to describe the stages of the grieving process is: HAD BAD
Electric Monk
Dec 2013
#111
As a fellow host, LadyHawkAZ, has said, there is a group here if you need it.
Behind the Aegis
Dec 2013
#85
Very, very sorry Prism. I would echo what others have said and hope that you are doing what
Warren DeMontague
Dec 2013
#117
Are you really OK? It's not my place to judge or even know your answer -- but you owe it to yourself
struggle4progress
Dec 2013
#143
I'm so sorry you were subjected to such a horrible experience. It happened to me many years ago
louslobbs
Dec 2013
#194
^^^^This! Right now, your brain is distancing you from it. That is a good protection, and
Squinch
Dec 2013
#208
Wow, the not reporting it part is an issue with me. Why worry about ruining their life??? n-t
Logical
Dec 2013
#206
The impact of the decision on his own life merits (at least) equal consideration. n/t
lumberjack_jeff
Dec 2013
#207
Reading this thread it is clear that members not only take male rape seriously
BainsBane
Dec 2013
#240
I just recced for wider exposure. I didn't know whether to rec for that or if it'd be taken as appro
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#221
I think rec is largely used to express approval for whatever sentiment the post appears to express.
sibelian
Dec 2013
#228
Prism I have stayed out of this thread for fear of not really knowing what to say to you.
William769
Dec 2013
#222