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In reply to the discussion: Are you planning to have children (procreate)? [View all]jeff47
(26,549 posts)but more of a change in attitude as I finished transitioning to adulthood.
When you're a kid, stuff just happens. That still goes on when you're a teenager - school just progresses without any direction from you. And of course you're going to go to college, so you do. And then you graduate and of course you'll get a decent job.
And then that last one doesn't just happen. You suddenly have to start working to make stuff happen. However, nobody really talks about that enormous transition, or does any effort to make it a transition. Heck, even in college a large portion of your classes are chosen for you and advisers/professors/etc shove you forward.
As a result, there's a major shock when progress doesn't happen on its own. At first, it's easy to fall into the hell-in-a-handbasket response because up until that point progress has "just happened", at least from your perspective. You didn't realize just how much other people were working to make that progress happen.
Eventually you either fall into despair or you realize you need to be the one who makes progress happen.