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StevieM

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129. I think we all have an obligation to pass along knowledge we have pertaining to an injustice.

Sun Aug 31, 2014, 11:24 PM

Aug 2014

Last edited Mon Sep 1, 2014, 12:18 AM - Edit history (1)

You're welcome. And thank you for your story below. Too many people don't realize what often happens in these situations until it happens to them.

The Baby Camden story is ongoing, and the battle continues. Here is the latest update.

http://www.adoptionbirthmothers.com/no-justice-today-for-baby-camden/

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Are you planning to have children (procreate)? [View all] WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 OP

I want to adopt. shenmue Aug 2014 #1

That makes 100% to me so I'm changing my OP WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #2

If you plan on adopting I hope you will remember a few things. StevieM Aug 2014 #97

Who are you? shenmue Aug 2014 #98

I am someone who has empathy for birth mothers and the life-long grief they often go through. StevieM Aug 2014 #102

"adoption agencies are often ruthless in their efforts to procure babies." Do you have a link pnwmom Aug 2014 #112

Here is a story worth reading (and I replied to your other post below too) StevieM Aug 2014 #117

I read every word and am in tears and am outraged. mimi85 Aug 2014 #122

I think we all have an obligation to pass along knowledge we have pertaining to an injustice. StevieM Aug 2014 #129

It's true. No link needed. mimi85 Aug 2014 #118

Crisis pregnancy centers are pure evil. And they deliberately deceive the mother-to-be StevieM Aug 2014 #127

+ 1 lunasun Aug 2014 #113

Non-profit adoption agencies don't depend on profits from adoptions pnwmom Aug 2014 #101

Many adoption agencies are still profit-making institutions. StevieM Aug 2014 #103

"Many"? You've smeared all adoption agencies with your comments. pnwmom Aug 2014 #111

It was my intention to smear all adoption agencies. StevieM Aug 2014 #115

Of course a for-profit agency wants people to think there is no difference. pnwmom Aug 2014 #120

I provided the link to the for-profit agency because you raised doubt as to whether they truly exist StevieM Aug 2014 #131

I never said they didn't exist. You said that they were all after profits, and that isn't true. pnwmom Sep 2014 #135

Here is what you said: StevieM Sep 2014 #137

Why did you say "It was my intention to smear all adoption agencies"? pnwmom Sep 2014 #138

Because it was. I meant it exactly as it sounded. StevieM Sep 2014 #139

While you may be right - there are many children PumpkinAle Aug 2014 #132

I agree that there children who genuinely need homes....but the adoption industry doesn't focus StevieM Aug 2014 #133

No frazzled Aug 2014 #3

Fair enough WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #5

FWIW, I was plagued with similar feelings when I was pregnant Arkansas Granny Aug 2014 #4

Ha! Did not see that coming! WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #9

Same here. With my third laundry_queen Aug 2014 #24

With 4 kids, you no doubt... 3catwoman3 Aug 2014 #42

HA laundry_queen Aug 2014 #50

If I were raising our sons again... 3catwoman3 Aug 2014 #72

I chose my username in light of back-to-back... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #61

I don't plan to raise children. Most children are wonderful, I like them but have no... BlueJazz Aug 2014 #6

Nope ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2014 #7

Have been through that, twice WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #11

It's possible ProudToBeBlueInRhody Aug 2014 #25

Had my baby girl on April 16th this year Puzzledtraveller Aug 2014 #8

Being part of the solution WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #14

Was married 13 years cilla4progress Aug 2014 #81

We are hopeful for at least 2 LittleBlue Aug 2014 #10

More competitive... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #15

Same here LittleBlue Aug 2014 #20

If we as a people could learn to be OK... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #23

Yep. I'm not competitive and do all right, but I don't want to have to watch Iris Aug 2014 #39

They're 1 and 3 years old. jeff47 Aug 2014 #12

Are you in your 20s? WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #18

Nope, older. jeff47 Aug 2014 #56

Interesting. I suspected you were older just by your response WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #60

I don't know if I'd call it "mellowing" jeff47 Aug 2014 #66

Nicely said. I got whipsawed by life... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #69

Times are always the worst they've ever been. randome Aug 2014 #13

It's interesting that people rarely seem to see their own decision to have children as enough Aug 2014 #31

Well, I do see my decision to have children as part of the problem. randome Aug 2014 #34

Replacement rate is between 2.1 and 2.3 kids. jeff47 Aug 2014 #58

nope......nt Blue_Tires Aug 2014 #16

I've got two teens Arugula Latte Aug 2014 #17

Yeah, people are saying it's always the worst of times... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #21

The biggest - corporations obtaining water rights. Iris Aug 2014 #40

Not anymore. RiffRandell Aug 2014 #19

My dad used to tell us JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #54

Talk about an insult! RiffRandell Aug 2014 #55

Believe it or not - JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #59

I grew up in the Reagan years too. RiffRandell Aug 2014 #63

Mine too! JustAnotherGen Aug 2014 #67

Yep! RiffRandell Aug 2014 #78

That decision was taken out of my hands, so no. Coventina Aug 2014 #22

Sorry about that... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #32

Thanks for your kind response. Coventina Aug 2014 #38

:) I have genes that make me feel irresponsible... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #47

Same here. My mother had no idea what curse her bloodline was carrying. Coventina Aug 2014 #73

I'm sure we're not talking about the same thing... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #79

You're doing the right thing for the planet 4b5f940728b232b034e4 Aug 2014 #77

No. NuclearDem Aug 2014 #26

Me too WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #30

No. (nt) Heidi Aug 2014 #27

Didn't have any because I didn't want to REP Aug 2014 #28

And I've talked to a few "unicorns"... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #29

Well, not really. REP Aug 2014 #33

Good points, all! Thanks WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #36

There was a famous Dear Abby column that asked that question: REP Aug 2014 #44

Facinacting. Those who read Dear Abby... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #45

My mother told us that and meant it. She wasn't a mean mother and valerief Aug 2014 #106

How sad. n/t elias49 Aug 2014 #109

I had a charmed life compared to most kids in the world. And I was poor. nt valerief Aug 2014 #110

I do think, though, we are getting farther away from generations of women who didn't have a choice Iris Aug 2014 #62

And I've talked to people who tell me marions ghost Aug 2014 #35

Well, some of us don't enjoy the company of children REP Aug 2014 #43

What I'm talking about marions ghost Aug 2014 #46

I feel like I've been quarantined... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #51

Exactly marions ghost Aug 2014 #71

I can't stand kids either n/t PasadenaTrudy Aug 2014 #49

I'm a unicorn too, lol. I am childless, turned 59 in June & NEVER regretted it. catbyte Aug 2014 #92

Another unicorn here. betsuni Aug 2014 #107

Nope. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2014 #37

Yeah, too poor to live the banker's American Dream WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #41

Never did breed PasadenaTrudy Aug 2014 #48

Maybe some people don't share your opinion. nt delta17 Aug 2014 #88

Fine by me... n/t PasadenaTrudy Aug 2014 #94

wow, ya think? eShirl Aug 2014 #108

What is your solution? delta17 Sep 2014 #134

no n/t enigmatic Aug 2014 #52

Having children? Warpy Aug 2014 #53

Yeah and I really had no reason to think about that... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #57

Way I look at it, Erich Bloodaxe BSN Aug 2014 #76

Nope. Already have one, and having a teenager and a toddler at the same time sounds unpleasant. LeftyMom Aug 2014 #64

Kids are very perceptive when they are very young... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #82

News to me. And I've got a teenager, and I've worked with kids, I guess I'd know. LeftyMom Aug 2014 #84

I can't debate you on the grounds of anecdotal evidence... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #85

I intend to follow the evolutionary strategy of fathering hundreds of children... Silent3 Aug 2014 #65

Is you name David Crosby by any chance? nt mimi85 Aug 2014 #123

We had two and they finally turned out OK but it took a while tularetom Aug 2014 #68

No, I was too broke when I was young enough. Starry Messenger Aug 2014 #70

No, I never wanted children and now it's too late csziggy Aug 2014 #74

I already did, Blue_In_AK Aug 2014 #75

Hell yeah we are. linuxman Aug 2014 #80

:) WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #83

There are at-home methods you can utilize to influence the gender of the baby (eom) StevieM Aug 2014 #86

I work with some people that try to Disney-fy their kids. Initech Aug 2014 #87

I'm on the fence actually LaDuquesaDeKingston Aug 2014 #89

I officially didn't treestar Aug 2014 #90

Hell no! avebury Aug 2014 #91

Already have...2...and in the past year they've brought great joy to my life elias49 Aug 2014 #93

Have two and am very glad that I have them FreeJoe Aug 2014 #95

My friend and I used to see movies like "The Secret in Their Eyes" WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #105

Nope. Earth_First Aug 2014 #96

My philosphy of children is the same as my philosophy of dogs..... brooklynite Aug 2014 #99

I have two gollygee Aug 2014 #100

We had two as well - TBF Aug 2014 #114

No. Chan790 Aug 2014 #104

I wasn't planning to, but mimi85 Aug 2014 #116

I don't intend to have kids mythology Aug 2014 #119

Many factors went into my decision not to have children WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #121

Are you looking for approval or ? mimi85 Aug 2014 #124

I'm OK that a couple of people don't know... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #125

No - The World Is Headed Toward Catabolic Collapse Through A Slow And Grinding Decline cantbeserious Aug 2014 #126

Nope Prophet 451 Aug 2014 #128

Yeah, I think we've hit on them all for me now... WhaTHellsgoingonhere Aug 2014 #130

I'm just going to continue to practice procreation. Kaleva Sep 2014 #136