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In reply to the discussion: Are you planning to have children (procreate)? [View all]pnwmom
(109,039 posts)and so there isn't any financial incentive to make sure adoptions go through.
There are babies and children who need homes. While it is important to be cautious, and to check the background of the non-profit agency you're dealing with, people shouldn't be scared away from US adoptions because of the fears you've mentioned.
There are two adopted children in my extended family and in both cases it is the birth mother, not the adoptive parents, who have chosen to not have contact -- for now. Maybe the birth mothers will change their mind over time; and if they do, that will be fine. One of these adoptees was adopted through an organization whose mission is helping young women keep their babies, and the vast majority of them do so. But every year some decide on adoption, and they are given assistance with this decision. The other adoptee came into the family when her birth mother, an adult woman in her 30's, read an ad from the prospective parents in the newspaper. No pressure was involved in that situation, either.
There were bad practices in the past, especially in the 50's - 70's. But there is no longer the same kind of social pressure on girls to give up their babies, and it is the best personal choice for some.