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In reply to the discussion: Richard Dawkins under fire for ‘mild pedophilia’ remarks [View all]chervilant
(8,267 posts)I am NOT absolutely convinced of ANYTHING regarding you. I am simply sharing with you the research-supported continuum of responses commonly found among survivors. I DID say that I wondered if you have fond memories of the experience you described, or if it is one of the less savory memories from your childhood. Only you can determine that, and it's a personal experience, no matter what you choose to share.
And, you may not realize that you are implicitly "blaming" others who've survived abuse, but when you state that it "really, really, really didn't bother me at the time," the implication seems to be that other survivors might ought to suck it up and get over it.
One of my sisters, who was abused by the same guy who abused me for most of my childhood, said to me, "I didn't let Horace get to me!" The hidden message for me was: "like you did!" But, that's my personal experience.
You seem mighty defensive about your experience, and your perceptions about your experience. Again, how you deal with that is a personal odyssey. However, NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON who uses a child for their own sexual gratification should get a pass from consequences for that crime, because the vast majority of survivors have the range of responses that I described herein above (which has caused you to react so defensively).