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In reply to the discussion: Is the LGBT Group meeting your needs? [View all]

Duncan Grant

(8,298 posts)
31. Not really meeting my needs at this time.
Wed May 30, 2012, 06:29 PM
May 2012

Open discussion and the free exchange of ideas was difficult in a thread I recently started about NSFW posts. I had hoped for a thoughtful discussion free from the notion that some were "right" and others were "wrong". It was inquiry on my part; not disruption or friction (as has been alleged). In that thread, a lesbian was insulted and treated with contempt. Two people and one former host objected publicly to the hostility directed toward her. There was too much silence about the offending post. It deserved universal condemnation.

Secondly, it seems to me a small number of hosts are too defensive in their responses to other members (see this thread). And then there was the pinned thread concerning "concern" -- so unnecessary, imho.

From my perspective, there seems to be a shortage of lesbians, trans, and people of color posting to this group. I'd like to see a little more unity toward creating a space that welcomes more people and points of view. I'll ally with anyone who wants to lend some energy to that effort.

Finally, no one needs to have a defensive response to this post or any other in this thread. People are recounting their own experiences here -- and there's room for everyone.



I am mostly satisfied. Fearless May 2012 #1
I would really like to see... WillParkinson May 2012 #2
I'm pretty happy with the Group. William769 May 2012 #3
As an ally susanr516 May 2012 #5
Feel free to say hi sometimes though! Fearless May 2012 #26
As an avid reader and fan of your posts... Amimnoch May 2012 #32
I'm happy that your happy. William769 May 2012 #34
i like the group a lot irisblue May 2012 #4
Prior to Ms. Toad May 2012 #6
I will bring up word for word what you have just said with the hosts Fearless May 2012 #7
Thank you. n/t Ms. Toad May 2012 #8
That about covers it. Well said. yardwork May 2012 #9
i too think the beefcake thread issue was minor La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #11
honestly when the hosting votes were being cast, i remember saying La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #10
In regards to the gender divide, we have taken actions to fix this... Fearless May 2012 #12
Well I know i have been asked, but I am still not happy that the first 6 hosts are males La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #13
This really needs to stop. William769 May 2012 #14
no, it doesn't need to stop. its a conversation about privilege that needs to be had La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #16
Go for it. You were given a chance you turned it down. William769 May 2012 #17
Why are you being so aggressive about this? if you didn't want to have this conversation La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #19
I agree. Thank you for saying so. (nt) Duncan Grant May 2012 #29
Good points. Zorra May 2012 #15
I am not saying that the order was deliberately exclusive La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #20
A brief comment... Fearless May 2012 #21
He removed you as host from the HIV/AIDS forum? JackBeck May 2012 #22
.. La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #23
Hey Jack! Puglover May 2012 #30
Yeah, I know what you were saying about the exclusive/inclusive thing. Zorra May 2012 #24
i didnt mean to imply you were naive La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #25
Indeed. Zorra May 2012 #27
+1 Fearless May 2012 #28
Thank you! Ms. Toad May 2012 #18
Some belated support for you jumptheshadow Jun 2012 #38
Thank you for the support Ms. Toad Jun 2012 #43
Not really meeting my needs at this time. Duncan Grant May 2012 #31
There is most definitely room for everyone! +1 Fearless May 2012 #33
Good post. I agree with what you're saying. yardwork May 2012 #35
Excellent points. DURHAM D Jun 2012 #37
You raised a reasonable point of discussion jumptheshadow Jun 2012 #39
I love this forum Marrah_G Jun 2012 #36
I believe LLP and William769 worked things out between them. Jamastiene Jun 2012 #40
wonderful!!! Marrah_G Jun 2012 #42
I have mixed feelings jumptheshadow Jun 2012 #41
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